As a parent....
By soldenski
@soldenski (2503)
United States
26 responses
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Dec 06
i do not have any kids - but my mom followed me as support when I had an abortion.
Sometimes abortion is just necessary coz there are things that we can not controll in life.
My mom supported me through it all, although she is not really for abortion!
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Good for you mom, you are very lucky to have a mother who would support you regardless if is not something she would do.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
19 Feb 07
I am - my mom is the best and she also says now that she realises that it was the best thing for me at the time, since it wasn´t really my choise to get pregnant in the first place =(
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@momofvma (71)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I would have to say it would depend on the how it was handled. If my daughter and I sat and talked it over, looked at all the options and she really really thought about it, even though I don't believe in it and it is against our religion, if it was her choice then I would support her in her decision even if that meant me taking her to the appointment.
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@soldenski (2503)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Well, I don't think I could live with myself, if I did not help her by taking her to a good reputable doctor and she went and had it done in a parked car or something just as bad. Thanks for your reply
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Yes! I could do it. Even though I am sure those that know me...know that I would never personally get an abortion...and I have seven children to prove that. I could take my daughter, if that was what she was certain that she would want to do.
It would not be a decision I would take lightly. I would first talk to her about to find out what is going through her head that made her come to that decision. I would want to make sure that she knew what all her options were. As long as she knew and understood all her option and had given it great thought and consideration...and that is what she truly decided. I would take my daughter. It is her decision and I can not make it for her. But I certainly would want to be there for her to help her and love her like any loving mother would do with their child is in pain.
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@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Oh wow I have never thought of that. I don't know how'd I feel. I'm against it but there are reasons I am for it like rape or incest. But you know it's easy to say your against something until it happens to you. I honestly don't know if I could.
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Thanks for your honesty, it is a hard thing to do, I imagine. Although, I am pro-choice, I don't think I could have an abortion, go figure!!!
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
16 Feb 07
This is one of those contaversal questions. No I would not take her and I would encourage her to not get an abortion. I think it is murder and I would not be responsible for murder of a baby. I would help her in other ways. I would take care of her and help her to find a good family to adopt the baby. I love children and I would love to have a baby but I think a child would have a better chance away from the community.
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@soldenski (2503)
• United States
18 Feb 07
So what if your daughter does not believe in putting a baby up for adoption. I don't think I could go around, live my life, knowing that somewhere out there, I have a child. I would spend my time looking at kid's face's to see if I would find a resemblence. I am not closed off to abortion, I see your point in thinking it is murder, but I believe we should have the option of having an abortion, if the woman wanted it.
@livewyre (2450)
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20 Feb 07
This is an awful scenario to think about, but what you are saying sounds a bit odd... what if your daughter (who 'believes' in abortion) does not 'believe' in adoption?? How can this thinking be appropriate? I can't imagine there ever being an argument that says I believe in abortion, but I'm taking a stand against adoption... am I misunderstanding what you are saying?
If the girl in question said 'I really can't go through with the pregnancy' then I could understand that argument, but you can't seriously mean that she could take a stand and more or less say it is better for the child to die than be adopted?
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
19 Feb 07
It's just a discussion not a real life situation (Thank God) and if my daughter was pregnant, she would never think of having a abortion. She is pro-life and I am pro-choice. I am glad she has her own view's and stand's up for them.
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
2 Dec 06
Being a parent it would be very tough taking your daughter to get an abortion, knowing that she could be risking never being able to have children again and knowing that she will suffer from this for the rest of her life. As her mom though, I would support her decision and love her regardless.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Yes if, after talking about it thoroughly and with our doc she decided thats what she wanted to do then of course I could and would..I'd also give her a good blasting for being careless mind you but yea...
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@ricky1209 (1675)
• India
30 Dec 06
well its tough for a mother or father when their kids want to damage theirself...
i,m notin favour that u should encourage her to go for an abortion...
but if she want then let her do what she want ...
just being a good parent help her to recover from the situation...
@kyekye (123)
• Australia
17 Feb 07
I have 3 daughters, 2 of which are teenagers, so pregnancy is something that I have thought about, as I was a teen parent myself. I dont think I could ever take my daughter to have an abortion. I am against abortion, especially when people use it as a form of contraception :( I would have to talk at length with my daughter about it, and weigh up the pro's and con's about a decision on what to do. But I doubt very much that abortion would come into it at all. I see it as immoral and inhumane, except in very extreme circumstances.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Feb 07
I'm not really sure if i could do it. I would definitely sit down with her and talk to her about it, and if she decided that it was what she wanted to do (after all possible solutions were talked about)then I would support her decision. I will make sure that I am with her every step of the way and that she is not left alone.
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
12 Feb 07
And in the end, when all is said and done, helping her in any decision is what matter's. Even if she decide's to give it up for adoption (ouch) or keep it. Thanks for your reply.
@sabsta2006 (241)
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13 Feb 07
Personally i do not believe in abortion but if she had seriously thought about it and really thought that thiis was the best optoin for her then i would support her decision. i would let her know all the available options first!
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@soldenski (2503)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I have a 15 year old daughter, and if she got pregnant (Heaven forbide) and wanted to have a abortion, I would support whatever she decide's to do. (she is against abortion, and that's her right also) I on the other hand am pro-choice, I can't fathom the thought of giving up my child for adoption, it would kill me thinking of the baby, and where it's at.
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
10 Jan 07
no, i dont think i really could do that.I will help her take care of the child and make sure my daughter will finish school and go on to college.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
2 Jan 07
I had a scare with my daughter a couple of years ago.She became pregnant and unfortunately miscarried.We had a discussion about whether abortion was an option for us and she was totally against it.I did agree with her,the child is innocent.
@mygreyparrot (1461)
• United States
2 Dec 06
No, I just couldn't do it. I'd probably try to suggest other alternatives to her. I'd hope that she'd want to keep the baby and become a good mother.
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@sabado_nights13 (42)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
NO....NO... ABORTION...pls...let him to see our beatiful world.....
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