I’m at a loss right now

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Hello mylotters and thank you for taking the time to read this post. It’s mostly a venting post but I would appreciate any feedback or advice because like the title says, I am at a loss right now. My mother currently lives with me in the house I bought from my dad. I say currently because anytime she gets mad, she will threaten to move out. Then she gets even madder when I say “bye and don’t think you’re coming back when you can’t make it on your own” Harsh I know but if you read further you will understand. My mom is separated from her abusive husband and has been for 2 years as of June 4 and she has reverted back to being a teenager. Always on her phone, won’t pick up after herself or even help to tidy up the house. When asked to help, I get “wtf!” When we go out to dinner, she always expects me to pay for hers even though she has a full time job. Told me that she thought that was what her rent was for. She only pays me $375 and refuses to pay more even though she should. We have a town wide yard sale coming up in 4 days and she wants to put all this stuff in it but she don’t want to dig anything out or help price it. Now as for her men, and I say men because she is talking to over 10 guys at the moment. Not sleeping with all of them but more than one. I told her she needs to use protection because we share a toilet. If she don’t care about her health then she should care about mine and my daughters but she doesn’t. She has always been what I call an over-lapper. When she’s in a relationship and it’s not going the way she wants, she starts dating another guy behind the first ones back. I don’t agree with this and told her she needs to just pick one guy and stick with it. If it don’t work out then talk to another guy but she said she needs a few backups. Well tonight, she went to see one of the guys she’s been talking to who only just last night before calling her a loser and a useless friend, threatened to block her because she wouldn’t drop everything and go to the store for him. This guy is just like the husband she is separated from who I just found out that she is talking to again and making plans to go to dinner so they can talk about things. So that’s why I’m at a loss. I’m at the point where I want to tell her she needs to change or get out. My daughter has had enough too. My only problem is that my mom is supposed to be getting a double hip replacement and is going to be out of work for at least 3 months and will need someone to care for her. But she don’t want to listen when I tell her that she needs to get get financials in order before she has surgery or else she’s going to lose her car. Her payment is like $700 a month and if she has to only rely on her SSI, she won’t have enough for all of her bills but again she don’t want to listen or do anything about it. So I’m at a loss and feeling like a horrible person but I have to put me, my daughter and all of our animals first because in the end, my mom only cares about herself.