How to deal with confusing people?
By Meli
@astutimeliana723 (4667)
Indonesia
May 24, 2023 9:15pm CST
Hello guys, good morning.
Now I'm going to invite you to discuss 'How to deal with confusing people'. I'm sure around you there must be people whose attitude is confusing, right?
I have a friend who we used to be very close to, telling each other many things, not a day without chatting. But lately he seems to be different, he no longer replies to my messages, only reads/opens them.
Then I try to stay away, don't text, and don't ask how I'm doing. But he also didn't look for me or ask how I was doing. I don't think I did anything wrong.
Yes, he is confusing, what do you think I should do, as a wise friend?
Now I'm going to invite you to discuss 'How to deal with confusing people'. I'm sure around you there must be people whose attitude is confusing, right?
I have a friend who we used to be very close to, telling each other many things, not a day without chatting. But lately he seems to be different, he no longer replies to my messages, only reads/opens them.
Then I try to stay away, don't text, and don't ask how I'm doing. But he also didn't look for me or ask how I was doing. I don't think I did anything wrong.
Yes, he is confusing, what do you think I should do, as a wise friend? 15 people like this
15 responses
@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
25 May 23
He has another friend ..he is cheating on you Meli
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
Pathetic, so I should just let it go?
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
25 May 23
@astutimeliana723 Well what else can you do if he does not respond or ask how you are at all? He is clearly not interested. And the more you contact, the more you will annoy him.
If he comes back to you, then see if you want to also ignore him now.
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
@RebeccasFarm I don't know, what is clear is that I was disappointed with his confusing attitude. Leaving me alone in confusion.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
25 May 23
@astutimeliana723 I’m serious. Why would you continue to call a person who doesn’t want to talk to you?
@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
I too I don't like it when people just misbehave towards me I go extra silent too
@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
Okay, thank you for your sharing.
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@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
25 May 23
I wouldn’t engage him again unless it is a casual hello or goodbye. Something changed, and perhaps someone else in life is causing him to cut off communication with you. If that is true, and you keep reaching out, you might come off looking a little desperate. If you’re meant to be friends again he’ll start to miss hearing from you, and will start connecting once more. But until then, I’d let him go, as difficult as that may be.
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@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
25 May 23
@astutimeliana723 Just remember, you deserve to be treated well. And you deserve respect.
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
Okay, I See. thank you for sharing.
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
@AmbiePam Good advice from you. Thank you very much.
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@sjvg1976 (41289)
• Delhi, India
25 May 23
@astutimeliana723 You should let him free.
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
But I've let him for a month, he's not looking for me.
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
@sjvg1976 Okay, thank you for sharing.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
26 May 23
@astutimeliana723 Get rid of toxic people.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
Which is so rude just going like that? I wouldn't allow him back to my life if I were her
@DaddyEvil (137487)
• United States
25 May 23
I think you should leave him alone for a while... It sounds like something is really bothering him but he'll only talk about it when he's ready... Guys are like that... He may miss you right now but needs to figure things out in his own head first.
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@DaddyEvil (137487)
• United States
25 May 23
@astutimeliana723 Some things really take time.
Is this your boyfriend we're talking about?
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
But it's been a month I left it alone.
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@jeanbug23 (992)
• Philippines
25 May 23
I've been there, I just ignore them. More, more patience is needed.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
I hate it when someone abuses my patience
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
25 May 23
If you were that close before, then you have to talk to him directly and ask him why. There must be a reason why he turned that way. But if he is your boyfriend and he didn't contact you for several days. Then let him be. You are sure you didn't do anything wrong, so it's his loss, not yours. Drop him like a hot potato.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
I agree with you it's always about them not us then she should move on
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
26 May 23
I do not find anything confusing about your friend. He perhaps wants to call it a day with you You should also move on
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
25 May 23
Maybe he had something in mind or has found another friend with whom he is enjoying his time.
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
Yes, Maybe. But that's okay. Thank you for sharing. 
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@stapllotik (1933)
• India
25 May 23
Give him space. Dont think too much about him??
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
But the space is getting wider a month? For me I can but after being given valid reasons
@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
25 May 23
Okay, I See. thank you very much.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
Just ask him straight tell him you don't understand his behavior and you not ready for such. If he doesn't answer just forget about him there's no need to keep a friend who's not interested. And I believe mature friendship is where someone communicates . So he chooses to go silent. Remember no response is also an answer
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
25 May 23
I try also for the benefit of doubt if nothing, I forget friends come and go and those who choose to stick with us, are our real friends
