Should I talk to my mom about the stuff I have found out
By becca650
@becca650 (60)
Canada
December 1, 2006 3:23pm CST
About a week ago I found out alot of stuff that I just don't know where to go with. I found out that my dad is not my 28 year old sisters dad. I also found out that my mom was cheating on my dad for 4 years with his best friend, and that my dad cheated on my mom with one of my aunts when I was newborn. I got all this info from my dads best friend I have no reason to ???? it. it is just that my sister is going to have a baby just after christmas and I just don't know how my mother is going to react to me knowing all of this . I don't look at anyone different ! I just don't know if I should take this to my grave with me your talk to my parents about it! I am only 25! And have a child of my own I know that I could not keep it from her .
13 responses
@wiccan (347)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
Do everyone a favour, wait till after xmas or the day will be tense as ! If you can live with it ok do, it doesn't effect you as you said. If you are churning with it, get it out. Maybe ask yourself what was your dad's friend's reason for telling you in the fiirst place. If he feels he neds to unload, get HIM to tell your mother !
@becca650 (60)
• Canada
4 Dec 06
See the thing is , when i was 13 my Grandma told me that i was the one that was not her grandchild that is how it all started I asked him because asking my parents was just getting no where!And I knew that My mom had cheated on my dad with him I just got it from the horses mouth!
@SunnyDays (1070)
• Bahamas
2 Dec 06
Too much information all at once -Isn't it ?? I am sorry you have to deal with it BUT I definitely would talk to my Mom ...
Hopefully she can shed some light and give you some explanations you will need to understand ..
Just know that everything is not always black & white and that people do mistakes at times ..Don't judge just listen
Good luck
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I would talk to your mom about all of this as you have a right to have your questions answered. Id give it a little time and think about how you truely feel about the new information and what questions you want answered in other words go at it prepared and unoccusing.
@magdollars23 (1685)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I think you should talk to them about it just if only for the sake of hearing both sides of the story and not only going off of one source.
@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Sweetie, I think your mom is the one to talk too, just tell her what you know and what you said here that you don't look at anyone any differently, but you just need to understand what happened. hopefully your mom will be willing to explain things to you and help you work through your feelings about it...good luck, hun.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Absolutly you better talk to someone sounds pretty serious something you shouldnt even be worrying about. I would definetly talk to your mom. And good luck
@spcbrass (1190)
• United States
1 Dec 06
That seems like one hell of a load to bear all at once. You really need to think it over before talking to you family. I think it is ok to talk to them so long as you know what you are going to say and you can remain calm about the whole situation. I also hope that they can remain calm about everything as well. You are just 25 and have you whole life in front of you still. Never forget that either.
@mansonteen (486)
• Romania
1 Dec 06
i think you should other wise it will eat you iside for the rest of your life...if not now than after your sister delivers
@Lover_guy (17)
• India
2 Dec 06
I can understand how you would be feeling but its better not to convey your feelings to your parents.As it can just spoil everything.So better try to forget everything..!!
