Its not a part of your business...

You know what? I agree. But it is very difficult to establish that socially. I am unmarried, and have no kids. So my neighbor, whose grand kids were frequenting our place, suddenly pops up a question, are you going to write all your properties to the poor? Indirect question ...how much are you writing to my grandchildren. I felt intense urge to tell her get out of my house. But held back the nastiness. I said yes. That sent the message home, I presumed, but she continued trying to become over familiar till I had to put a stop. Similar things happened several times in my life.

It's very true! There are things I had to share that made a point with my landlord recently. My neighbor claimed that one of my guests (guests? I have only had a grand total of 4 in the 4 years I've lived here!) recently threatened to fight him. Thing is the man who the neighbor claimed to threaten him used the elevator to get down stairs and I watched him leave so I know for a fact that the neighbor wasn't threatened. Besides the friend who the neighbor claimed that of is a very sweet, gentle, person. I hated to have to share my own personal information to get the point across to the landlord. I extend the respect to others and hope that they will extend it to me. There are a few "personal" things I share, that are about my cat, Petey, especially about his gas emissions. Anyone who has experienced them agrees with me that they're lethal and he could have been used in the San Quinton gas chamber. But Petey doesn't mind the sharing, as long as he gets lots of love and kitty treats.

Evveryone of us has the perfect right to say only what we want to other people. It has nothing to do with secrecy.

Yes, in some cases what you wrote is true. However, life has taught me that there are people who do not have anyone to tell anything to, to get another opinion, or just really and truly need to reach out. They may be housebound, they may be truly hurting, and actually need someone in their life to connect with. If they need that here, and reach out, is it wrong to ignore them? Who we share, and with whom, is our own personal business. Some people do not want to share personal business, and that's their right, of course. Others want and actually might NEED to, because of life's circumstances. Neither path is wrong or right. They have to do what is right for them at the time.