Forgiveness is not easy….

Why do I take it in anoy way, when I forgive from my heart, I just became happy no other many thoughts

Forgive the people who have hurt you but be careful from them so that they can never repeat it.

I can easily forgive, but I don't easily forget.

It takes time to forgive people who wronged you and when it comes, you will be at peace

You are right, forgiveness dos not take off the pan, but sometimes it's the only way to move on and try to forget what happened.

There were times when I have forgiven some but they came back again to bite me in the back LOL

It is, how you understand forgiveness. The concept differs from person to person. Some people are capable of putting everything behind, and starting afresh. At times it is the need too. When it is not needed, that is when the concept differs. We can kinda afford to carry on our grudges. I find it easy to ostracize those who hurt me. I dump them like hot potatoes. Ostracizing helps to keep them out of picture...thereby my mind is free to address other issues. Soon other things become more important and there is enough joy in my life leaving me with little time to think of them. A stage is reached when we can think of the hurt they rendered dispassionately. When I reach that level, I believe I have forgiven them. Kinda, god has compensated me. The stage of being unforgiving is, you are continuously thinking about them, and wanting to hurt them verbally mostly, and anything that harms them makes you feel happy, and you are constantly keeping tabs on them. Frustration builds up because the verbal stuff imagined cannot be unleashed, and you cannot express joy at their sorrows out of fear that others will think ill of you, and wasting time on keeping track of good and bad happening in their life is hardly gonna increase our bank balances. We can always still feel good when something bad happens to them. But simultaneously feel, thank god I didn't do this...