My ex was a 51 year old escaped convict and had a double life
@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
United States
June 5, 2024 4:48am CST
My ex fiance went to prison a few years ago. That's when I found out about his double life. We were together for about 2 years and had a child together. Btw he's (53) and I'm (31). When I met him he had never been married and never had children. I was only excited that him being his age I would be his first marriage and set of children. I myself had never been married but previously had two children.
Let's skip through to about the time the Federal Marshals caught up to him..
His mother tried to warn me that he had a warrant for his arrest, however when I asked him he claimed his mother was only trying to tear us apart.
We went through this talk on 3 separate occasions.
The day the Federal Marshals showed up at our gate and came on in to arrest, well, both of us.
I was arrested at the same time he was, however I was arrested on a subpoena. I had to testify as a witness on a murder case. ( I found a man deceased in his home, with a gunshot wound to the head) My now ex, was keeping lawyers in the case from being able to reach me, since we had shared a phone at the time.
The lying fugitive that was once the man I had planned to marry, had a warrant for his arrest due to escaping from a prison work camp back in 2014. I was so hurt and shocked, If the federal marshal that arrested me and was holding me back hadn't of already placed me in handcuffs, I would've punch my ex right square in the jaw.
I tried to kick him, and the marshal whispered down to me, "honey, I would let you punch him, but everyone here knows you're not big enough or strong enough to get away from me and unfortunately I put the handcuffs on you a little too early."
I smiled as sweetly as I could muster up and said "If you know anyone looking for a good woman, Well officer, you know where they can find me." I winked at him and told my ex to get well soon as they hauled each of us off in separate cars.
I'll never forget that day
It's been embedded in my brain now for the last few years.
It turns out my ex also liked to dress up like a woman and had 12 pairs of high heeled stripper boots I found in his storage up our old driveway.
That's a story for another time though.
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@Scarred4Lyfe (613)
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5 Jun
Those boots were from the 12 strippers he abducted and murdered.
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@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
6 Jun
@LadyDuck it's hard to say a size 16 stripper heel belongs to a woman. I'll have to find a picture of the orders I found in his email and cross out his personal info and post them for yall to see. The funny thing is, I spent months gathering all my evidence to present to him, that he couldn't deny it and I caught him red handed, however, when I finally told him, he just sighed and goes "I knew you would find out eventually." The man didn't even attempt to argue. I was shocked.
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
6 Jun
@SpyCSeaUrchin I cannot believe his reaction, he had nothing more to say, this is insane!
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
5 Jun
Wow, what an intense story! You’ve been through a lot. It’s amazing how strong you are.
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@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
6 Jun
This isn't is only a tenth of the insanely traumatic events of my life. I figure the only way I'll be able to get through the trauma though to become a better version of me is to find an outlet to write it all out. I figure, if I read to myself, everything that's happened to me in my life, over and over, eventually it won't bother me anymore and I can finally get some peace and come to terms. I have so much resentment, if I can use this platform as an outlet to drop off a few sections of my life and maybe help others in the process of healing, I can't ask for a better outcome than that.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
6 Jun
@SpyCSeaUrchin Thank you for sharing, Stephaney. Writing can be such a powerful way to process and heal from trauma. It's incredible that you're using this platform not only to help yourself but also to potentially help others who might be going through similar experiences. Your strength and resilience are truly inspiring.
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@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
9 Jun
@SpyCSeaUrchin I am glad you have survived it to be able to tell the tale now.
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@moffittjc (121714)
• Gainesville, Florida
8 Jun
Wow, that's crazy! If he ever gets out of prison again, I hope you avoid contact with him.
@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
8 Jun
Unfortunately he got out of prison a few months ago. He ignores me completely. If given the chance though, I know he would kill me.
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@pumpkinjam (8770)
• United Kingdom
5 Jun
I wouldn't take issue with someone dressing in a nonconforming way. I have a son who looks better in dresses than I do!
The rest, though, that is crazy and I'm so sorry you went through such an ordeal. I guess, mentally, you're still going through it. The age gap is large but I've known some people to make it work. It just goes to show, though, that those with something to hide can and will hide it if they need to.
@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
6 Jun
Normally I wouldn't see anything wrong with it, however, he hid this from me for 2 years. That, and the fact that he was getting railed by other dudes dressed up like women. I would've liked to know about this before the entirety of us being together because I honestly wouldn't have been able to look at him the same way. I wouldn't have pursued him as a potential prospect for marriage. I know that sounds shallow, however I'm not sexually attracted to that type of man. Errr woman? Gawd that sounds horrible of me!
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@LeaPea2417 (37379)
• Toccoa, Georgia
6 Jun
Wow, I am sorry you went through that! It sounds like a plot for a movie or mini series.
@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
6 Jun
@SpyCSeaUrchin I can imagine that it's a long process and we know how justice can be SLOW!
I hope you can have full custody of your second son you need to get away from that man and be safe with your two sons. I am surely going to read your next stories.
@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
6 Jun
Well after about 2 years of him in prison, he finally got out and the first child we had, he was well informed was not his due to me being 3 months pregnant at the time we got together. He put himself on the birth certificate for my first son to protect him from his bio dad and come to find out, bio dad is the lesser of the 2 evils. We're working with the courts to get the rightful father on the birth certificate and I'm fighting for full custody of my second son at the same time. It's a s**t show but I've got my two sons safe from him. I just hope the judge sees all the physical and DNA evidence that I have in both cases and make the right decision. I would never keep a child from their father however in my next few life stories I post up you will see exactly why I did what I had to keep my first born son safe.
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@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
6 Jun
Jim, I've lived a traumatic and hilarious life. This is hardly a small section of what I've been through. I'll start posting every day, a little portion of the horrific, yet interesting life I've lived. If ya'll stick around, I promise you, the absolute dumpster fire that's been my life, will entertain you.
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@SpyCSeaUrchin (18)
• United States
6 Jun
We've got a lot of court hearings to go through but I have a feeling the Judge is going to grant me full custody of the boys.
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