I can't share my progress with my dad

@dya80dya (36481)
June 16, 2024 11:03am CST
I said that I made progress. He didn't seem to care at all. I don't receive a good word from him. He was upset and unhappy because my mom didn't notice what materials he bought. I said that I made progress, but I hadn't received any encouragement from him. He only knows to criticize. When something positive happens he ignores it. I received more support from strangers and this is sad. From now on I won't share my progress with him. He only cares about his bad relationship with my mom and his problems. Only his problems are important, but he loves to criticize when things don't go well. I have to accept this. I wonder if he is a narcissist.
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• Indonesia
16 Jun
Oh I can imagine how you feel, it must be unpleasant, especially if we live in the same house. I think there's something else. Whether it's narcissistic or selfish Maybe you need healing to talk to each other. "Hi dad, what are you doing with me?" Tell me. it's better than us asking ourselves. If he's like that, OK. We don't need to continue and wait for a response. I hope you can still share it with your mother or anyone who makes you comfortable
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@dya80dya (36481)
18 Jun
It's true, he is selfish. But I can't tell him this. He would be very angry. He can't sleep at night and he is very angry.
@dya80dya (36481)
23 Jun
@Yukipute No, he is just angry.
• Indonesia
23 Jun
That's serious. Does he get physical often (to you)? Or just angry. I thought I was thinking differently. recommends that you continue to do your best for conservation, your hobby, etc. Give yourself rewards. I hope your relationship with him will melt better.
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@AmbiePam (91947)
• United States
16 Jun
He IS a narcissist, and I agree you shouldn’t share your progress with him. He’s not a going to have a good word for anyone, no matter who they are.
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@dya80dya (36481)
18 Jun
It's very true. Some people never have a good word for anyone.
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@just4him (317004)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Jun
He sounds a lot like my parents were. I'm sorry he doesn't care about you.
@aninditasen (16329)
• Raurkela, India
17 Jun
That's really sad. Such parents are hard to live with.
@grenery8 (9649)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
17 Jun
what materials did he buy, if i can ask you? i also believe not sharing is better cause, he doesn't support you the way he should.
• India
17 Jun
Well, congrats on your progress. I too have faced the same. My suggestion is do not attach much importance to these. You are getting encouragement from unknown and known . That is itself huge thing. There are many ,who do not get any one to share progress or talk. In time, you will get better people to support and encourage you. And do not stop at the progress or be complacent. There are bigger things to achieve for you. Good Luck!
@allknowing (135331)
• India
17 Jun
I feel for you. You want to have a good relatonship with your father but that is not happening. As they say, what can't be cured has to be endured.
@kaylachan (68508)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Jun
Sometimes that's what you have to do. People can be toxic and it's not worth trying to repair the relationship. Just be friendly, but keep your expetations low. You don't want him to pass, and wishing you treated him better even if you aren't getting it in return. Be the bigger person.
@FourWalls (67380)
• United States
16 Jun
I know how you feel. I wanted nothing more than my dad’s approval. I let him read a chapter of the book I was writing, and all he could say was, “Hmm, did you write this?” Needless to say, the book never was written.
@RasmaSandra (79362)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Jun
It's so sad that you are having this toxic relationship with him, Best not to share anything with him it will only get you down, Maybe this can help you understand
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@akalinus (43142)
• United States
16 Jun
I think he is a narcissist. He only cares about himself and everything that goes wrong is someone else's fault. I don't know what to say about him unless he changes.
@paigea (36318)
• Canada
16 Jun
You are worth doing things for yourself!
@sarik1 (7207)
17 Jun
I understand you feeling. be patient .will be alright .