When Disaster struck!

@Prima23 (105)
Los Arcos, Spain
March 8, 2024 6:36pm CST
Right after I gave birth, my husband left us. He only came to visit once when the baby was 2weeks old. Till now he's never looked back to see how she's doing. He says I made him broke, something I still don't understand how I was responsible for. We had opened a small cafe but I was never involved with the finances. At first it was a grocery store which wasn't given time to stand before he changed the business. Something which he never consulted me as his wife. I worked with him for 5mths until I got so sick I couldn't stand the smell of chips or anything. Then I found out I was pregnant. He was never as understanding of my condition and whenever I got sick, he'd say I was being too selfish. Later, my body just gave out and I decided to stay back home and be useful there as it was challenging to juggle work and chores. He seemed to be fine with the choice. He employed some people to help him out but they ended up stealing from him. He'd come home all moody and grumpy and this made.me feel alone throughout my pregnancy. He was never supportive. I remember a time I had this excruciating back pain that radiated through my legs my feet could barely touch the ground out of the pain. I went hungry for three days and he never really cared. He just came home, cooked sleep and go to work next morning. I was never one to complain and being introverted, my communication was poor. So after I got a little better, I travelled home. My parents had invited us for Christmas but he blatantly rejected the invite. I felt bad. I always attended his family functions but not once did he ever support me even when I lost my grandpa. I took myself to hospital when my time came. And that's how I ended up alone, vulnerable and confused with a little baby.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
9 Mar
That's really sad. Be with your parents and start some work to support yourself and your baby.
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@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
I'm already working. I started doing so when my child was about 9mths and it going well I thank God
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@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
Im now on my way to open my own business because I want some freedom to be with my kid since most companies don't have that provision.
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@Beestring (14675)
• Hong Kong
9 Mar
That's sad. Your husband is such an irresponsible person. You'll be better off without him. Stay with your parents in the meantime. Let them take care of your child if possible. Find a job so that you can be financially independent.
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@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
Its a sad state. Thankfully I never let it bring me down. I'm already setting up my business and brainstorming some great ideas so that I can fully support myself and my kid. Thanks @Beestring
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@Beestring (14675)
• Hong Kong
9 Mar
@Prima23 That is great.
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@yanzalong (18987)
• Indonesia
9 Mar
Did he tell you why he left and he would be back. If he didn't say anything, I agree to what Kayla suggested.
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@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
Yeah. He claimed that I messed with his finances which I never even had control over. He doesn't plan to come back since he said I was a mistake.
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
9 Mar
How sad and cruel. You're incredibly strong. Your husband's wrong. Focus on you & baby. Get support from family/friends & explore legal resources . Don't be afraid to ask for help
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@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
Yeah I've struggled a lot emotionally but I'm stronger now.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
9 Mar
I am sorry that your marriage ended but by the sounds of it you are better off without him. He was the one being selfish. You deserve way better then that. For now just focus on you and your daughter and getting back on your feet again.
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• Philippines
9 Mar
maybe your family can help you care for the baby, the housework and earning a living? can you move back home or can a family member live with you?
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@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
I currently live with my parents and I'm providing for her with their help. But I'm planning on moving out soon hopefully.
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@kaylachan (71556)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Mar
You don't need people like him. People like that aren't worth your time. Your better off.
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@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
9 Mar
How very sad that he did not care about his baby. You are better off without him. How old is your child now?
@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Mar
@Prima23 Enjoy every minute of her life. The years go by so fast.
@Prima23 (105)
• Los Arcos, Spain
9 Mar
She turned 2 on 2nd march
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
9 Mar
You will be better without him in your life. Stay with your parents until you can find a job and then someone can take care of your baby.
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