Horrendous Manners
By much2say
@much2say (55912)
Los Angeles, California
December 7, 2023 5:12pm CST
Oh, humankind . . . where oh where have your manners gone? You've shown such horrendous manners today and everyday . . . let me count the ways 
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I held the door open for a woman who was probably younger than me and she walked right on through - not a turn around nor thank you.
A young woman in the store dropped one of her items and I told her. All she said was "oh" and picked it up - again, no thank you.
Those are only a couple of minor examples from earlier.
The worst was seeing a car pull up behind and honking at an elderly lady and caregiver walking in the parking lot. The elderly lady shuffled her way as fast as she could as the car kept honking at them to move 
. I went up to the elderly lady to say how rude that driver was and she showed me her bum knee that was all bandaged up 
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Have good manners gone out the door? Is there no more respect for the elderly? Do you still practice and expect good manners?
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I held the door open for a woman who was probably younger than me and she walked right on through - not a turn around nor thank you.
A young woman in the store dropped one of her items and I told her. All she said was "oh" and picked it up - again, no thank you.
Those are only a couple of minor examples from earlier.
The worst was seeing a car pull up behind and honking at an elderly lady and caregiver walking in the parking lot. The elderly lady shuffled her way as fast as she could as the car kept honking at them to move . I went up to the elderly lady to say how rude that driver was and she showed me her bum knee that was all bandaged up .
Have good manners gone out the door? Is there no more respect for the elderly? Do you still practice and expect good manners?21 people like this
22 responses
@rebelann (112962)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Dec 23
So far I haven't been out and about much but on those occasions when I am out and about I can thankfully say I haven't seen anything like that. I've seen other people write about this kind of ill mannered stuff, too bad there isn't a way to slap them upside their skulls.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
People are just awful . . . I literally see some kind of incident every single day - rude people are everywhere. If you can stay away from it, you are most fortunate! It's another one of those things where you could say "If I had a nickel for every . . . "
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@celticeagle (168163)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 23
I think that this has a lot to do with less generational households. Grandparents used to live with the family and they taught the kids manners. Not so much anymore. Good manners have pretty much gone out of the window. Nobody cares. They are on the fast track.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
That may be true! Younger parents seem to allow phones/gadgets to occupy their children because that's what keeps them focused and quiet . . . but as soon as those are turned off or taken away, these kids just don't know how to behave . . . so in essence they haven't been taught to behave. Right - good manners - what's that, to them.
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@celticeagle (168163)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Dec 23
@much2say .......It's all in the family unit. They grow up seeing grow up seeing the adults do things and then they do it. It's that easy.
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@snowy22315 (182000)
• United States
8 Dec 23
There was no excuse for honking at the elderly woman. Lets hope the driver is elderly some day with a bandaged knee and someone is honking at him!
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@septabchips (1141)
• Nigeria
19 Dec 23
Why honking in the first place, why not patient? Too bad.
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
8 Dec 23
People are brutal today. So rude and entitled. I am sorry you experience it also.
Oh yes no respect for anybody I know.
Yes, I was spoken to yesterday by a supposed 'professional' as if I were a dunce. I soon gave her what for with my mouth. I give it right back to their ignorant attitudes.
But there are those, like that elderly woman, that are fragile and cannot. Disgusting.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
I love that you will speak your mind 
. Don't mess with OceanTiara!
But some folks just can't . . . they take it and the rude folks keep on doing what they do .
Disgusting - exactly. And brutal - yah - I don't understand how it has become this way 
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. Don't mess with OceanTiara!
But some folks just can't . . . they take it and the rude folks keep on doing what they do .
Disgusting - exactly. And brutal - yah - I don't understand how it has become this way .2 people like this
@septabchips (1141)
• Nigeria
19 Dec 23
You are right! People are so brutal these days. It's sad.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50607)
• United States
8 Dec 23
I can relate. People seem to be in their own little rude world.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
@Tampa_girl7 This seems to be happening everywhere - what is wrong with people these days?
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@jstory07 (139810)
• Roseburg, Oregon
8 Dec 23
@Tampa_girl7 The big question is why?
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
It seems like with each generation, it gets worse - about manners or lack of it anyway. I definitely see it in younger parents - so this must've been starting from a while back. Sad it has come to this - what will become of the people in this world in the future .
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@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
7 Dec 23
I am so sick of people like those in the car who honked at that lady. Of all people, leave the elderly alone. The others are rude too, and I wonder if I could go back to their parents to see the problem.
At the post office today I held open the door for two people at two different times, and they thanked me. So don't give up yet, girl!
The rude are everywhere, but we can overcome!
The rude are everywhere, but we can overcome!3 people like this
@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
What ever happened to taking care of and respecting our elders - that seems to not be a thing anymore. I am certain it has something to do with the parenting of these mannerless folks . . . it always starts from home.
Thankfully there are still those good mannered people - so there is still hope for sure. Hopefully setting an example to others can spread what decent human beings should be like!
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
8 Dec 23
I am glad to say that people still have good manners here. When I hold the door for someone I receive a smile and a "Thank You" and I thank you those who let me go first through a door. Honking at elders is terribly rude... they will be old one day!!!
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
You are most fortunate! I am glad to hear that people out your way still act like decent human beings. It is unbelievable how terrible people have become here. Or at least I should say the younger generation isn't being taught good manners . . . I don't understand the mindset of anyone who would honk at a limping elderly lady this way!! Right - just wait til these rude young ones become a senior someday!!
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
19 Dec 23
@much2say - Some young people are not as good as they used to be, but most young people still have good manners here. I notice that both the 20 years old son and the 18 years old daughter of my neighbors are very nice and polite. Also when we go grocery shopping, the young people inside the stores are usually helpful.
