How do you deal with your in-laws?

i get along with all my in laws are really great. my mother in law and i are really good friends. we do all kinds of things together shopping, lunch, dinner and so on. i am really lucky to have such great inlaws. my husband loves my family too. he says hes lucky to have a great mother in law. its nice to all get along.

Dealing With Your In-Laws: 10 Tips # First and foremost, accept that your in-laws aren't your parents. As a result, they aren’t likely to have the same ways of doing things or the same sets of rules as your parents did. Compromise on differences that are less important, and negotiate those that are more essential. # Realize and accept that you can't change someone else; you can only change yourself. Build better relationships with your in-laws by recognizing your role in any conflict(s). # Think of your in-laws as a potential resource to expand your support network. Get to know them by spending time with them, listen to them, and create a reciprocal relationship where they can get to know you. Try and engage in some social activities that are compatible with your in-laws. # Create a separate relationship from your spouse with your in-laws. This is very important to nurture a family environment at home and decrease future marital conflict(s). # If you are experiencing conflicts with your in-laws, talking to your spouse to get their opinion is a good thing; however, making your spouse the middle person to solve your conflict(s) with your in-laws and his or her parents is not fair. This is a life long relationship with your in-laws; learn to deal with them in a pleasant way. # Host a formal event to meet the in-laws. Serve food that you have cooked with your own hands. # Always remember: keep things in perspective. Clashes with your mother-in-law may actually intensify, as you get older. A newly married young woman may not be very confident about her own opinions, and if she has a mother-in-law who says things ought to be done this way, it's harder to challenge her. But by the time a woman is middle-aged, she is normally a well-established adult who has her own strong opinions and feels more confident. As a result, she's more likely to confront her mother-in-law head-on. Ouch! # In-laws can't start to relax with each other until they achieve mutual acceptance. Like anything worth having, this process takes time. If you can make it to this stage, you're well on your way to a sturdy friendship. # Don’t live with your in-laws unless it’s absolutely necessary. It’s true – as the saying goes: “distance makes the heart grow fonder.” However, if you do plan to live with your in-laws, or you already do so, make sure that you have open lines of communication. It might be helpful to have a heart-to-heart with your in-laws explaining your likes, dislikes, and personal boundaries; and give them an opportunity to do so as well. This can help in avoiding any misunderstandings. # Be respectful of your in-laws by paying public and private tribute where appropriate, making sure you are sincere in giving that tribute.