A call from my granddaughter.
By marguicha
@marguicha (223720)
Chile
May 19, 2024 10:26am CST
Carolina just called me.
Carolina is over 30 but in some ways, she hasn´t grown up yet. She is living with her BF for over 4 years now and is the proud mom of a dog.
She is making arrangements to go and live in Germany and called me to ask me if I wanted to have the German citizenship as she will have it through me.
She told me that we could eat in a nice restaurant (her invite) and they would explain all I had to do.
I answered SAY WHAT??? I leave my room with difficulty. So I told her that I was not interested and why would I want it. Her answer left me speechless. She told me that if I had the German passport I could go and visit her there any time I wished.
Apparently, although she is very bright in some ways, she isn´t in others. In those four years she has never once invited me to her house. I haven´t met her dog. Worse still, if I came across her BF in the street without her, I would not recognize him. The only time I have seen her in a year was when Claudia and Carolina invited me to a joint birthday dinner at a restaurant. That was in October. And she did not come to my own birthday in June. So I have only seen her once in one year.
Will I cross the planet, surely at my expense, to visit them in Germany? NO WAY. If my feet get better, I´d go again to Ciudad de Mexico, the place I love best in the world.
But I´ll have dinner with them on Thursday. I love dinner invitations. And of course, if the food is too much, I´ll bring my doggie bag.
Two of my grandchildren will be now living in other countries. Felipe (Tania´s) is in Spain and goes often to Germany as his wife is practically German. She came from Iran when she was months old.
Now Carolina and Enzo will be living in Germany. I wonder what will they do there.
Years ago, children always stayed near their parents. Now it is different. How is it in your country?
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7 responses
@thislittlepennyearns (62922)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 May
I didn't move out of the country when I moved away from home, but I did move to the opposite corner of the country. I grew up mainly in Portland, Oregon and as you know moved to Florida after college (in Tennessee) and have been in Florida for years now.
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@thislittlepennyearns (62922)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
19 May
@marguicha I hate my mother and want nothing to do with her. Yeah,there are reasons.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
19 May
@thislittlepennyearns I think that a parent´s love is sometimes overrated. I did not love both of my parents in the same way. There were reasons.
@AmbiePam (93770)
• United States
19 May
I think Americans probably have differing opinions, but from my experience, children move away from their parents, but not so much to another country. The United States is very large, of course. My dad moved away, as did my mom, as did my sister. Me? Not so much, but it’s a good thing since my dad needed help to take care of my mother.
I’m glad to hear you will have dinner with her at least. I miss my grandmother, and I hope this granddaughter of yours realizes what she is missing by not being more involved with you.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
19 May
She used to be. I think that instead of growing up, she grew away. There were reasons. Claudia had an evil BF for several years and he managed to turn her family into a very disfunctional one.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
19 May
@AmbiePam I know. Claudia has had too much pain in her life and you can´t protect your children from it. Her children have had some problems due to that too.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
20 May
When I was young, taking a plane was a mayor thing. Now it is like taking a bus. My granddaughter has already been twice alone for a year in Europe.
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 May
@marguicha That's so true. Young people think nothing of heading out into the world on their own.
@LindaOHio (181320)
• United States
20 May
Depending on the culture at one time, children stayed near their parents. Today, though, it's more prevalent to move out on your own. I did and paid the price of getting disowned. Have a good week.