Help my son is depressed and introverted...What do I do?

I just responded to another thread about ADHD. I am not an expert but learned from my sons anti-social behavior. Imposing limits, I believe, is appropriate because I think too much time on a single activity made my son frustrated and eventually angry which he took out on whoever was around him. I introduced him to many types of social settings, ie: going out to dinner (formal or not) to a park full of kids, to show him the different kinds of respect (polite and sharing) towards others. It has helped. He is 14 now, still a little shy but warms up and exhibits polite mannerisms of a young man. It takes patience and time. Good luck and best wish's to your family.

Have you tried getting him involved in other actives? Forcing him to make friend will only make him shy if not antisocial. Do you criticize his 'lone wolf' personality? If you can just give him things to do that may or may not lead to him being more social it may work out better... does he draw (even stick figures) get him a small art kit. Does he listen to a lot of music? buy him a cheap keyboard (it's easier to play than say my electric bass i wanted and can't play at all a year later). ask him what kinds of web sites he goes to, but only ask. don't spy one him, it's a definite invasion of privacy that'll make him close up to you. You may find something that intrests him more than being forced out on a bike to mingle.

i have a son with adhd, epilepsy and is bi polar. and yes he would rather just stay in his room, it is a struggle to get him to do anything. he is sixteen and should be doing more. he just was broken up with his girlfriend so that just adds to the depression. I think that if you just try and get them to do things that is the best, i think they will grow and meet people when they feel that it is right.

I'm not Sure

take him to a doctor! i used to have the same problem, but it passed with time....

Take him to a doctor but try to get one who doesn't always use medication to treat this. I have depression and I think ADD too. The ADHD may contribute to the depresseion. There are natural methods that could help him without all the side effects of medication. Lately I've been hearing that karate helps. I know meditation can help. I've also been reading about eye problems relating to ADD/ADHD and it can be corrected through eye exercises. Vitamin and mineral supplements have been known to help many people too.

go places with him and try to keep him entertained

Find a team sport he likes and maybe he'll change

i think let him make some friends and take him out whenever you got time.

hmm the age of 10 is a hard one but i suggest maybe enrolling him in some after school programs like soccer or karate. these things will instill a sense of worth as well as allow him to meet new kids his age, and teach him about teamwork and how we need other people and interaction to do certain things. i hope this helps : ) best of luck to you and your son

My brother is quite in the same situation.

My suggestion is that u juz keep telling him abt the outside world..Also call the kids who are nearby ur house to ur house and make them to interact with ur son..I think this will bring some change in him..Above all it would be better if u consult a doctor regarding this probleem..I wish ur son for a speedy recovery..

I'm sure by now that you've strengthened your resolve to help your son through his ordeal, if so, you're half way home into somehow resolving your son's condition. Now for the difficult part. ADHD resides in the psych practitioner's realm, if you have consulted one, I'm sure they have imaginative and effective procedures that will help your son. Be ready for slow but steady milestones. Good luck.

yep, i had a same problem with my daughter. what i did you know? i started to counsel her a lot. keep talking to her and took her to different places and made to her to talk to others. till she get accustom with them i will be with her. slowly now she started to move around with people. this is because, in family if husband and wife fights always or if they are toooo bust with their works and not bothering about their kid, this is what happens. many kids have this same problem. because now a days both parents go for work and wanted to build their future. but one thing you and me forget is that we are earning for our kids. we give only wealth but not a love and affection. try to do that first automatically your son will be very social

I know you are trying to help your son by making him social and taking part in other activites but forcing him to do things will only make him more introverted and shy and depressed. Try to him, counsellor and see if meditation, yoga and laughter therapy works. Besides try taking interest in things he does and showing how much you love and care for him. That will make him rely on you a lot moreand he'll able to discuss him problems as a friend.

I agree, try to find out what he likes. There might be sports he likes or perhaps sports like chess etc. that are not very active and have a lot of direct physical contact (this can scare kids of too). If you find something he likes he can start socializing and building up these skills, there are also specific therapies out there that can help him. For someone who is scared and shy making friends is an impossible task, he has to start out building up some selfesteem and talk to people or do some groceries; babysteps.

I am running browsing centre and came across a person like that who used to sit very long playing games and pay. One day his parents came and explained about his deficiencies and asked me. I said, you please put this message to all the nearby browsing centres and I will also telephone that he should not be entertained. I spoke to the boy also very cooly and patiently that it is not good on your part to sit long and also suggested to take him to some psychiotrists. Now after one year, the same person with parents had come and said he has improved a lot and going to the college. His parents loves me more than anybody now. Hence my advice to you is to cut down his sitting times before the computer, get him for outings often, take assistance of some friends of his, and change with patience and cool head. If necessary take him to some psychiotrist also and see that his sleeping time increases.

he is too small that he cant understands anything..he is just like a water and its up to us tht where we want to store that..it can be a small vessel or a deep well..life is a challenge..face it.just do some intersting meetings at ur home where he can generate his intersts..for example..game playing meet or computer meet where he will actively particpate..this will resolve u dear

Have you thought about getting him help. Let him talk to a therapist there might be something more going on there then him just not wanting to do it. If you don't want to send him to a therpist then see if you can get someone from your church (i am assuming you go to church for this to work) to talk with him. I am not a therapist but i have seen this problem in my family before and it turned out there was something very wrong going on. This has been my two cents please take it for whats its worth.

only true friends will come out in this situation .