Accepting your life partners faults is not always possible
@aninditasen (16184)
Raurkela, India
February 9, 2024 7:37am CST
Marriage counselors usually say accept a person as he is if you want live peacefully as a married life. However after living 34years of married life I feel that we have to draw a line somewhere. All short comings or odd behavior cannot be accepted. My husband had a very reckless lifestyle. He didn't maintain any discipline where his meals were. He ate at any time he felt like and expected me to wait for him and eat at those same timings. This made me sick. So I had to put my foot down. I started having my breakfast lunch and dinner at the required time. He drank too much of tea that was the cause of his brain stroke that took his life. I did try my level best to coax him to reduce the number of times he took tea. He did reduce but a few months before he died I was ill and he went back to the pavilion. He was very suspicious and I had to protest about that because I have male colleagues too. To what extent did you accept your partner's faults?
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@RebeccasFarm (88703)
• Arvada, Colorado
9 Feb
Well, in my case, the 'faults' were life threatening to myself and my young son.
So there was no accepting this.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
9 Feb
That's what I am saying. At times the faults are uncompromising. You have to take some harsh decision then.
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@RebeccasFarm (88703)
• Arvada, Colorado
9 Feb
@aninditasen Yes, for someone to have extreme faults, it is unacceptable.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
10 Feb
@RebeccasFarm Yes, that's true. Some faults of partners are just unacceptable and they spoil the family peace.
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@marguicha (220272)
• Chile
9 Feb
Sometimes it is not a fault, but a different kind of life style. My husband´s work made him come at just any time for lunch. I put away a salad for me to keep him company, but ate when I wanted to and bought a microwave oven.
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@marguicha (220272)
• Chile
10 Feb
@aninditasen Fortunatly my husband did not even dream of getting angry at me for things like that.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
11 Feb
@marguicha You were a lucky wife. My husband was brought up like that with lot of odd habits and strange attitude.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
10 Feb
My husband got angry if I had my lunch before him. So I accepted first but had to protest when I started falling sick due to irregular meal timings.
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@snowy22315 (177347)
• United States
9 Feb
Some things are simply not acceptable. We shouldn't be expected to put up with things are unacceptable.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
10 Feb
That's what most Indian husbands don't understand. Just because the wife stays in the husband's house she is expected to accept whatever the husband does.
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@jstory07 (137893)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Feb
My husband and I get along perfect. I would except any faults up to the time my life was in danger.
@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
10 Feb
You are right. There has to be some adjustment in marriage but a line has to be drawn somewhere.
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@paigea (36322)
• Canada
10 Feb
@aninditasen I wouldn't like that. I eat what I like.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
11 Feb
@paigea I eat which is good for health and like too.
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@aninditasen (16184)
• Raurkela, India
10 Feb
My husband denied often if I offered him something even healthy but I was forced to accept and eat whatever he and his family ate to which I objected in my later age as it affected my health.
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