Work work with Mad boss
@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
January 25, 2023 8:39pm CST
I have been busy because of work and haven't been able to mylot.
I wasn't able to update and share some thoughts here, but here I am again.
I was thinking of resigning from my work on the next months, since I was designated to the new office, and the boss i was working with was a literally a toxic one..
I don't know if this is a good Idea, but she's been making stuff into big problems.. Like it's just a small thing, and could be fix but she'll go mad and tell me offensive and hurtful words.
Like you would feel that you are small.
I think if I would be with her for more that 6 months or a year, it would be harm on my mental health, cause she's not and her words are not healthy for me.
I know some of you might think that I am not accepting criticism, but trust me, I do. But her way is not an acceptable one. she's mad.
I don't think anyone deserve her words like a mean and hurtful words just to impress others that she have authority on us.
what would you suggest in this situation
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
26 Jan 23
My parents always taught me to never quit a job until I had another one to go to. I don't know how much longer you can hang in there with this terrible boss, but I would start looking for a new job immediately, and if you get one, give your 2 weeks' notice and you will soon be out of there. I am actually not sure where you are from but do they do 2 weeks' notice there? Here in the US it's a common courtesy to give 2 weeks' notice so that the company knows they need to start looking for someone to replace you in 2 weeks. I promise that just starting to look for a new job will lift your spirits. If it is so bad for your mental health that you can't handle it anymore, well, that is a different situation, but I think you need to look for another job asap.
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@DaddyEvil (137458)
• United States
26 Jan 23
She lives in the Philippines and I believe she's required to give 30 days notice before leaving her current job. I'm not positive of that, though. I don't live in the Philippines.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
26 Jan 23
I agree. Look for another job, give an appropriate notice and leave the toxic person in your rear view mirror.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
@Kouponkaren thank you for understanding. I believe I can give a notice but the least is maybe 30 days..
But I think if the mental health is the issue that I'll put in the resignation maybe can do it like immediately..
I can still hang on while I am still looking for another job.
I purposely hoping that maybe, they'll like shuffle the boss that I am working with
@DaddyEvil (137458)
• United States
26 Jan 23
I would have reported what the boss said/did to the boss above her the first time she stepped out of line. Nobody should have to put up with a toxic boss. If there isn't anyone above her in the company, then I would have started looking for a new job as soon as I realized she was mad.
If you can put up with her, start looking before you quit the job. If you can't stand any more, then quit now and hope your family can help you pay the bills until you find somewhere else to work.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
26 Jan 23
I have an app on my phone for recording conversations. I would record what she says (without her noticing). Then report her to her boss. If needed, The recording is your proof of the hurtful things she is saying. It would no longer be your word versus her word. Her own words would be her undoing.
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@DaddyEvil (137458)
• United States
26 Jan 23
@royal52gens Is that allowed in the Philippines? Just quitting and leaving a job isn't allowed there. You have to give 30 days notice in the Philippines.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
Thank's robbie..
there's a boss above her since it's a corporation, one of them is her dad.
Her dad can be persuade by her words also, but he's nice and kind, he hears what people say and ask for suggestions, unlike her daughter.
the other one above her was a sister of her father, which is like the Boss' Boss,. I can't tell anything negative form her, and her family,, they are all super nice and considerate, they care so much for their employees.. This is the reason why I am still hanging on the company,
I think that in the circle of BOSS', my boss right now is the solely mean.
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@sjvg1976 (41289)
• Delhi, India
31 Jan 23
Most of us have that problem when we work in the corporate world. I also have a toxic boss who shouts for even the small fault. I don't understand why he always neglects the faults he does and pinpoints others. I have been working with this same boss for the last 7 years but have been tolerating him for these years.
But it is not a solution to quit when you don't have another source of income. You should also not leave but should complain about it to the higher management and hope they may ask her to change her attitude.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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3 Feb 23
I got your point. Thanks for the advice..
I am now waiting for a call, but I don't know when will it be, so for the mean time, I'll stay here.
I would gladly tell it to the higher ups, the problem is when they talk about her attitude, maybe things will get much more worst
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@RebeccasFarm (90295)
• Arvada, Colorado
26 Jan 23
I hope you can find another job..this one sounds bad.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
Thank's ..I was really waiting for a call on an opportunity abroad
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
Thank you for understanding.. it seems like no one got a job from her for too long
@LadyDuck (471968)
• Switzerland
31 Jan 23
@Hanbinandaeyo We are living difficult times, it is so hard to find a job.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
I know.. I was waiting for a call at a job outside the country..
and you're right. it's not easy to find a job. I hope that I can manage
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
totally agree...
But I have another problem..
Other bosses' aside from her was so nice . That's why kind of hesitate to quit.
But I can't choose whom to work with
@merrybelle2021 (1393)
• Philippines
26 Jan 23
Why were you assigned to her? Were you informed before you were transferred? Maybe talk to the person who transferred you first.
Also, did your new boss have staff before that quit?
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
I was informed for a transfer of area, however, i wasn't like really informed to whose the boss that i'll be working since when I started working, the construction on the new office was still on going
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@Beestring (14670)
• Hong Kong
26 Jan 23
If you can afford, quit immediately. Otherwise, stay calm, focus on doing your work. Do something you enjoy after work to maintain mental health. Resign when you find a new job.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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31 Jan 23
Thank you for the advice.
I was actually waiting for something, an opportunity abroad, if it happens I'll quit immediately.
I do baking sometimes to make my mental state calm
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