Not my responsibility at all

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Hi and Hello fellow lotters! Im back again with another topic to share and discuss. I am not sure if I have shared here that I am not in good terms with my dad. I grew up not knowing who he was, I mean my mom and dad parted ways even before I wad born. And I guess thats the reason why mom is not that fair with me too. I mean she has her favorite child and Im not one of them , plus the fact that I look like my dad thats why it always triggers her anger. I knew my father when I was 33 years old already and now Im running 41 . A random message was sent on my social media account saying I should add up this certain name and its my father. To make the story short , we met without my mom's knowledge . A lot of stories were told as to why they get separated. He re married and so is my mom and I have siblings from my dad and siblings from my mom and Im the eldest. In one conversation we had , he mentioned that he wants to file a complaint against my mom for what she did to him and for using his surname with my mom's child who are not his kids. They are not legally separated yet, so my mom is still using his surname even in the birth certificates of my siblings. I cant believe Im hearing those from him. Even though my mom is not fair with me , She never left us .She fed us and clothed us.I answered back out of frustration and told him its not my responsibility to make a move so that they can get together. I dont know but He always make gestures that is very annoying then He would tell me thats his revenge. He never make up for the lost times as father . He also told me that He wants to bring me to Saudi Arabia in Al Khobar thats where he is staying now together with his second family. But Im not close with them. He never introduced me to them too but his wife knew about me and his past. I told him I will be with mom even though she is a little unfair with me and that I dont know him that much even if He is my dad , he never instilled trust between us first and he wanted the easy option . I told him that I dont think mom would listen because she is really angry and mad at him . Its been years again that I haven't got any message or call from him. But I will stay with mom no matter what . Its clear to me that he only wanted revenge and not to know me at all. I have this feeling that he is only using me to get through mom for revenge. Although there are times that I miss him too but I think things between them wont end if they dont listen to each other , its hard to be coming from a broken family. Im just surviving the pain day by day . Good thing my mental health is strong because I always have this mindset that only I can help me. Just a question , If you were on my shoes how will you feel seeing your dad say those words to your mom? And, will you go and live with your dad? Or will you stay with your mom who never left?