Pumpkin's Rant of the Day: Liars

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I hate liars. I can understand occasional white lies or omission of information for good reason (e.g. to prevent hurt feelings or to keep someone safe). I can't understand lying for the sake of lying. As my granddad would say, a liar is worse than a theif. You can lock things away from a thief, but you have no protection from a liar. One thing that frustrates me is when I know a person is lying but other people don't seem to see it. Also when people accuse me of lying, especially when it's because they're choosing to believe a person who is a proven liar. I was very angry with a particular liar. I don't know if angry is the right word. I'm glad, though, to discover other people know now. I still worry about certain people who are too trusting and can't always see the lies. I won't go into lots of detail about all the lies. I'll just talk about the latest one that I know of. The liar (I'll call them Liar) was invited to something to which they didn't turn up (this is something that has happened several times and is generally accompanied by lies but rarely an actual yes/no or even a maybe). Another person (I'll call them AP) saw Liar not long before the event. AP was going so asked Liar if they would be there. Liar didn't answer with a proper answer but said they only found out about the event the day before. AP knew this to be a lie. It made me angry (well, more disgusted than angry) when AP told me this. I didn't understand why Liar would say that. I don't know if they thought AP would believe them. If they didn't want to go, they could have just responded that they weren't going. Even if they had only just found out, they knew about it and could have decided. They could also have still gone as there was no reason not to. There were plenty of other people who had made a huge effort to be there while Liar had no excuse and simply couldn't be bothered. This wasn't the first time that had happened. Another time, Liar said they'd hardly had any notice and couldn't get time off (both of which were lies). I'm not sure if Liar actually believes the lies. I do know they've spoken to other people who said they appeared to believe what they were saying. It has appeared that way to me. The only thing was, apart from knowing they lie about things, what they said contradicted their actions and some other things they'd said previously. An ex of mine would also tell a lot of lies. Again, I wasn't always sure he knew he was lying. Some of the lies he told didn't make any sense to lie. He'd take a day off work and would rather tell his employer he was going somewhere with friends than say he was spending a day with family. He'd often say he was doing one thing when I could easily find out that was a lie or when the truth was perfectly fine and he'd lie anyway. I had been wanting to get this out about Liar for a while. There is so much more but I didn't want it to be too ranty! I just haven't really got anywhere 'safe' for ranting. Liar might see this, but I don't think they come here so should be OK! How do you feel about lies and liars? Are there times you feel a lie is acceptable? Is there something that angers you like liars anger me?