The Trouble with Lies

@annierose (21600)
Philippines
June 10, 2024 11:28pm CST
As children grow, some start to make lying a habit, denying wrongdoing even when caught. This behavior raises questions about their future character. It's disheartening to see kids embrace lying as a norm, refusing to acknowledge their mistakes. Despite advice from adults, they seem unmoved. This begs the question: What kind of adults will they become? When lying becomes ingrained in a child's behavior, it can hinder their growth, affecting their perception of truth and accountability. It's crucial to guide them toward honesty and responsibility to ensure a positive future.
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@jstory07 (139309)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Jun
I think all kids go through a time when they lie and as parents we can teach them that it is better to be honest.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
11 Jun
You're right, Judy. Teaching kids the value of honesty is crucial. However, I wonder how we can ensure they stick to it, especially as they get older.
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@TheHorse (217610)
• Walnut Creek, California
11 Jun
I have fun with kids and their attempts to deceive.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
11 Jun
@TheHorse Engaging with kids as they navigate honesty can indeed be a unique experience. How do you approach those moments of playful deception?
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@LadyDuck (470445)
• Switzerland
11 Jun
I have seen many children lying, most of the time is because they fear to be punished if they say the truth. It's up to the parents to teach them without scaring them.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
11 Jun
You're absolutely right, Anna. Fear of punishment can often drive children to lie.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
11 Jun
@LadyDuck That's a valid point, Anna. The fear of punishment can influence both children and adults when it comes to honesty.
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@LadyDuck (470445)
• Switzerland
11 Jun
@annierose This also happens to adults, the fear of punishment.
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@abhi_bangal (5174)
• Ahmednagar, India
12 Jun
As a matter of fact parenting is a very sensitive topic. And quiet naturally it can give sleepless nights to the child's parents. Even if the parents try to teach the child correct habits, the cultural etc. and if still the child continues to behave like this people start questioning the parents' take on this. They are blamed. People think they don't take the child's future seriously. The child thinks lying is an easy way out to defend against any wrongdoing. And this fits into their subconscious.
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• Ahmednagar, India
12 Jun
@annierose It is tough actually. But you know, when you see the fruits of your efforts in your child, it's a different joy altogether. So yes, consistancy is the key here.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
13 Jun
@abhi_bangal Absolutely, the joy of seeing your efforts pay off in your child's growth and development is priceless. It's like planting a seed and watching it blossom. Consistency may be tough, but it’s definitely worth it in the end!
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
12 Jun
Parenting is indeed a sensitive topic, and it can be very challenging when others question the parents' efforts. It's important to support and guide children consistently, even when it's tough.
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@allknowing (134944)
• India
12 Jun
They may change if someone somewhere takes action and the pain they experience will be a remindere not to lie any more
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
12 Jun
Taking action and experiencing consequences can be powerful lessons. Sometimes, it takes a wake-up call for children to understand the importance of honesty.
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@Hannihar (130222)
• Israel
11 Jun
@annierose I see that the kids of the lady that lives across from us does not teach her children manners. They are just like her and they are bullies like she is. If she does not like you then she spreads lies and causes problems. She and I do not get along at all. I and my cat and scooter want to be left alone but they did ,e damage from when we first moved in here and have been doing damages ever since. That is what bullies do. I want out of here for my scooter and for us and it seems like it is not easy to get out of here. I have a short time on my contract and want to move with only our lives and not evil ones or bullies or scammers. There are plenty of all of those here.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
11 Jun
I'm really sorry to hear you're dealing with such a difficult situation. It's tough when neighbors are causing problems and making your living environment stressful. It sounds like moving would be a positive change for you, your cat, and your scooter. I hope you can find a peaceful and friendly place soon. In the meantime, stay strong and take care of yourself.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
16 Jun
@Hannihar I'm really sorry to hear that. Dealing with negative energy and difficult neighbors is incredibly challenging. Have you considered talking to a spiritual advisor or a counselor who might offer some guidance? Remember to take care of yourself and seek support when you need it. Stay strong!
@Hannihar (130222)
• Israel
13 Jun
@annierose Thank you but even if we have decent neighbors we will still have to evil spirit to deal with and so far I have not found a solution to that. People have tried to help before but he will not let go and I could have sworn that someone was at my door from that family messing with it and I really hate it here.
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@grenery8 (9175)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
11 Jun
Adults are those who learned or didn't learn those children how to behave. But, when that child becomes a dishonest adult, then it is their responsibility
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
11 Jun
You make a valid point, Greenery8. As adults, we bear a responsibility in shaping the behavior and values of children. It's important to model honesty and accountability in our own actions and to provide guidance and support to help children understand the importance of these qualities.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
13 Jun
@grenery8 So true! Instilling strong values early on can definitely make a huge difference. Let’s hope that by setting good examples and offering the right support, we can save a few future therapy bills!
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@grenery8 (9175)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
12 Jun
@annierose indeed. if values are there, those same children wouldn't need to go on psychotherapy sessions.
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@JESSY3236 (19862)
• United States
11 Jun
I knew a girl who lied alot. I don't know if she stills lies. I have been wanting to find her online, but I can't find her.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
12 Jun
It can be difficult to lose touch with people and wonder about how they've changed. Hopefully, your friend has grown and learned the value of honesty over time.
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@Ronrybs (18906)
• London, England
11 Jun
On the plus side, lying is self defeating and unless you have an excellent memory you'll get caught out
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
12 Jun
That's true, Ron. Lying is self-defeating, and it's often difficult to keep track of lies. Honesty is always the best policy in the long run.
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@aninditasen (16329)
• Raurkela, India
11 Jun
Children should be shown practical consequences of lying. This will prevent them from lying.
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@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
12 Jun
Showing children the practical consequences of lying can be an effective way to teach them about honesty. Real-life examples often resonate more than abstract concepts.
• India
11 Jun
Well, if the children are taught the importance if truth and the dangers of lies, perhaps things can change. However, if it is unnoticed or not caring, the liers could be dangerous. And you are right to point out the challenges in future of such children.
@annierose (21600)
• Philippines
12 Jun
Absolutely, Anish. Teaching children the importance of truth and the dangers of lies is crucial. Consistent guidance and reinforcement can help them understand the value of honesty.
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