Defensive instinct
By Toni
@toniganzon (72533)
Philippines
April 12, 2023 12:38am CST
I saw this video of a woman beating beaten up badly by her cop boyfriend and she was just crying as he continuously kick her. She was not on the floor but was on her feet and bending down as the man grabbed her hair.
What would you have done if you were in her place? Would you have the strength to fight back?
One of my brothers was physically abusive when we were young. He’s 7 years older than me and I had been hit by him too many times. Whenever I pissed him off, i would get slapped. But my instinct was always to fight back and i did. I was tiny, he was huge but i got legs long enough to kick him.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
I thought the same when watching the video. There were several opportunities to kick the man in the balls but she didn't do it.
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
12 Apr 23
@toniganzon They immediately calm down if you kick them in the balls or you hit their nose with your knee.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
@LadyDuck Right and she had that chance but she didn't think of it. Probably she was in too much pain to even think of fighting back.
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@DazzleDammah (353)
• Eldoret, Kenya
12 Apr 23
Yeah the could do something worse than hitting you
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
Although when we are threatened or harmed, our natural instinct is to fight back. But, I believe the best course of action in the aforementioned scenario is to avoid and stay as far away as you can from her abuser. The attacker can become even more enraged and retaliate more if she fights back.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
AT that very instant, she had no opportunity to run away but she could have kicked him in the balls and run but she didn't.
I would defend myself by fighting back. Rather than just letting the man hit me and just cry.
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
That's what I was thinking. I would fight back before escaping.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
No idea. It was shown to me and I didn't have the guts to finish watching it. All I know is that cop was relieved from his post and is now in jail.
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@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Apr 23
@toniganzon At least that's a good thing.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
@JudyEv Yes, he got what he deserved. He's a policeman and he should be protecting people and not beating them up.
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@DazzleDammah (353)
• Eldoret, Kenya
12 Apr 23
Try and run away, coz men are physically stronger than women
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
Yes but she couldn't run as she was being held by her hair. But she could have fought back by using her legs.
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@DazzleDammah (353)
• Eldoret, Kenya
12 Apr 23
@toniganzon yeah its hard to run away when someones grabbed your hair
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
I'd definitely fight back but I'll try to deescalate the situation first.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
@toniganzon I see. If that is the case, fighting back is the way to go.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
There was no way to deescalate the situation brother. The woman wanted to break up with him after finding out he was married and he started beating her up.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
13 Apr 23
Running away is a smart move than allowing yourself to be beaten up to a pulp.
@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
14 Apr 23
Sorry to know you had that when you were a young girl..terrible.
I had it many times in life..when grown.
Yes, I always got them back and when they least expect it
Not to say I did not take many beatings and scars for it too.
I am lucky to be alive today.
Not to say I did not take many beatings and scars for it too.
I am lucky to be alive today.1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
14 Apr 23
You are a strong woman to have survived that.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
14 Apr 23
@RebeccasFarm I think when I stop fighting back, it would be the end of me.
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@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
14 Apr 23
@toniganzon I have to agree with you on that. .before I used to think I was not strong but now I know I am thanks Toni. You are also very strong, I admire that you fought back and also all you have accomplished in life.
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@RasmaSandra (80736)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Apr 23
I would try to fight back but after I would make sure they never got to hit me again.
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@moffittjc (121714)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Apr 23
Immediately go for the one place that would hurt a man the most…his balls. Kick, hit, scratch, bite…whatever it takes to inflict the most pain possible. And keep delivering as much pain as possible until he’s crying like a baby, and then get the hell out of there.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
14 Apr 23
@moffittjc Nope, not at all. I would never allow such to happen to me.
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@moffittjc (121714)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Apr 23
@toniganzon Wait…you’re not being abused, are you?
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 23
I think domestic violence is a very hard thing to understand.
It seems easy to either fight back or leave the person but it isn't that easy in my opinion, and that's backed up with lots of statistics.
She may have fought back the first time and got hit worse, then the man apologises and begs forgiveness etc.
So, for various reasons, she stays.
Then all is good and it happens again...maybe this time her defence says don't hit back it gets worse so she doesn't.
The cycle continues and alongside that there may be some psychological control aspects from the man such as children and money etc.
As I said, I think it's a very complicated thing but there are quite a few studies in the UK that explains why women don't fight back or just leave.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
The reason why he beat him up was because she wanted to leave him after finding out he was married. He's in jail now by the way.
, I always gave change, well, and then I was not touched at all
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
I am always in a fight mode when I’m being attacked.
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@Adie04 (17360)
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13 Apr 23
@toniganzon Sometimes we need to fight for our lives.
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@LindaOHio (181721)
• United States
24 Apr 23
No one should be abused. I would fight back. That woman should leave her boyfriend.
@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
12 Apr 23
I hate physical abusers so much if it were me I would run away very fast
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
12 Apr 23
She was being held and she couldn't run. If it were me, I would have fought back.
