My husband and I are very different in a lot of ways

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Sometimes I can't help but think about how different my husband and I are. We have very different personalities and often we even each other out but it's also often these differences that cause our arguments because we just can't always relate. I am laid back, and calm (at least on the outside), I don't like causing drama, I am very fun-loving in my own way but hate being super social, and dread going to basically any kind of big party but like more intimate gatherings from time to time. My husband is high-strung, quick-tempered, dramatic at times, sometimes outgoing, and makes friends everywhere but is more serious than me most of the time. He can be funny or goofy but more often than not he is more serious and misses jokes because he can't tell when someone is joking. He isn't afraid to be goofy though which is the part of him I love most. He makes friends easier but has a harder time keeping them than I do. I am more likely to make lifelong friends than he is even though it takes me longer to make them. He just doesn't like keeping up with people and takes things too personally sometimes. He is also polite, kind, and very smart despite not believing he is. He would do almost anything for anyone. He is also incredibly hardworking. He has to be moving while I enjoy just sitting and enjoying my surroundings. He loves spending time with me but I really enjoy being alone sometimes and really need it in order to function. I used to be super difficult to annoy when I was younger but the older I get I find I'm more easily annoyed but I am not one to complain and often just sigh and try to control my annoyance and eventually let it go. My husband is quick to snap at people and often regrets it. We are all more than our worst traits much the way he is. He has so many good traits but we are both so polar opposites in some ways and not in others but I've found our differences often help us in some areas. He makes the phone calls I despise making and takes charge in a lot of areas where I am not comfortable and I am usually the calm in the storm. We both have our roles in our relationship and sometimes it's these differences that cause our arguments. I go through moments where if I were a more violent person I would love to smack him and his occasional arrogance but I have never raised a hand to anyone since I was a child (my brother and I fought a lot) and I am not about to start now and I know I annoy him with my occasional indifference over things he finds important. They are things we have both had to work on over the years. It would be really easy to let our anger take over but neither of us ever has. My husband actually freaks out with how calm I am at times when I should be furious because I have never been one to let my emotions take over because I'm terrified of what I'd do and I'd have a lot of regrets. My point is there have been some really bad spots in our marriage where our differences have almost ruined our relationship but then there have been moments where those same differences are what has kept us afloat and we've used them to keep us together. When you love someone you don't let your differences be the cause for your breakup. You do your best to work through things. I have times where I am beyond frustrated with him but it always comes back to the love we have shared. In between every bad moment, there have been a bunch of good ones. The longer you are with someone the more hurdles you will have and things aren't always going to be easy but it's those good moments that keep you going. Our differences are what make us who we are as much as our similarities which we do have. We have a lot in common too. Our personalities are just different in a lot of ways but it would be so boring and just as annoying if he were a lot like me. I would hate having to deal with someone with my annoying traits. We both do share stubbornness but I usually win out on that front. I am a lot more stubborn than he is. I also have a lot more pride than he does. He is willing to do whatever it takes to make something work even if that means he has to humiliate himself to do it whereas I'd suffer in silence rather than tell anyone my problems.