Feeling A Little Lonely

@flapiz (23153)
United Kingdom
March 14, 2023 6:01pm CST
Andrea and I are mostly long distance over the weekdays but we always have time to talk over the phone after work. Today he has a work dinner to attend to and it looks like a long one. I am happy he is socialising but I realise how much time I have left if we do not talk every night. It is actually quite lonely as it seems my world has become a little too small and a little too Andre filled. I tried playing with my phone and watching a movie but it's not the same. I guess I may need to start a new hobby or craft.
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@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
15 Mar 23
I am sorry, I can imagine very well how you feel.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 23
@LadyDuck Yeah and it's not that I do not have friends but it is a different kind of companionship.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 23
It is lovely to have someone who is like my best friend. I realised how much we talked when we didn't. But of course I know I shouldn't feel upset as it is work related but feelings aren't really logical sometimes.
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@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
15 Mar 23
@flapiz I know, when my husband had meeting late in the evening and he had to go out to dine with clients I felt lonely at home.
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@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
16 Mar 23
If you ever know the two of you will be separated for a period of time, you could record several short videos of him so that you can play them back when he is not there with you. I know it's not the same as speaking to him in person or over the phone, but it will at least get you a chance to "see" him when he's not around.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 23
Well normally when my mind is conditioned I do not mind him being away. But it was a random dinner so I was not mentally prepared. I was quite excited cause I had day off the next day which meant we could talk longer but that didn't happen unfortunately. So I guess I was upset because of the broken routine. I do have tiny videos of him but it is different from talking. Maybe I'm just really clingy.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 23
@moffittjc Yeah I just hate the feeling of being immature but feelings cannot be controlled unfortunately.
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@moffittjc (121729)
• Gainesville, Florida
16 Mar 23
@flapiz You’ve told me many times in the past that you are clingy! Haha. But that’s okay, there’s nothing wrong with that if the other person likes to be close to you all the time.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
15 Mar 23
Having a new hobby will definitely help.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
17 Mar 23
@flapiz true. You don't want to be dependent to to other people.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
17 Mar 23
@allen0187 Learned that from my previous break up.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 23
Yeah I think it is bad to not be able to function without the other person.
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@rakski (126031)
• Philippines
15 Mar 23
what kind of hobby are you thinking?
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 23
Anything that is engaging and time consuming. I am thinking of practicing painting again.
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@rakski (126031)
• Philippines
15 Mar 23
@flapiz oh that is nice!
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Mar 23
It's not easy to adjust to a different situation when you are already comfortable with one. You need to adjust if you can't still be together. I think you can pass on boredom by just surfing the net.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 23
I tried surfing the net and mylotting and gaming but it just wasn't the evening turned into me getting mad and sulky at him.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 23
@florelway We had talked it over and I feel better now.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Mar 23
@flapiz I am sorry you have to feel that way. Would there be other situation that's favourable to you? Maybe you can talk it over with him, and let out your feelings what you want.
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@Subase (88)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 23
I think it's not lonely but you miss Andrea, so it makes you feel bored or want to meet and be lonely.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 23
It was a momentary episode of loneliness. I think he has kept me good company so yeah I missed him a lot during his absence.
@JudyEv (342145)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Mar 23
I'm sure the evenings can be long and lonely sometimes. As you say yourself, you need an absorbing hobby perhaps.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 23
Yes truly specially on my day off. There is just a gap. I am used to filling it up with calls with Andre. I didn't realise how much we talked until we didn't.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
15 Mar 23
Start painting and try coloring books. It is fun .
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
15 Mar 23
I have a sketch book for some freehand painting. It might end up being abstract as I am not very good at painting.
@Adie04 (17360)
16 Mar 23
Sorry to hear this. But maybe as you said, maybe you need a new hobby to fill your day.
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@flapiz (23153)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 23
Yeah it is a bit sad to be codependent with someone who is a flight away.