Does Your Husband Treat You Right?
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (166718)
Boise, Idaho
January 4, 2024 3:14pm CST
I am a traditionalist. I think that men should be gentlemen and treat their wives with respect and consideration. I have been watching an ex-scientologist on YouTube who talks about how her husband treats her. For instance, he is a member of the Freemasons and they were out on a fancy occasion recently. She said that this guy who had been a friend of her husband's for years came up to her and grabbed her bottom. Hard. She didn't say anything, just moved along. When she brought this up to her husband he told her it was okay and when she brought it up to him again more recently he said it had been taken care of.(I would have asked him how it had been taken of) I think two things are wrong here. #1 is that she needed to be more into her boundaries. She needed to express to this guy that she didn't care for that and to get his hands off of her. And, #2 is that her husband should have had words with the guy right then and there too. She said it happened another time and she did nothing again. I think she is asking for it. She doesn't say anything and that just tells him it's okay.
What are your thoughts on this issue? And does your husband treat you with respect?
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
4 Jan
I hope you meant that in a different way than women when someone "says she is asking for it" you equal that it's alright for another person regardless of there gender to touch someone.
Just because she can't approach the offender doesn't mean "she is asking for it" doesn't mean "she wants someone to do so." Clearly, she doesn't since she has said it now to her partner who is not a very good partner who would let this go. Yeah, maybe he did have words with that other guy when she wasn't around. Yes, he should have addressed this the first time when she said something and just saying "I addressed it doesn't mean someone has."
Yes, she should be more upfront for herself but not all people can do that. Not all guys would tell women when they get touched not to be touched. That doesn't mean "he was asking for it either." So think wisely how you say things because plenty of people think it's alright to touch without permission. If someone is uncomfortable and says something to you you should help them.
Respect is a two-way street no one person should have more respect than the other. Some women do want a rough guy but that doesn't mean he can't respect her, protect her, and make her feel wanted and loved. There are some guys that need a rough woman.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jan
Not sure about your first sentence. No, she wasn't asking for it. I feel she needs to speak up for herself and, her husband should not just shrug off such things. That isn't cool.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
@ShyBear88 ......I said just what I meant. She had the experience before with the same man and did nothing. So, to me. she was asking for the same treatment when it happened again. If she had done something the first time I doubt it would ever have happened again.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan
@celticeagle Your wrods where "she was asking for it" because she didn't say something then but waited to tell her partner how is that "She is asking for it" you should watch what you say.
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@Deepizzaguy (102596)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
4 Jan
I am a firm believer of treating my female the way I would like to be treated even though I am single. I have been told by others how would I like it if the shoe was on the other foot? No fun.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jan
That's a very good way of looking at it.
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@Deepizzaguy (102596)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
5 Jan
@celticeagle I was taught that when I was a child as well as watching sitcoms on television.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
@Deepizzaguy ........It is something, I think, that should be taught at home.
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@LeaPea2417 (37350)
• Toccoa, Georgia
5 Jan
My husband does treat me with respect. If that happened to me, he would immediately deal with it.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
It's good to be able to depend on your husband in this way.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
She should have done something. I hope she will next time.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Jan
@LadyDuck ......I flipped out when I saw her talking about this.
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@LadyDuck (471294)
• Switzerland
6 Jan
@celticeagle I agree and I hope she will react next time.
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@RasmaSandra (79687)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Jan
Before he passed and all through out years together my husband always treated me with respect and a lot of love and understanding. As far as that woman goes she is asking for it and at the time when the friend grabbed her bottom she should have smacked him across the face hard and her husband should have punched him in the nose,
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
I totally agree. She is working on a lot of self growth and this is all a part of it.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
That is great! I wish more fathers were like him.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
It should have been taken care of right then and there the first time it happened.
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@LindaOHio (178043)
• United States
5 Jan
There are so many things wrong with this scenario. I would not have ignored a grab on my bottom; and I would expect my husband to show his displeasure as well. Have a good weekend.
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan
Yes, I would too. I hope she acts differently if it happens again.
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