On this day 35 years ago

My pic with my family
@mayka123 (16605)
India
May 4, 2023 11:40pm CST
On this day 35 years ago, I got married. The picture here was taken then. That’s my brother in the blue shirt and my husband on my left. Unfortunately, both are no more. My husband died 12 years after our marriage in an accident and my brother 7 years ago when he got his third heart attack. All three of us are born on the 13th. My brother’s birthday is on 13th June, my hubby on 13th November and me on 13th October. My brother named us the 13th triangle! After my hubby passed away the kids insisted I continue celebrating my wedding anniversary. I used to feel it strange celebrating the anniversary without hubby but kids would not listen. Since the lockdown I have asked them not to order for cake since I live alone, and the cake gets wasted. Today my son will be ordering lunch from outside and my grand son has given me his pocket money to order for icecream. Ofcourse I will not be using his money but have taken it from him to make him feel happy and kept the money aside in a box where I keep putting money regularly for the kids.
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@AmbiePam (92711)
• United States
5 May 23
I love to hear how sweet your family is to you. You and your husband obviously did a lot right, but I am so sorry he was taken from you so soon, as well as your dear brother. Keeping the memories alive by celebrating is wonderful, and I appreciate you sharing them with us. You make a fine looking group!
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@vandana7 (100282)
• India
5 May 23
I wonder if it hurts more.
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@AmbiePam (92711)
• United States
5 May 23
@vandana7 You wonder if it hurts more by trying to keep the memory fresh?
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@vandana7 (100282)
• India
5 May 23
@AmbiePam I would miss the person. My birthday is about 3 months or so away. My father bought me two dresses last month. His logic, well, try them on, if there is any modification needed, you can get it done before your birthday. He ordered online - he had a stroke last year and cannot move much. I fear such things very much. Kinda, every time I am gonna wear these dresses, I will be reminded of the love...and the fact that it is now missing...if he passes on. Then I am gonna cry right? I think love scares the sh it out of me. It makes me unhappy upfront out of fear of losing the person, and unhappy after the loss.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
5 May 23
you are making me cry
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
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@vandana7 (100282)
• India
5 May 23
Pretty woman... I have tough time accepting the 13th as a good number. LOL. Hope you can prove me wrong.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
13th has never been unlucky for me.
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@jstory07 (139697)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 May 23
Sorry you loss your husband and brother. Take care and enjoy the rest of your day.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
Thank you very much. Am enjoying my day away from the kitchen for today. Both my kids have sent so much stuff to eat that after lunch and evening snacks I have a lot left for dinner and dessert too.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
5 May 23
Your kids wanted you to be happy on your anniversary.Happy 35th anniversary!
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
Yes and they both ensured I stayed away from the kitchen today.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 May 23
Celebrating not as a merriment but in their memories. That's an unusual 13th day connection for the three of you. You see numerology is also like lunar influence on the person.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
We relive memories of life together on this day. Today my grandson was with me and I was sharing some stories about his grandfather whom he did not have a chance to see. Yes 13th is a unusual connection in the family. My sisters husband and their daughter are also both born on 13th Sept.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
6 May 23
@florelway I think we should keep our exes away from us.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 May 23
@mayka123 My ex boyfriend is also born on Sept. 13, I could not also forget this date but I have stopped sending him bday greetings.
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
5 May 23
My mom yearly remembers her wedding day but not celebrates it anymore. The one thing she wants to do is to visit my late father on his birthday and after we eat together as family in a restaurant where we used to eat when my late father was still alive
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
For us it was my kids having dinner at home. And they would buy the cake for me to cut. Now both are busy with their families so they order something online for me and send.
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• Germany
5 May 23
@mayka123 Oh ok.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
5 May 23
There is an element of bonding both with your brother and husband I notice It is left to you to celebrate or not your wedding anniversary
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
My brother and my husband were best friends and that's how I met my hubby.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 May 23
I am sorry to know about your husband and brother.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
6 May 23
Life is unpredictable.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
6 May 23
@mayka123 yes it is.
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@RebeccasFarm (89882)
• Arvada, Colorado
5 May 23
Sorry they are both gone RIP
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
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@RasmaSandra (79833)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6 May 23
As long as you have your children and your memories I think it is nice to remember your anniversary. I know your husband will be with you in spirit,
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
6 May 23
Yes he will always be with me in spirit.
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8 May 23
that is great nostalgia. Whenever there are memories of the lost people we always feel sad
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
9 May 23
Not all memoried make us feel sad. We feel happy remembering the good times spent together.
@thelme55 (77061)
• Germany
5 May 23
Sorry for your loss. Just cherish the memories you have with your husband on your anniversary.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
6 May 23
My grandson was home and I shared a lot of old memories with him. He only knows his grandpa through all the stories we have shared with him.
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@thelme55 (77061)
• Germany
12 May 23
@mayka123 Continue sharing Stories to your grandson.
@manojari (137)
5 May 23
sorry for the loss .. but your bonding are very strong with your brother and husband
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
Yes. Thank you.
@MarieCoyle (37444)
10 May 23
I am sorry you lost them both, way too soon. You look just so pretty in the picture! I am glad for you that you have some family to celebrate you with ice cream, which is such a good treat. Hope you had a good birthday!
• China
5 May 23
You have lost your husband and brother. This is unfortunate news. You must have worked hard to raise your children. The children know that you are not easy, and they prepare cakes for you. I hope you can be happy, sweet, and happy.
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@mayka123 (16605)
• India
5 May 23
I did have to struggle alone to raise my kids.
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