Do you enjoy arguing?

My stomach ties up in knots if people close to me start arguing. I just can't deal with it.

That's the issue I think. Staying respectful even if you might disagree.

I know what you're saying. I always lose arguments because I can't think quick enough although people always say I'm very quick to say something funny or pick up on something but I can't think quick enough to dispute something.

@JudyEv Yes, seems impossible to do with some topics.

If the parties can discuss/dispute something but remain respectful, that's the issue I think.

Haha, I can imagine that would piss them off but fair enough in my opinion if you weren't stopping them in whatever they wanted.

Yes, Porwest was always ready for a bit of a wrangle. He's another one I haven't seen around lately.

@JudyEv I haven’t seen him in a long time and there are others I haven’t seen lately.

Good for you. Sometimes I wish I was a bit more assertive.

I prefer to do that too.

I haven't seen you on myLot in quite a while. I hope you and your family are all doing well.

@DaddyEvil I try to pop in from time to time, but sometimes life gets mighty crazy. We are great, how are you both?

It really stresses me out of I'm in a group and two start arguing.

@JudyEv Judy, I love that!

Vince is a really quick thinker too. I'm been known to tell him that he no longer has a secretary and to stop treating me like one.

Welcome back if I haven't said it before but I think I have. I've noticed you're one who doesn't mind putting forward your point of view. Which is great, don't get me wrong. I'm probably better 'arguing' on paper where I have time to organise my thoughts and think things over.

@porwest What you say is very true but sometimes it's easy for a discussion to escalate into a full-blown argument.

@JudyEv I tend to be one who believes that sharing points of view sometimes accomplishes things while not arguing accomplishes nothing. But it depends on the nature of the argument. The best result of an argument is finding common ground, but in order to do that one has to enter an argument with somewhat of an open mind and the ability to digest the points in a way that they can be better understood. Minds are rarely changed, but arguments also offer a perspective on why someone feels the way they do about something, and through that sometimes one can think more about their own opinion and find that commonality in it. It's like politics. The left and the right BOTH want higher wages. The difference is in how we think about what's the best way to do it. The left wants to force it and do it artificially, for example, while the right wants to foster a strong economy and a competitive labor market to do it.

Yes, it's nice sometimes to have a bit of an argument with close friends and family.