What is Up WIth You
By G
@freelancermariagrace (27755)
Philippines
October 16, 2023 4:13am CST
It's 5 p.m. here, and it's raining cats and dogs. I walked outside to grab my clothes when I discovered that the unit next to me was using my hangers without my permission. He's been acting this way since he moved in. I ignored him the first time he snatched my cleaning towel. I thought that he could require one to tidy things up.
When I noticed the towel on the table outside his unit, I took it because it was mine, anyway. I ignored him again the second time he took my rug. I didn't argue with him because he is an elderly person. I still have respect for the old, and it was just a rug. But this is the third time, and I do not think it's appropriate. I will no longer put up with his behavior. I will not approach him, but I will inform the landlord's caretaker. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
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@sharonelton (28700)
• Lichfield, England
16 Oct 23
That's really ignorant of him. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I live in a house with a separate garden, and anyway we dry our clothes inside, so I really don't know what I'd do if the same thing happened to me. I suppose I'd say, Excuse me, would you mind, that belongs to me. I don't know what else I could do. If I phoned the police they might not find it important enough to bother with. I don't know.
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
16 Oct 23
Yes. It's making me uncomfortable. It's never happened to me before. I can leave my hangers and rugs outside without fear of them being taken. When he moved in, such things happened. It's disrespectful to me. If he knows how to ask for permission, I can let him borrow them. Is it too hard to do? No, I don't think so.
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@sharonelton (28700)
• Lichfield, England
16 Oct 23
@freelancermariagrace I totally agree with you. I'm sorry it is making you uncomfortable. It is disrespectful to you and you shouldn't have to stand for it. He should ask for permission. No, it's not hard to do. It's rude.to.just take someone's stuff without asking!
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
17 Oct 23
@sharonelton Indeed. I do not take other people's stuff without asking for permission, so it makes me feel VERY irritated. 
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@RebeccasFarm (89832)
• Arvada, Colorado
17 Oct 23
I hate to say it, but even the elderly can be mean people.
Only worse with age..so imagine he was young..it is still not right and just because he is elderly and I understand you are so respectful Gracie, this does not allow him to steal your stuff.
If there is a caretaker to handle this, yes you are right..just go to him. I would.
I am sorry this is happening.
Neighbors can be so annoying.
I have a neighbor like this..she is so greedy, she wants everything that is not hers.
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
17 Oct 23
Yes, some elderly people are harsh. Maybe I just have a lot of respect for the elderly because one day I'll be like them and I want to be respected as well. Since I'm alone here, I'll turn it over to the landlord's caretaker. Nobody is going to defend me 
And, I am sorry that you have a neighbor who is also annoying. Just do your best to ignore her. 
And, I am sorry that you have a neighbor who is also annoying. Just do your best to ignore her. 1 person likes this
@RebeccasFarm (89832)
• Arvada, Colorado
17 Oct 23
@freelancermariagrace Yes I really do my best as I know you also Gracie...good luck with this.
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
18 Oct 23
@RebeccasFarm Thank you, my friend
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
18 Oct 23
Haha. I think I need to do the same thing!
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@moffittjc (121540)
• Gainesville, Florida
17 Oct 23
Is it possible that his cognitive abilities have diminished greatly, and he doesn’t realize what he is doing? I’m not trying to defend his actions, because they are wrong, but sometimes there’s more to the story than meets the eye.
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@moffittjc (121540)
• Gainesville, Florida
18 Oct 23
@freelancermariagrace Maybe he’s just not a good person. He should not be touching things that aren’t his.
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
18 Oct 23
No, I don't believe so. He is still working and driving his SUV. When I hear him talking to the landlord's caretaker, he can speak normally. He is old but he is still capable of doing things properly. I'm not sure. It is not appropriate for me to touch things that are not yours, especially when it is obvious that they are owned by others.
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@peachpurple (13962)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 23
I will tell him not to use or take my stuff even if it was his 1st timw doing it bcoz if u ignore him, he take it for granted
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
17 Oct 23
I guess you are right. I just want to avoid any confrontations because he is a senior citizen.
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
17 Oct 23
Well, it's best to ignore him since I've already informed the landlord's caretaker. If he knows how to ask for permission, I can let him borrow them.
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@snowy22315 (180358)
• United States
17 Oct 23
Yes I would tell someone or him..depending on whether I felt safe or not.
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@freelancermariagrace (27755)
• Philippines
18 Oct 23
I already told the landlord's caretaker about it
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