Did My Spouse Really Say That?
By Meggan Moore
@Meggan (346)
United States
February 23, 2023 12:00pm CST
This post is by no means a man hating post, just us spouses coming together for some support. I am pretty sure I married a man child and if you have one you know what I mean!
While I was on vacation to see my daughter and grandson my husband messaged me to let me know he did the dishes. Super excited I would come home to a clean house. Nope my sink and stove are full of dishes. Is there a double standard on dishes??
Then my husband told me he wanted to change the sheets but he had no idea where the clean sheets were. We live in a pretty decent sized house that has a linen closet. Is there another place I would store them??
While I am at it, why do we put the empty toilet paper tube on a table by the trash can or the dirty clothes under the table in front of the laundry basket??
Does your spouse ask you some crazy questions or say or do some weird things?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
23 Feb 23
@Meggan I am not married but I do know this type of frustration very well as I had ex boyfriends who were depending on me to do everything. I even planned my own birthdays and valentine's days. Never cared even for me in that way nor lifted a finger to help me with house stuff. But I deal with this a lot with my brother. I hate when he is doing something (for once) and has no idea where anything is. We have been in that house for 17 years so it's annoying when he doesn't know where anything is because my dad and I do everything!
I understand you! Sometimes I wish we could make people do exactly what we do for a day or two so they realise how lucky they are!
I am sorry for this! I get it! 
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@Meggan (346)
• United States
23 Feb 23
Most of the time it doesn't bother me, but sometimes it does. Is it really hard to add 2 second walk to the kitchen to drop off your dirty dishes when you are getting another drink. Working hard to try to teach my son better ways but it is hard work!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
28 Feb 23
@Meggan It's not hard at all. And I understand sometimes it bothers you and sometimes it doesn't. I feel it's a bit more deeper than that though. Whether you were bothered or not, it's the fact that you are now expected to do it. With all due respect to you all of course! I am speaking from experience that the more you do something over and over, the more people adapt to that and may sometimes take it for granted. 
@porwest (90876)
• United States
23 Feb 23
I promise I did not offer any advice to your husband. I have a strict rule in my house. I am stupid and therefore cannot run the washer, the dishwasher, vacuum cleaner or any of those things...
Therefore I don't have to be forced to do them and my wife does not trust me to. lol
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@kaylachan (69714)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Feb 23
Sometimes he does, but then half the time I wonder if he hears me.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Feb 23
My husband is a lot like that. He is also bipolar so I put that into account that he doesn't always pay attention to where things goes or how I do them. He'll do them but things might end up in different places. But he does know where I keep most things.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Feb 23
@Meggan Yep that will do it being someone on the spectrum it doesn't come naturally to be organized sometimes. My husband is bioplar/anxity/depression and PTSD, then add my three kids to the mix all of them having disabilities and so so do it. I'm messy organized but there are certain things that I'm like it has to go here or there.
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@Meggan (346)
• United States
24 Feb 23
@ShyBear88 after doing lots of research on ADHD for my son I have realized that is probably my issue too. It is hard to mix the two because we are soo different.
@Plethos (13581)
• United States
23 Feb 23
- as a man, i know that men and women store things differently. or call things differently. to us its not a hamper, its a dirty clothes basket. a make up caddy to us is a tackle box. linen closet is a storage closet. we all put a different level of priority on stuff in the home. women view house contents with more importance than men. if ou were to put a mans meal on a paper plate everyday, he wouldnt say a word. but a woman would say, we have plates, use one!
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@Meggan (346)
• United States
24 Feb 23
He is a very set on using a linen closet for just linen and a buffet for just dishes etc. I am more of a if it works for something else use it. Except for craft items I am more of a minimalist but he is sentimental. Except I am the one that has to keep his sentimental items organized. lol
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@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Feb 23
Yes sometimes he does, and it's so irritating! lol
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