A Mylotter !
By Icydoll
@Icydoll (36717)
India
February 26, 2023 2:52am CST
Hello everyone hope everyone is doing fine. I Would like to tell about a mylotter . When I had joined mylot . There was an user .she Used to tag me whenever I go online. She Used to wait for me to have a conversation.As I'm new user , have no idea who everyone is .One day she shared a link to me in personal message and urged me to join there . I was in confusion to click on link and felt suspicious not safe to join lol 
.She told it is not a malicious link ,it is an instant room to join and have conversation smoothly. I had unwillingly joined there , if i said no she would get hurt. I couldn't able to say no. I wanted her to participate in discussions and have conversation on mylot itself. She was a nice and funny person though. She is good at teasing .I'm missing her now .
Would you easily say no to anyone if you don't want to do either in virtual or in real life ?. Do you like personal messaging on mylot ?.
.She told it is not a malicious link ,it is an instant room to join and have conversation smoothly. I had unwillingly joined there , if i said no she would get hurt. I couldn't able to say no. I wanted her to participate in discussions and have conversation on mylot itself. She was a nice and funny person though. She is good at teasing .I'm missing her now .
Would you easily say no to anyone if you don't want to do either in virtual or in real life ?. Do you like personal messaging on mylot ?.30 people like this
30 responses
@DaddyEvil (137634)
• United States
26 Feb 23
If I'm not comfortable with something, I don't do it.
If someone sent me a link on myLot that I thought looked suspicious, I would contact GAA and send them the link...
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@DaddyEvil (137634)
• United States
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll Yes, I understand.
I'm fine, thank you. How are you?
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
26 Feb 23
@DaddyEvil when we are close we can't say no easily i think so . There are some users asking to chat in personal message. I simply said no
I am just okay. I have some sinus issues. You have been missing in our gang chats as you are not feeling well . I didn't tag you much .
I am just okay. I have some sinus issues. You have been missing in our gang chats as you are not feeling well . I didn't tag you much .3 people like this
I try to watch movie like a mania today, but I am failed
i thought the same dear. But later she talked well .
How is your sunday going on nice mama
@RebeccasFarm (90471)
• Arvada, Colorado
26 Feb 23
I do not like any of that ..but I am glad she was a nice person Icydoll and that you were safe.
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@RebeccasFarm (90471)
• Arvada, Colorado
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll I am still using these reader glasses but they are blurry..so I have to pull the laptop up to my face
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
26 Feb 23
@RebeccasFarm so hard to cope up without glasses. Is there anyone to help you at home ?.
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@Teekaaa (11580)
• India
26 Feb 23
I wouldn't trust anybody that easily. It takes time for me. I'm that sort of individual. I think it's no way wrong to be careful and cautious.
And saying no is not that easy. Virtually it might be a bit easier to say no strongly. But in real life, it's quite hard but we have to practice saying no if we are really not comfortable.
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@Teekaaa (11580)
• India
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll thanks dear for agreeing. Fortunately, I have never received such messages so far. Even if I get, I will not pay attention to such things.
Even I'm not that good at saying "No". What you have stated is true. But if the circumstance is like that, we have to...or else we would get hurt.
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@allknowing (137781)
• India
26 Feb 23
It took us 3 years to trust each other and it is only then that we exchanged emails.
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@xstitcher (32702)
• Petaluma, California
26 Feb 23
Yeah, I would be suspicious of other links too.
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@RasmaSandra (80736)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Feb 23
No one should force anyone to do what they are not sure about, I only drop a PM to someone if I want to know something or tell them something that has nothing to do with a conversation online.
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Thanks and have a great new week ahead!!!!!
@Lignitecityabishek96 (7119)
• Cuddalore, India
26 Feb 23
It's always good to maintain a distance especially when you're in online world.
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@Adie04 (17360)
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27 Feb 23
For me personally, I won't risk myself going to such extent. Cyber bulling could be pretty dangerous and it could make your life in danger as well.
When I start reading from 'she used to tag me whenever I go online' until the end, I immediately see this as a red flag. For me, personally, even my close friends didn't do this in both real world and online. Although that you mentioned that the person is funny and entertaining and all, but one needs to know boundaries and when one needs to stop.
Especially the part when you said 'if I said no she would get hurt'. Why did she want to hurt herself if you don't want to join her in any link she sent, or any room she invited? That's already dangerous enough for you and really a red flag for cyberbullying already. So, from here, you already can see two sides of her; one, when you entertain her, she would appear funny. But two, when you start saying no, her dark side appears by threatening you that she may hurt herself and such. Total red flag for me.
And for your last part - I will definitely say NO if I am not willing to do anything they ask, even if I know the person. Usually for me, I will keep quiet, or say no, or just walk away. We are responsible for our own lives and we need to always be careful whenever, and wherever we are and whatever we do. I like personal message, but I don't force myself to enter one as well. And I don't even keep doing personal message when I or you want to get to know each other.
I will do verbal communication to get to know who people really are.
Sorry if my responses are long and uncomfortable for you. I'm sure that you are a female, and at least as a fellow old female mylotter, I want you to stay safe. Take care.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
27 Feb 23
Thanks for the concern and the way you explained everything is very true. From the things I experienced, somehow i learned to say no when I feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I think the close persons may get hurt when I share my opinion that makes me discomfort. Yeah being safe is better especially when we are in virtual world.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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@Adie04 (17360)
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28 Feb 23
@Icydoll Thanks for being open too. You see, not all people are willing to receive advice especially when they are online. But, though, if you are also not comfortable to receive advice and suggestions from the mylotters, at the very least, listen to your hunch or guts. They will always tell you the right thing. When your hunch says uncomfortable, it will mean something bad, and 90-100% most of the time it will be true.
I understand that saying no is something that not everyone can say it. I know a few people that are hard to say no. I was like that last time. But as years go by, as I get older, I realise the importance of saying no. And I am happy that when I practice that, my mental health gets better over time 
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@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
26 Feb 23
Some of us share links back and forth. If things look suspicious, I will just say "no, thank you".
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@snowy22315 (182175)
• United States
26 Feb 23
If I knew them well enough, I would certainly do as they ask.
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@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
26 Feb 23
I agree with person below if I don’t feel comfortable doing something I do not do it.
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@andriaperry (117140)
• Anniston, Alabama
26 Feb 23
If I feel uncomfortable, I say thanks but no .
No I don't care for personal messages here.
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