Are you sometimes tired of people&#39;s pretending?

jaishankar

@Shivram59 (36334)

• India

12 Jun

@grenery8

Thanks.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

15 Jun

@Shivram59 welcome

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

12 Jun

once again, guru mentality

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much2say

@much2say (55901)

• Los Angeles, California

14 Jun

A game - yes, that is exactly what it is. I used to think two could play that game . . . but now I am too tired for games. Remember I told you about my sister? She is pretending right now that everything is "ok" . . . my mom and I know it's definitely not ok. We are not saying much, but she keeps talking on and on so we let her continue to look like a fool . . . one does not need to pretend to be that

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

15 Jun

i remember. yes, when people live in their own illusions

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much2say

@much2say (55901)

• Los Angeles, California

20 Jun

@grenery8 They sure can't

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

17 Jun

@much2say exactly and that we know what they are thinking, they can't fool us anymore

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popciclecold

@popciclecold (39460)

• United States

11 Jun

I know that feeling all too well. They are no longer in my circle. Pretending solves nothing, only makes matters worse.

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popciclecold

@popciclecold (39460)

• United States

12 Jun

@grenery8 I had a circle like that before, and they are no longer in my circle. I totally left them alone. Been over two years.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

15 Jun

@popciclecold i am happy for you. i am still waiting for my peace.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

12 Jun

it really does. you have a feeling you can't trust these people again and the pain, over and over again. i am glad these people are not in your circle.

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Sanna_S

@psanasangma (7281)

• India

11 Jun

I think in any relationship whether it is friendship, lovers or whatever trust should come first and second, if anything goes south it should be sorted out in between, not to go around and tell everyone.

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Sanna_S

@psanasangma (7281)

• India

12 Jun

@grenery8 that too also need to be considered

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

15 Jun

@psanasangma i agree

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

12 Jun

some wouldn't tell everyone but that lingering feeling od being hurt and insecure, it shouldn't be there in the first place.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471968)

• Switzerland

11 Jun

In a relationship honest is a must. People cannot agree all the time, but if there is something wrong the best is to discuss openly the matter.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

12 Jun

yes, the sooner, the better and not behaving childish when we are no longer children.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471968)

• Switzerland

12 Jun

@grenery8 You are so right, but too many adults behave like kids.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

15 Jun

@LadyDuck they really do, use that right very often.

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Anish Asokan

@RevivedWarrior (2448)

• India

11 Jun

Golden Rule : Never be in any relationship with a pretender. It is not good for long term and perhaps be fatal. We should always be in relationship with people who are open about their feelings. That builds the trust, which is important.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

12 Jun

honesty and knowing what person thinks, it is really important, i agree.

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adnileb

@adnileb (5276)

• Philippines

28 Jul

Yes, sad. It's the realuty. With regards to being tired, well, not just tired but super tired tired.

And they thought you have no idea that they are just pretending so they will keep using you. And in the end, you end up hating yourself for entertaining them.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

28 Jul

Exactly.the one that hurts the most is us, not them. Thank you for your answer

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (38564)

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20 Jun

It's easy to get suckered in by the pretenders, isn't it? They can pretend they care...and then you find out they had a goal in mind, so to speak. I am way better in spotting those people out than I used to be, maybe it comes with life's experiences in this matter, but after awhile, I just term those people as ''users'' and I turn my back. I have good friends, I am always open to more--but I want them to be sincere. I am sorry if you were used by someone. It's not a good feeling, I know.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (38564)

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22 Jun

@grenery8 I know I am really fortunate to have some longtime, special friends. Two of them are especially close, we have been through a lot together. I have trusted them explicitly, and they have done the same with me. I truly do appreciate them.

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@grenery8 (11050)

• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)

21 Jun

the closest they get you, they torture you the most and after so many years, you are not sure if they love you or not but they are constantly trying to prove you are the one with the trust issues. well, if feelings of insecurity, not being uncomfortable and sort of sickness in stomach appear, then they are not trustworthy as well, righr? it is sad, bitter, angry, bitter again feeling. i am glad you surrounded yourself with good friends but when you are isolated, you find yourself totally alone but even that is better that having false people around you.

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