Can an alcoholic be helped?
By Diana
@dya80dya (36656)
July 7, 2024 3:11pm CST
I understand alcoholic people. They are unhappy and they drink a lot to forget their problems. My dad does the same thing, but I am afraid of him. He drank a lot today and came home a few moments ago. It's 10 pm. I wish I could help him, but I don't know how. He started to talk by himself and he was extremely angry. He started to curse even if no one provoked him. He could barely open the door because he was extremely drunk. He hates my mom and he curses her even if she is not in the room. When he drinks all the evil things that are in his mind are present. He wants the death of our dog. I always said that someone who lacks empathy for animals doesn't have empathy for people. But this is just my opinion. I wonder if an alcoholic can be helped.
I still want to help him because I view him as a sick person. My mom ignores him and doesn't want to leave because of money. But I feel like we are in danger again. I am worried for my mom. He can't control his anger anymore. These signals can't be ignored and my mom thinks these are a joke. Maybe I am overreacting and I should be calm. I think that he can become insane and I can't do anything to stop it. He was a very rational man and he never cursed when he was alone in his room like in these past months. I wish I could be calm, but I can't.
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6 responses
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
8 Jul
It might be beneficial to seek support from other trusted adult who can offer guidance and assistance. You could also consider reaching out to a professional, like a counselor or therapist, perhaps?
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@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
10 Jul
@dya80dya It's great that you're considering group therapy and looking into therapy for yourself. Seeking professional support can make a big difference.Wishing you strength and support on this journey!
@kaylachan (69824)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Jul
He can only be helped if he realizes he needs it. Until then, no.
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@kaylachan (69824)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Jul
@dya80dya I am sorry, but while there are programs out there and ways to help, a person can't be helped until they want to help themselves. You can air your concerns and do the research, but he's got to be the one to take the first step.
@snowy22315 (180805)
• United States
7 Jul
Of course they can be, but there has to be a desire on their part to quit. Maybe your mom could consult a divorce attorney and see if she could retain the house. it is no way to live to be subjected to that kind of abuse.
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@snowy22315 (180805)
• United States
9 Jul
@dya80dya She doesn't know what will happen in a divorce. She should at least consult with an attorney. Maybe you could find a less expensive house or apartment if she has to sell. At least you will be away from your dad. To stay there under that duress is just folly.
@RasmaSandra (79892)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Jul
The only way people like that can be helped is if they accept the fact that they need help and then get the help they need, It does not sound like your father wants to get help,
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@dya80dya (36656)
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9 Jul
Maybe there aren't too many like him. But something is interesting. He behaves very well with strangers. And when he comes home he becomes a different person. People who know him wouldn't believe that he is so mean. They need proof. Strangers think that he is very kind and polite. Only his family knows the truth. Many people are hiding when they are around strangers.
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@2ndchances24 (8959)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
7 Jul
People that drink like they do can't be helped UNLESS they
WANT to be helped & it doesn't take just a few days in jail
but a long time in a triple A A facility where they CAN'T be
around any booze of any kind, to dry them out & start over.
About the only thing I can say is I'd be on my toes around him
& be very aware what a drunk is known to do at times in that state
of mind, & let the LAW aware of the state of mind he's in so IF
he does do anything they are aware of it & it's on record.
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