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@JudyEv (341803)
• Rockingham, Australia
8 Dec 23
That's very sad about the old lady. I know a woman who was broken down in a busy city street and when the guy behind started honking, she marched over to him and said something like 'You come and fix my car and I'll stand on the horn for you'.
I certainly use good manners. I think here most people are pretty good. I haven't encountered too much rudeness. Several times we've given presents - a personalised calendar and a little photo book of a young girl's life up to 21 so things we put a bit of effort into. We weren't able to give them personally but on both occasions we didn't get a thank you which we found a bit disappointing.
I certainly use good manners. I think here most people are pretty good. I haven't encountered too much rudeness. Several times we've given presents - a personalised calendar and a little photo book of a young girl's life up to 21 so things we put a bit of effort into. We weren't able to give them personally but on both occasions we didn't get a thank you which we found a bit disappointing.3 people like this
@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
I love it when someone can speak up for themselves!
Oh - I have experienced those thankless times regarding gifts too. It's rather disappointing considering the time and effort (and love) put into creating such gifts. I have stopped doing that for a long time now . . . I mean, I like making gifts, but my heart can't take it anymore.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
8 Dec 23
Yes, Good manners have really gone out of the door. Most people nowadays think, especially the youth that they have a right to be rude and exploit.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
Yes, the younger generation seems "entitled" - I don't understand this culture of rudeness - I certainly was not raised this way. It makes me wonder how the future of people will be someday - how can people be any ruder (but they can).
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
19 Dec 23
@much2say People nowadays think we they are rude they can get their way.
@septabchips (1141)
• Nigeria
19 Dec 23
Hmmmm....you are right on this. The youth seem uncultured.
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@thedevilinme (4152)
• Northampton, England
8 Dec 23
British people pride themselves on good manners.
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@MarieCoyle (38588)
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8 Dec 23
I have had doors opened for me several times lately. I always say thank you and that it's much appreciated. Maybe it's because of being sort of crippled from the dumb MS, but I have discovered that there are some young people in this world that will hold those doors and help when needed. Let's hope it becomes the norm again, rather than a surprise.
I think the most rudeness I actually notice is the way so many people treat store clerks and retail workers. Like dirt! They whine, yell, scream, and insult them, tell them they are stupid, and use a LOT of words no one wants to hear. These are workers who aren't the boss, they don't make the prices or the rules, but they are supposed to enforce them. I really hate it when I see that happen.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
It's nice to hear the stories of people still being decent human beings . . . right, it should not be a surprise. I wonder if part of it is people are in such a rush . . . they have no time to be patient with anything or anyone . . . just plow your way through to get what you need done .
Oh yes, I too noticed that about how store employees are treated. I hate the "Can't you open up another register!" . . . when they have no clue it's not just done that way. With this holiday shopping and stress, I've seen too much rudeness lately .
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Oh yes, I too noticed that about how store employees are treated. I hate the "Can't you open up another register!" . . . when they have no clue it's not just done that way. With this holiday shopping and stress, I've seen too much rudeness lately .2 people like this
@MarieCoyle (38588)
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19 Dec 23
@much2say '
People blame everything on the workers they actually see. Not enough workers, it's their fault, out of a certain item or items, it's their fault, it's just all their fault. They are just workers...they don't hire and fire, or make the rules, but they get all the dirt dished out on them daily.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16785)
• China
8 Dec 23
How ill-bred those people are ! Two women in question took others' help for grant,the driver was so inhumane and didn't care about the elderly's feelings.Even though they may be in the minority,they are a rotten apple.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Dec 23
Exactly. But sadly, many young people here have this sort of terrible attitude. Younger parents do not teach their kids good manners - and I think this has been happening with each past generation that it has gotten to this point. And then these mannerless kids grow up to be mannerless adults .
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16785)
• China
19 Dec 23
@much2say Yes,that is of concern to everyone.The apple doesn't fall far from the tree,from kid's behavior,you can roughly know what their parents are like.
@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
28 Jan
I try to practice good manners. One thing that really irritated my Mom in the past was youngsters who would smack their food (eat with their mouth open).
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
1 Feb
Oh my gosh - I remember that from childhood too. Not so much me, but I remember my mom saying that about other kids - and then I was too observant of it. I remember one specific friend who ate a tuna sandwich with her mouth open - it was kinda gross and I called her out on it 
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
17 Jan
I practice them as much as possible but sometimes I wonder if I was ever taught some.
For instance, two girls that happen to be twins that were coworkers with me always replied, 'very well, thank you', when asked how they were doing. I always answered or asked the person but no matter how hard I tried I never remembered to add on the thank you.
I did take several etiquette classes but they were mostly how to have manners while eating. I do try to say thank your or excuse me when appropriate.
Unfortunately, not everyone is taught the same set of manners or had no one to mimic correctly when they were growing up.
@LindaOHio (181320)
• United States
8 Dec 23
People are so rude these days. I expect good manners but rarely see them!!! Have a good day and weekend.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
28 Dec
@LindaOHio Hope the weather still continues to be on the warmer side for you! It's sunny but a bit chilly here - cannot complain though.
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@LindaOHio (181320)
• United States
22 Dec
@much2say The weather has been nice. We had a little bit of s**w; but it will be in the 50s on Christmas which is OK with me!!!
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@septabchips (1141)
• Nigeria
19 Dec 23
I don't know part of the world you are, but I can tell you that in Britain(UK) good manners and mutual respect are the order of the day. The use of words like "please" and "thank you" is a normal thing and people seem to say it genuinely and smile at one another.
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