~narcissist~
By Jazzalynn
@Jazzylove35e (308)
April 28, 2023 8:51am CST
I have had my fair share of narcissists in my life and let’s just say it’s a lot more peaceful when they aren’t home or aren’t in your life anymore.
I used to be with a narcissist and it was one thing after another. He was really controlling and got mad when I spent time with anyone else besides him! I couldn’t even spend time with my own mother when he was around because he thought it was unfair I wasn’t giving him all my attention.
Some people have narcissist in their life and know they aren’t who they say they are but they don't realize the actual word for it.
Narcissist thinks the world revolves around them, they are fake in front of people they don’t know but show their true colors later down the road. They can only stay fake for so long before you or other people start seeing how they truly are. Once you see how they really are, they are no longer nice to you because the niceness was only the fake part of them.
When I’m older I think I’m going to write a book on narcissists, how they manipulate people without them knowing and how they blame shift everything on you so they aren’t blamed for anything. I want people to have something they can relate to, something that can help them cope with the things they are going through with a narcissist in their life.
The hardest part about a narcissist is when you have a parent that is one and you live under their roof! You can’t get rid of them and you can’t remove yourself from the situation. You can’t tell them they’re in the wrong because in their eyes, they are the parent and you don’t have a say in it.
What’s your thoughts on a narcissist? Do you think you might have one in your everyday life?
I used to be with a narcissist and it was one thing after another. He was really controlling and got mad when I spent time with anyone else besides him! I couldn’t even spend time with my own mother when he was around because he thought it was unfair I wasn’t giving him all my attention.
Some people have narcissist in their life and know they aren’t who they say they are but they don't realize the actual word for it.
Narcissist thinks the world revolves around them, they are fake in front of people they don’t know but show their true colors later down the road. They can only stay fake for so long before you or other people start seeing how they truly are. Once you see how they really are, they are no longer nice to you because the niceness was only the fake part of them.
When I’m older I think I’m going to write a book on narcissists, how they manipulate people without them knowing and how they blame shift everything on you so they aren’t blamed for anything. I want people to have something they can relate to, something that can help them cope with the things they are going through with a narcissist in their life.
The hardest part about a narcissist is when you have a parent that is one and you live under their roof! You can’t get rid of them and you can’t remove yourself from the situation. You can’t tell them they’re in the wrong because in their eyes, they are the parent and you don’t have a say in it.
What’s your thoughts on a narcissist? Do you think you might have one in your everyday life?9 people like this
9 responses
@Jazzylove35e (308)
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28 Apr 23
@AmbiePam yes they have a lot of people fooled and they don’t like you anymore when you find out the truth about them!
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
28 Apr 23
I do get you cause this is what I also discovered but other people are still in the dark
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
28 Apr 23
@Jazzylove35e yes they feel so dissapointed and wouldn't like you to uncover the truth to others
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@LadyDuck (472108)
• Switzerland
28 Apr 23
@Jazzylove35e My brother was a bit narcissist, but not the worst specie.
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@Jazzylove35e (308)
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28 Apr 23
@LadyDuck I’m very glad you don’t either! It’s not fun at all yes they think they are amazing and above everyone else.
yes they think they are amazing and above everyone else.1 person likes this
@Jazzylove35e (308)
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28 Apr 23
@LadyDuck yeah I know some people that are less narcissist than others lol
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@pumpkinjam (8770)
• United Kingdom
1 May 23
I've certainly dealt with my fair share of narcissists. The way you write about the person you used to be with could very well relate to someone I used to be with. I won't go into that too much suffice to say he was a hypocrite, and would cause problems in indirect ways - e.g. he'd say he never stopped me from going out because he never physically or directly prevented it, but he'd spend all spare money, steal from me, make plans at the last minute to do something himself so I didn't have time to arrange a babysitter, or do something to upset me in the lead up to any occasion I had managed to arrange something for myself.
Thankfully, he's been out of my life for a long time now. There are still others in my life, some more difficult to remove. I know a few extremely selfish/self-absorbed people but wouldn't consider all of them to be narcissists. There is one, though, who is what I've described as a textbook narcissist. The world revolves around them. If something doesn't precisely fit their circumstances or ideas then it's wrong. They have no interest or understanding of things that don't directly affect them but are very vocal about the things that do affect them. They complain about things that mildly inconvenience them while having no empathy or understanding of things that significantly affect other people. I could go on but I won't.
What I am trying to say is, yes, I have (had) narcissists in my life. I didn't know the word (or the word 'gaslighting') until relatively recently but, looking back, my ex was definitely one of them, and there is at least one in my life that isn't so easy to leave behind.
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
4 Aug 23
Written an article on my experiences with them too - one in particular, dangerously lked by many of my friends who refuse to see him for what he is
@Scrapper88 (5983)
• United States
28 Apr 23
I have at least one friend who is a strong narcissist. My life is a lot better when he moved out of state and I don't talk with very much anymore.
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@Jazzylove35e (308)
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28 Apr 23
@Scrapper88 yes I’m glad that the ex I have lives far away! That’s good that you guys don’t talk anymore, it weighs you down a lot and you don’t even realize until it’s too late.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
28 Apr 23
Well well well I can relate and truly this is exactly what am dealing with .
It's the plain truth and imagine people do believe them before and when you know them they twist everything.
You are right and I must read that book when you write it I can even send in my notes thank you for bringing this up
thank you for bringing this up1 person likes this
@Jazzylove35e (308)
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28 Apr 23
@Laurakemunro you definitely can! I have so much to say about narcissists so it definitely wouldn’t be a small book
I have so much to say about narcissists so it definitely wouldn’t be a small book
@jeanbug23 (992)
• Philippines
29 Apr 23
It would be best if the narcissist in your life was your partner because you can leave that person anytime. But if it turned out to be your adult child, oh, I guess you just have to make his or her life in order first before you leave. it's a very difficult decision because if you didn't make up your mind, you end up losing your sanity. Good luck to anyone who have this person in your life.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
1 May 23
I am lucky, I don't have any in my life. There are times that a member may be needing more attention but it's understandable in many cases, like when they're sick or something. Having a narcissist in one's life is truly trying and tough. I hope you can cope with it successfully,
