I Am Thinking About Getting Married...
By Zain Ullah
@zainkhan121 (859)
Pakistan
May 27, 2023 2:33pm CST
So, I've been having this realization lately that it might be time for me to take the plunge and get married, you know? I've been getting these strong urges to have my own little rugrats to hug and play with. But, gotta admit, I'm a bit scared of what's gonna come with it. Will my freedom go out the window? Is marriage a tough gig to handle? Can I still live a happy life? And what if we're not on the same wavelength? These questions keep buzzing around in my noggin.
Hey, all you married folks out there, I'd love to hear your insights! Hit me up with your wisdom and enlighten me on what it's really like!
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11 responses
@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
27 May 23
It's true but that's how life is and what we choose
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
27 May 23
@zainkhan121 after marriage you are bound to spend more time with your family and less with friends.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
27 May 23
It's true life will change but you can adjust to it accordingly with your partner many fear losing their freedom and the commitment that comes with it
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
27 May 23
@zainkhan121 You will know it once you are married, no one can tell you.
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@zainkhan121 (859)
• Pakistan
27 May 23
That's what I am thinking ... why is marriage not like a fun thing? Why do we have to adjust? Why don't things happen our way as per our wishes?
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
27 May 23
@sjvg1976 true no formula for conducting yourself when you married
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@allknowing (137771)
• India
30 May 23
You need to define what you mean by freedom. Surely hanging out with your friends for example in the same way you do now will take a back seat but spend more time with your wife. There are so many little things that will change. There will be someone in your life who would want to know about your financial standing, et al.
The secret to a happy marriage is to be ready for change.
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@kaylachan (71773)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 May 23
Don't force it. Make sure you're marrying for love and that you actually care about the person you're getting married to. You're going to have fights, ups and downs. But, that's where mutual love and respect come in.
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@1creekgirl (41750)
• United States
28 May 23
Is marriage a tough gig? Yes it is. But it's worth it.
My advice is courtship of at least a year. Consider your religious beliefs, whether you both want children or not, don't give up when it gets boring. And it will at times, but keep the fun and romance alive. Talk to each other!
We've been married 57 years and it's been really hard at times. But we're both so thankful we didn't give up.
Best wishes to you!
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@zainkhan121 (859)
• Pakistan
29 May 23
I think this only one energy that keeps you together for this long and obviously that is love I think you are lucky in that department
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
28 May 23
Marry someone who not only loves you, but also accepts your extended family. Because it often happens that someone doesn't get along with their in-laws or in-laws.
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@zainkhan121 (859)
• Pakistan
29 May 23
This is where people get it wrong I think in-laws or not compulsory for marriage if a girl doesn't want to live with her in laws it is her choice and it should be respected to avoid any sort of problems in the future
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@astutimeliana723 (4667)
• Indonesia
29 May 23
@zainkhan121 The problem is that the girl only loves her husband, but does not accept the existence of a family from the husband's side.
@jstory07 (139965)
• Roseburg, Oregon
28 May 23
Love is great with the right person. You have to get along together and be really happy with each other.
@LadyDuck (472114)
• Switzerland
28 May 23
My husband did not lose freedom after we got married. BEFORE getting married you must be sure you are "compatible". I mean your marriage would not be happy if you do not like the same things and each of you would like to do everything differently from the other.
@DaddyEvil (137636)
• United States
27 May 23
Have you found the right, or maybe the wrong, girl first? That may be a big obstacle in the way of getting married and having kids.
I've been married and divorced twice... 
I might not be the best person to ask your questions. 
I might not be the best person to ask your questions. 
@zainkhan121 (859)
• Pakistan
29 May 23
No sir I think you are the best person to ask for such an experience, ??
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@JudyEv (342077)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 May 23
First you need to love and respect your spouse, and they need to do the same. And you will need to work at your marriage. Everyone has rough patches but they can be worked through if both people are determined to see their marriage work.
