If you forgive too many times, people get used to hurting you?
@RRossi (275)
December 11, 2023 4:23pm CST
This thought reflects an important truth about forgiveness. Forgiving is a noble act, but it is also essential to establish healthy boundaries in relationships. If someone perceives that forgiveness is automatic and without consequences, they may take advantage of that situation.
Forgiveness should be a deliberate and balanced process. It doesn't necessarily mean forgetting or allowing repeated harmful behaviors. It's important to set clear boundaries and communicate expectations to ensure that forgiveness is a mutual path of growth rather than a cycle of abuse.
In every relationship, open communication and mutual respect are fundamental. Forgiveness can be a powerful gift, but it is equally important to be treated with respect and reciprocity to maintain healthy and constructive relationships.
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@2ndchances24 (9124)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
12 Dec
I couldn't have said it better myself
you are so right, respect is key for
ANY relationship to work right.
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@2ndchances24 (9124)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
15 Dec
@RRossi Without respect things just don't work.
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@innertalks (21979)
• Australia
15 Dec
Does it matter if people hurt us, or not, though, and should we forgive, those who continue to hurt us, or not, too?
Reaching past the point of hurt finds you in love again, and so forgive, and let the other person take care of themselves, as each instant comes alive in the moment of forgiving, and the next instant does not come until it comes.
You can never forgive too many times, just as you must love without ending, too.
The usefulness of any life depends on the amount of love being lived from, and given out, and without this love, a life is, and can be never, ever truly fully lived.
Forgiveness is always a part of love being given out.
We should neither curtail our forgiveness then, nor our love.
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@innertalks (21979)
• Australia
15 Dec
@RRossi Yes, forgiveness, and love, often work hand in hand, and each is transforming in its own way, too.
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@RRossi (275)
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15 Dec
Absolutely, the matter of whether people hurt us or not is significant, and the question of whether to forgive those who continue to hurt us is a deeply personal and intricate one. Your perspective on reaching past the point of hurt and finding love again is a powerful reminder of the transformative nature of forgiveness.
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@RRossi (275)
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15 Dec
@innertalks Forgiveness and love do indeed often work hand in hand, and they possess transformative powers individually as well as collectively. Forgiveness has the capacity to release the weight of past grievances, fostering healing and personal growth. Simultaneously, love, whether expressed towards oneself or others, has the ability to nurture, uplift, and create positive connections.
The synergy between forgiveness and love creates a powerful dynamic that can bring about profound changes in individuals and relationships. Both are essential components in the journey toward understanding, compassion, and a more harmonious existence.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Dec
Of course there are limits. Maybe just stop fellowship with the person and keep a safe distance. It's not good to not forgive but if it's abused it's better to cut ties.
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