Introvert or ekstrovert?

@Sooyaa (36)
February 28, 2023 7:05pm CST
an introvert is a person who doesn't like small talk, I focus more on myself and do important things, I sometimes want to be like other people to be extroverted but it turns out that it's not easy and very draining, I don't like crowds. But I don't like being lonely either. what about you, what personality do you have introvert or extrovert. give me a way so that I can be an extrovert.? so I can have many friends. therefore I raise animals so they are not lonely for example like cats.
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@rebelann (113000)
• El Paso, Texas
1 Mar 23
I do not think of myself as an introvert but I do not like crowds and prefer to spend most of my time with my pets. I do have friends I like to visit but it would be awkward for me if they were to visit me.
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@rebelann (113000)
• El Paso, Texas
2 Mar 23
I am usually a friendly person because I choose to be but to be forced to be friendly when I don't want to is another thing altogether, I wouldn't like that.
@DaddyEvil (137728)
• United States
1 Mar 23
I feel awkward if new friends come to my house... Even over voicechat a few days ago with a friend who had never been to my house, he wanted to see my house and I told him I was a little hesitant to show him around, even over the phone. (I did show him around and we enjoyed our visit... but it was still scary for me.)
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@Sooyaa (36)
1 Mar 23
I'm actually like that too, and don't like crowds. but I also don't like it when many guests or extended family gather at my house. it's not fun because yes I have to be friendly all the time and it's very tiring
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@rakski (126208)
• Philippines
1 Mar 23
I can be both. A mixture of both depending on situation
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@rakski (126208)
• Philippines
1 Mar 23
@Sooyaa well, it depends on the people with me. but I tend to be more extrovert
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@MrDenata (12262)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 23
@rakski same here i can be both, usually i can be anything as long as i get paid LOL
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@Sooyaa (36)
1 Mar 23
but there must be a predominant one, for every one. just like I tend to be more introverted and quiet when meeting new people
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@DaddyEvil (137728)
• United States
1 Mar 23
I am a mix of introvert and extrovert... When I was young, I was very shy and had trouble talking to other people. Most of my youth was spent doing things either by myself or with my youngest brother, like riding bikes or riding horseback around our farm and community. I also read lots of books... When I graduated from school, I knew I'd have to work out in the world to earn my living. I decided I would talk to everybody until I was comfortable doing that. I got a job as a cashier in a store and started talking to everybody around me... I did that for years before I was comfortable starting conversations with people I didn't know. In some things, I'm still shy. I hate asking anyone for help and am not always comfortable asking questions that my society consider "personal" but other countries think are "normal" and don't mind asking about or talking about. I'm still learning how to be a good extrovert.
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@Sooyaa (36)
1 Mar 23
I'm also trying to hang out more with people around me even though it's not easy, sometimes I'm very afraid to start a conversation afraid of being ignored, and it really drains my energy that I can't open a chat. but I will not give up to change for the better. being an introvert is not wrong but sometimes life also needs to socialize so life is more colorful. Thanks for your answer
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@DaddyEvil (137728)
• United States
1 Mar 23
@Sooyaa You're very welcome. If it's possible, you might try to get a job in a small store and try to talk to the people that come in and shop... They won't be strangers for long and that would help you be not as introverted as you are now. Just talking with people on myLot will help you improve your English (You actually know a lot of English and write it very well.) and help you make friends outside your family.
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@MasGion (1832)
• Malang, Indonesia
1 Mar 23
agree with @DaddyEvil job demands will make people change
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@Tierkreisze (1609)
• Philippines
5 Mar 23
Aloha fellow introvert! I'm actually a lot more chatty online than I am in real life. So people tend to wonder why I get so quiet during meetups. But the thing is, I get socially anxious around people sometimes. How about you?
@MasGion (1832)
• Malang, Indonesia
1 Mar 23
I'am introvert. I have done test to check personalities. introverts or extroverts are not always good or bad. both have their advantages and disadvantages. No need to change from one to the other. will be able to change indirectly depending on the situation we face. what is important is how we can know the personality of people and how we should treat them
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@MasGion (1832)
• Malang, Indonesia
1 Mar 23
@Sooyaa it needs to be tried and forced in order to be able to deal with people
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@MasGion (1832)
• Malang, Indonesia
1 Mar 23
@Sooyaa just like me. I am usually quite if meet new people. try to talk about topic that you n he/ she have same interest
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@Sooyaa (36)
1 Mar 23
but if I meet new people in the real world I'm always quiet. and if they ask I will only answer as necessary. I don't dare look them in the eye. and if you meet new people, introverts are not used to it
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• Canada
17 Mar 23
I am a self-proclaimed introvert. Although my friends think so too. I'm not a fan of huge crowds. I am that person you will find sitting on the corner at a party, people watching. Sometimes I wish I could be an extrovert too but I realized that it's not possible as my brain is wired differently. I suggest embracing the introversion. I guess finding a social circle who understands you will help tremendously. As introverts, it is important for us to find that solace and alone time every now and then. That's how we recharge.
@Aquitaine24 (11813)
• San Jose, California
3 Mar 23
Introverts aren't bad
@LadyDuck (472121)
• Switzerland
1 Mar 23
I am a mix of the two, I like people but I am shy. I love cats a lot.
@aninditasen (16501)
• Raurkela, India
3 Mar 23
I am neither an introvert or an extrovert. I like staying at home and people around me. I don't like going out so much. I socialize on the social media.
@Yadah04 (3363)
• Philippines
4 Mar 23
i am not really sure, but yes i like small talk.
@Adie04 (17360)
2 Mar 23
I am ambivert; can be introvert and extrovert at the same time. I can spend my time alone, but at the same time enjoy going hiking and outdoor activities.
@elmer0421 (432)
5 Mar 23
I am introvert...But at times, I try to be sociable by interacting with others...
@Meggan (346)
• United States
2 Mar 23
I am more of an introvert and finally decided to try the other way and have lots of friends. I hated it! People can be so fake especially in your face. So I cut down my friends to just a few and I like it so much more!!
• Indonesia
1 Mar 23
I am an introvert, and I never feel lonely in solitude. I actually feel lonely when in the middle of a crowd, because I feel uncomfortable there. And you don't have to force yourself to be an extrovert, all personalities are good and complement each other. Keep it up.