Would you approve of her?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (14078)
Philippines
May 5, 2023 5:11am CST
So, this young woman was apparently in a hurry and bumped into you on the sidewalk. You went down in a heap, and she hurriedly helped you up, said "I'm sorry" and then left. You experience a pain in your hip and had to limp throughout the way to meet your son.
Later on in the restaurant, you discovered that she was the woman your son wanted to marry when he introduced her to you. Your eyes met and the woman was clearly aghast to discover that you were the person she had bumped into in the street. Would you approve of her? What's your decision? Her behavior of leaving you not even ensuring whether you were well or not shows her inherent character - that of indifference to other people's concerns, as long she achieves her goals.
Your thoughts?
By the way, this is only a hypothetical scenario.
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18 responses
@LadyDuck (472509)
• Switzerland
5 May 23
@Jenaisle The first time my brother invited his girlfriend, she dropped a glass and spilled Coke on the living room carpet. She apologized but did not even tried to clean up the mess. Of course Mom was not very happy, but it's not for that reason that she was opposed to them getting married.
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@rakski (133782)
• Philippines
6 May 23
let's put it the other way around and put yourself in her shoes.
You are young going to meet 'the parent' of your boyfriend for the first time and you are already late and nervous. You bumped into someone. What would likely be your actions?
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
6 May 23
Just as I said, I would make sure she's okay by inquiring about any injuries. I wouldn't want to face lawsuits later on no matter how rushed I was. I would talk to her and make sure that she doesn't need treatment before I leave her. 
. One thing I also believe in is that: No matter the events occurring around you, if you were meant to be, you will be.
That's why I always tell my previous students that they don't have to worry when they get separated from their boyfriends because they would surely be together eventually if they were meant to be.
. One thing I also believe in is that: No matter the events occurring around you, if you were meant to be, you will be.
That's why I always tell my previous students that they don't have to worry when they get separated from their boyfriends because they would surely be together eventually if they were meant to be.1 person likes this
@rakski (133782)
• Philippines
6 May 23
@Jenaisle
different people, different attitudes, and different situations
one cannot expect that others will do the things you or I will do.
it might be a lack of manners to some, but to others, they did their best or they might be in a difficult situation to think right at a given time
as long as the apology is heartfelt and sincere
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@rsa101 (38208)
• Philippines
6 May 23
You have to understand that she apologized quickly, so I suppose that lightens the situation a little. The woman would probably need to spend a lot of time explaining herself to her potential mother-in-law. Yet, I do not believe it should be a reason for the mother to deny her the opportunity to share her perspective and perhaps amend it in the future. She might have had a good reason for doing that at that precise time and place.
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@just4him (318846)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 May 23
Okay, she was concerned enough to help you up before she went on her way, that shows she wasn't completely uncaring. I've been in a hurry many times and bumped people. I always said I was sorry, as this person did, before hurrying on my way. Yes, I would approve of her. She's not perfect, she does care, and I bet she even made more overtures of being sorry when she saw you in the restaurant. She might also have noticed your limp, and been more sorry. There's no indifference here.
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It seems I expected too much from her in this scenario. Everyone said the same thing. Okay. I can see from your own perspective. Thank you.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
6 May 23
@RubyHawk Well, I have second thoughts now, that perhaps I was expecting so much from someone who may be anxious and in a hurry. So, I should give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm not the stubborn type, I see reason when I ought to. No worries.
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@dgobucks226 (36213)
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5 May 23
As with some of the comments I'd have to agree she was not rude. She did help the person up and apologized, two acts which show a degree of concern and not indifference.
I would not judge the person on just one incident, accidents happen and her reaction upon seeing the woman could be interpreted as being truly sorry and embarrassed.
But we all have our own perspective on what is considered rude so, yes asking if the person was alright would have been the topping on the cake wouldn't it.
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@dgobucks226 (36213)
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9 May 23
@Jenaisle Anytime! It's no fun being all alone in defending a position
@youless (112862)
• Guangzhou, China
5 May 23
Perhaps she was really in a rush as she didn't want to be late to the important appointment. I think this is OK. At least she helped me and said sorry when she made a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes and I think it is alright when they realize they are wrong and make an apology.
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@snowy22315 (186232)
• United States
6 May 23
I actually wouldn't have expected more, especially it today's time and age.
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@allknowing (141857)
• India
6 May 23
I would not judge a person based on just one encounter
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@rebelann (113387)
• El Paso, Texas
5 May 23
In the first place I would want to establish which person was a fault, if it was me at fault for not watching where I was going then I would not begrudge her but if it was her carelessness I would not want her in my family but is there a mother out there who can stop her son from marrying the woman he wants?
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@RebeccasFarm (92682)
• United States
5 May 23
Well I surely cant tell my son anything to do he is a grown man.
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@Tampa_girl7 (51966)
• United States
5 May 23
She did stop and help you up. Perhaps she was in such a rush to meet her boyfriend’s mother she temporarily forgot some of her manners.
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@wolfgirl569 (112632)
• Marion, Ohio
5 May 23
She did help you up and didn't know you at that time. So not indifference
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@LindaOHio (184082)
• United States
5 May 23
She helped you up and apologized. I would have no problem with that. Have a good weekend.
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@zhangxueying (3364)
• China
5 May 23
More understanding is needed to determine the character of this person
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