A Small Rant ...

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@DWDavis (25805)
United States
May 16, 2023 7:36pm CST
... about whose retirement is it anyway. This morning, K informed me that once I retire, she expects me to take over ALL the housework, laundry, shopping, and cooking, including getting up with her each morning at 5:30 a.m. to cook her breakfast and make her lunch to take to work. I grunted and nodded and thought to myself that my poor wife is becoming delusional in her not-quite-as-old-as-me-yet-old age. She keeps thinking up things for me to do once I retire. It hasn't occurred to her that I might have things I want to do. Me thinks my lovely missus may be in for a rude awakening when she realizes her wish is no longer my command. Am I going to regret not kowtowing to her demands or will she have an epiphany and realize it is my retirement after all?
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (110485)
• Marion, Ohio
17 May 23
You know you will do that stuff with a smile
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
18 May 23
I already do 1/2 or more of it. I would have done more on my own. It was receiving the command ordering me to do it that put a burr under my saddle.
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
19 May 23
@wolfgirl569 No, she didn't. In 34 years of marriage, she's never said anything in fun.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (110485)
• Marion, Ohio
18 May 23
@DWDavis Maybe she meant it in fun
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (344704)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 May 23
Good luck with this. Don't forget to keep us updated. I'll await them with great interest!
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
18 May 23
It will depend if I have time to get on myLot once I take over all the household duties.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (344704)
• Rockingham, Australia
18 May 23
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Amber
@AmbiePam (95581)
• United States
17 May 23
Quite frankly, you seem to be such a nice guy that you'd end up doing a lot of that without having to be asked. Although, I wouldn't expect anyone to be getting up at 5:30am when they retire unless they're taking a spouse for an early morning operation.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (95581)
• United States
18 May 23
@DWDavis It certainly would have been nicer for her to have come home giving you the benefit of the doubt that you'd act on your own volition.
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
18 May 23
We currently share the household chores pretty evenly. K plans for me to do all of them once I retire. I would have anyway, but don't appreciate being commanded to do so.
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Four Walls
@FourWalls (70632)
• United States
17 May 23
My dear mother of blessed memory used to say that her mother would say “want in one hand, (poop) in the other, and see which one fills up first.”
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Four Walls
@FourWalls (70632)
• United States
18 May 23
@DWDavis — I don’t think it’s a philosophy that produces successful marriages, but…..
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
18 May 23
My father had the same saying.
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DE
@DaddyEvil (139868)
• United States
17 May 23
Oh, that's funny! I can understand her thinking, though. If you weren't active in helping around the house while you and she both worked, then it makes sense for you to take over all the things she was doing but if you both took care of the housework, then yeah, she's going to be surprised that you aren't willing to take over her part of the housework just because you aren't also working a full-time job. You might want to speak up about this before that time actually arrives, just so she's aware you aren't willing to be her slave. She may not like being surprised like that.
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
18 May 23
The thing is, I've always been active in helping with the household chores, doing my fair share, and more.
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DE
@DaddyEvil (139868)
• United States
18 May 23
@DWDavis Then nothing should change... You've both done your fair share. No changes needed.
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Fleur
@Fleura (30827)
• United Kingdom
17 May 23
So just checking - up to now, who does those jobs - the housework, laundry, shopping, and cooking, getting up each morning at 5:30 a.m. to cook breakfast and make lunch to take to work? Because if it happens that it has been her, it's payback time for sure!
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
18 May 23
Up to now, we've shared the household responsibilities. I clean the bathrooms, wash the dishes, help with the laundry, do 1/2 the cooking, and we usually shop together. Her plan is that once I retire, I'll do 100% of all these things.
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Fleur
@Fleura (30827)
• United Kingdom
18 May 23
@DWDavis Fair enough. In that case you have earned the time to do your own thing! Let us know how it works out.
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April
@thislittlepennyearns (63324)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
18 May 23
Maybe its all part of her evil plan to keep you working, and not retire.
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DW Davis
@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
19 May 23
It could be. Maybe I should find a job that involves a lot of travel to far-off places and requires long stays. Then she'd notice how much I actually do around here.
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John Beasley
@Beaser (391)
• United States
23 May 23
Without knowing a whole lot more about your marriage through the years it's really difficult to comment. Like you, my wife is younger than me and most mornings she gets up with me and makes me something to eat on my ride to work and makes my lunch. So if I were to retire before she did I wouldn't have any problem trying to do these things for her. But she probably wouldn't enjoy what I be making for breakfast / lunch. I also know that once she was out the door, I'd be crawling back into bed or doing some of the things I want to do.
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