Short story: Socialness helps to spread love within society
@innertalks (22116)
Australia
April 4, 2023 4:48am CST
The renowned psychologist, Edwin Rupurto, was writing an article in the magazine, Psychology for Today, on the subject of socialality. (A word he coined for his article).
Here is what he said:
"We might well ask ourselves what is the purpose of our making social connection, through social interaction, with other people?"
"I would answer simply that social connection to others allows you to share the love in you, that is God, with them."
"Why do we have so much trouble relating to other people socially, and really sometimes, we could not even be bothered making an effort to connect to them either, at all?"
"This is because we feel a superiority over others, not necessarily mentally, but subjectly in the talkingness of subjects, and we do not like to waste time on what we summarily see as being only idle chatter."
"The thing is though, love still connects via all methods of connection, and whether it is idle, shallow, or deep chatter, is of a smaller consequence than the connection of love is."
"Living requires a connection to be made to the energy of life, which is really only love, for life to be lived, lovingly so."
"When love is not connected to, you live a slow life of near deathly coldness, rather than one with warm love alive, and blazingly alive, in you. Social connection fans the fires of love in you too."
"We have a social responsibility to love others with our heart, and not just to talk to them innately with our mind."
"Love is more than innately given; it is given from the deepness of our soul, not the shallowness of our minds alone."
"To be properly social is to be properly loving."
And, with that last short sentence, his article ended.
Photo Credit: The photo used in this article was sourced from the free media site, pixabay.com
This old Psychologist had a striking resemblance to Sigmund Freud, the father of modern day psychology.
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@arunima25 (87852)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr 23
Well, when you mentioned about his resemblance to Sigmund Freud, I checked the picture again and even I felt the same.
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It's very well said that Man is a social animal. We need to have a good social life to stay happy and healthy at emotional and mental level.
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It's very well said that Man is a social animal. We need to have a good social life to stay happy and healthy at emotional and mental level.3 people like this
@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
4 Apr 23
This is only a fiction piece, I wrote here, and the picture really is of Sigmund Freud.
I was just having a bit of a leg-pull, picking his picture for my story...lol...
Yes, another good saying is that no man is an island.
We are all better off if we can connect together socially, with love, behind the connecting, rather than animosity, and anger, or brinkmanship, which only creates angst, and leads to such things as wars, at its extreme levels.
@arunima25 (87852)
• Bangalore, India
5 Apr 23
@innertalks Actually, I also thought the same 
. Well, you were successful pulling my leg. Anyways, harmless pranks and leg pulling are part of healthy social connections 
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My mom is a psychologist. I grew up seeing Freud's pictures in various books.
. Well, you were successful pulling my leg. Anyways, harmless pranks and leg pulling are part of healthy social connections .
My mom is a psychologist. I grew up seeing Freud's pictures in various books.2 people like this
@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
@arunima25 l once went to see a psychologist who did look like Freud too.
Perhaps, he attracts look likes into his field, lol.
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@RebeccasFarm (90547)
• Arvada, Colorado
4 Apr 23
Interesting take on social situations.
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
Thanks. I like to look at things in different and unusual ways.
@RebeccasFarm (90547)
• Arvada, Colorado
5 Apr 23
@innertalks It is refreshing to do so. I wondered if that was Freud in the photo. He had that look.
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
@RebeccasFarm Yes, that is actually Freud. I was just using his photo for my story.
@vandana7 (100646)
• India
4 Apr 23
Every rule has an exception. Or two. LOL
The social contacts I have had were essentially to take advantage of me. While give and take occurs in every relationship, the ratio seemed lopsided...90 percent giver I, 10 percent giver they. So it has been uncomfortable most of the time.
Drawing boundaries is not an art I learned. That is why I get walked over most of the time. And am left with bitter taste in mouth.
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@vandana7 (100646)
• India
5 Apr 23
@innertalks In my case, the general perception is, she is unmarried, she has no children, what does she need monies for. In fact, one of my former bosses told me what do you need an increment for, you have no kids. I had worked harder than the most out there, brought the company out of red, and then this remark really hurt.
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
@vandana7 Yes, when we do not set boundaries, people will hurt us by stepping on us, over us, as if nothing is stopping them at all.
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
I have found that I myself am a bit naive, and often I trust people, then get taken advantage of too.
I usually just then let the situation play out of itself, and at least half the time then, the person concerned will change his position, and actually give me more than which he was supposed to do so.
I paid someone up front to concrete the base of my shed, but then he never turned up, and I thought that I had lost my money, $600.
He turned up a month later, and concreted a path to the shed for me, at no extra cost, because of his delay before, where he then told me that his truck had broken down on that last day, that he was supposed to come out to my place, to do the concreting.
I had rung him up a couple of times about it, but without being able to contact him.
Perhaps, he saw my missed calls, and had a conscience change about doing that job for me then.
I never draw boundaries either.
@Shiva49 (26789)
• Singapore
4 Apr 23
Love breaks down all barriers - that of ego, suspicion, social status, awkwardness, etc.
When we love as God does, we respect all living beings as worthy of our love and affection.
The present state of the world reflects the lack of love and empathy among us.
And to think we are creating hell due to love being absent in our approach - thinking and deeds.
This inexorable ride has to be brought to a screeching halt.
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
Well put, siva.
Yes, there is too much friction, and life rage, at other people around us. We need to calm down and breathe in more love, and then live from it truly, and fully.
@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
6 Apr 23
@Shiva49 Yes, the leaders only have their own interests in their thoughts, and each political party is ruthlessly dogged down, and destroyed by the other one, as much as possible.
Gone are the days, when Political parties had the common good of the people in mind behind each policy they created.
@Shiva49 (26789)
• Singapore
5 Apr 23
@innertalks Thanks Steve, instead of love taking center stage, we are armed to the teeth with weapons that can destroy all lifeforms here.
Some wear them as a badge of honor with a take it is my way or the highway. We can find any reason to use them even like what happened in the Second World War. President Truman was advised to use the atomic bombs to bring the war to an end. Hopefully, that will not be a precedent in the ongoing war right now.
It looks like we are impervious to reason and, well, love too. We act as if we can get away with murder and even God is never in the thoughts of our leaders at least.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
4 Apr 23
Human beings are social beings and no man is an island is true
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
Yes, right from the start, God realised that man needed companions, and God created him, like himself, as a social being. God also likes to be social, talking to his creation, and those around him too. In the Bible, when talking there, he usually says things like, "let us make man in our image."
So, he must have other beings helping him in his creation, and sharing his life up in Heaven with him too.
@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
5 Apr 23
@innertalks yes God is a social being and He expects that from us too. In the beginning the 'let us.....' actually shows that God was not alone . Thank you for sharing this
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
5 Apr 23
@Laurakemunto Yes, we need to be good neighbours to each other, too, as part of our social connection to each other.
@leighnyork (1880)
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4 Apr 23
This makes me question how I have been showing love.
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@innertalks (22116)
• Australia
4 Apr 23
I think that we all have to question how we have been loving, and showing love, too.
