My brain never shuts off/I might have undiagnosed ADHD

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Growing up I found concentrating difficult at times but I don't think I ever thought that I might have ADHD. I learned how to concentrate and found I genuinely loved learning which is what ultimately helped me focus. That said my brain never shuts off. I'm always thinking. I don't just think about the mundane everyday things. I think about life, I think about people, I think about our purpose, I think about why things are the way they are, and I think about my past, present, and future. My brain just jumps from one subject to the next and I have a difficult time turning it off. I think deeply about a lot of things. Maybe one of the reasons my posts are always so long is because my brain doesn't shut off. I can't just talk about what I ate for lunch. That's not exactly how my brain works. I think about the complexities of life and the how and why behind things. I love researching things and learning about things. I read a lot of nonfiction books and when I do read fiction books they're often about things that could happen in real life even if it is pushing on the edge of reality at times. I don't care much for the fantasy genre. I have never been one who enjoys remaining curious I look for answers. During my break, I've been reading a lot. I read three books in a week. I would have read more but I ran out of books. I need to go back to the library. My brain never shuts off so I find that reading a book I enjoy helps shut out everything else and it's nice not to be in my own thoughts sometimes. My husband often gets annoyed with me thinking I'm purposely ignoring him but I don't. I can't seem to turn off my thoughts and I get lost in them. It's tough sometimes trying to stay in the here and now at times especially when there's something that sparks my thought process. I can usually control it but I can't always. My husband and I have two very different brain types. My husband is super handy. which I am not. I am more introspective and book-smart but I am horrible with being hands-on. I can be creative depending on what it is but as a whole, I'm not super creative. He just doesn't understand why I am the way I am at times probably the same way I can't always understand why he can't write down how he feels. I don't understand not being able to decipher your feelings and write them down because that's always been something I could do probably because my brain is always moving and the only way to keep up is to write it down. My mind is a lot like the book "If You Give A Mouse A Cookie" where the mouse keeps being sidetracked because he goes to do one thing but then that reminds him of something else and that's kind of how my brain works. It doesn't always make sense to other people around me because they aren't in my head but it all links up somewhere. My mind thinks at a very fast pace and I just don't know how to turn it off sometimes. My son is a lot like me. HIs one teacher told me that my son is always thinking and I could immediately relate whereas my husband's oldest son is like my husband and is very hands-on making something out of nothing. It's interesting to see how different people's minds work. I don't know how to shut off my mind a lot of the time which makes me seem as though I am not paying attention or don't care but it has nothing to do with that as much as my brain just wanders. If I were a kid today they probably would have diagnosed me with ADHD but back when I was a kid it was being diagnosed mostly by how boys brains worked. Since I was doing well in a lot of areas they didn't consider it. As a kid, I struggled a lot but ultimately wasn't doing bad enough for them to be concerned and I learned to cope on my own in my late teen years and did well in school so they never suspected anything was wrong and they've found there are probably a lot of women that weren't diagnosed with it despite probably having it because we seem to handle things differently than boys and seem to be able to cope with it better. I've talked to a lot of women who all seem to share similar traits with me but weren't diagnosed with it despite having all of the symptoms as a person with ADHD by today's standards.