If you gave a child up for adoption in your teenage years,

What a question. I personally never gave up a child for adoption. But, if I were entering a marriage I would want my fiance to know everything about me. Why start a life with someone with secrets. It is best to lay the cards out on the table.

I would tell them before. if you love them you would be honest. Secrets tend to come back and bite you in the butt

i would tell him when i know that we are going to be a family. its out of respect and also ,so that it does not come up and make him think you where hiding something.if he loves you,he will understand

I think honesty is the best policy all around, for this and any other traumatic event that could come up in your life later! I would definitely tell my significant other, once we are 'intimate' enough to have it be his business. Just dating, no... more intimate... yes.

I would probably tell them before the wedding. I would not tell someone if we are not serious. If he can't or won't accept it, then he is not the one for me.

Thank goodness, I dont have to worry about that. It would be a tough decision to know when to tell him but I know I would tell him before we were married. He would deserve to know up front. A marriage should never have secrets.

I was never in this position thankfully but yes once the relationship becomes serious and before marriage then O believe that the other person in the relationship should be told. Keeping secrets is no way to start off a marriage and they cannot be kept either as sooner or later someone will tell. Even worse would be if the child came to find their birth parent and then it would come out, or else the child would have to be rejected. I also think that once the relationship is serious, and before the engagement and marriage, then the other partner should be told. If they cannot accept it, then you are better off without them however if they were told later then they might resent the fact that you didn't trust them enough to tell them earlier. Remember too that males father these children which are given up for adoption, so that aspect should also be considered rather than just the birth mother giving up the child. So, that is why I have tried to keep my response gender neutral.