~Isolation~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
August 14, 2024 5:11am CST
Hey y'all! Sorry I got busy with things offline for a bit. But I'm back now. :)
The next part to my series is the Isolation. This is where the narcissist convinces you of the need to be alone together.
Not only do they do that but they remind you of the times your family hurt you over and over. They remind you of how you always felt like the "black sheep" of the family so going back near them would just show them you're okay with being treated however they treated you before.
The narcissist "pretends" to be your knight in shining armor who won't ever let anyone treat you badly again...except them of course very soon...
Follow along on my Healing Journey!
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16 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Aug
@Juliaacv It is brain washing exactly! They hold things over your head also and try to make you think things that aren't the truth.
Thank you so much. 
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@Juliaacv (51190)
• Canada
14 Aug
@LovingMyBabies It amazes me that one can break out of that mindset.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Aug
@Juliaacv I promise it was the Lord and it was only last month that it happened. I woke up and God showed me what was happening before my eyes that I was blinded to. I feel silly not seeing it for myself but I'm grateful He opened my eyes to it!
The Bible says the enemy blinds our eyes and I definitely know that to be true in my life.
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@2ndchances24 (8927)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
14 Aug
YEp, mine tried to do the same thing to me but while he was at
work I made friends & hung out with them till I knew he was on his
way home & he would never know what was going on cause they
knew not to say anything or call while he was home, BUT that
was back in the 70's too so we didn't have cell phones either.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Aug
@2ndchances24 I'm sorry you've been down this road too.
I now have friends and family, this was back when I was really naive and so young.
But even now I get who's that? Why are they calling at this hour? Or don't answer that we're about to eat. He "thinks" he still has control over me but he doesn't.
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@2ndchances24 (8927)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
15 Aug
@LovingMyBabies yeah after I went under ground
where they couldn't find me they gave up after awhile.
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
14 Aug
Isolation is always a huge red flag.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Aug
@GardenGerty Absolutely it is! Hoping to help others who are entering into this kind of relationship.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug
@RebeccasFarm Absolutely, just didn't see it that way years ago. =(
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Aug
@LadyDuck Exactly, wish I saw all of this 20 years ago when it all began BUT maybe it will help someone else who's about to go down this road.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
14 Aug
@LovingMyBabies We cannot see while we are so much in love, I know
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@RasmaSandra (79833)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Aug
Sounds like too much control on one side and not an equal relationship,
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug
@Rasmasandra Yes that's exactly right, very one sided always.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug
@shaggin I have too but when I was younger that bothered me which made me the perfect target. Yes I am for now.
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@snowy22315 (180674)
• United States
14 Aug
They all seem to follow the same or similar playbook. You don't drive so how are you going to find transportation to your photo shoots? Is it enough for you and the kids to live on? Your hubby will know doubt be ticked about your leaving and may withhold support.
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@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
14 Aug
I’m glad to see you back. Your next series topic on isolation sounds really insightful. It’s tough when someone manipulates you into feeling alone and then twists your past experiences. Keep sharing your journey! 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug
@jstory07 Thank you, with prices the way they are it'll be a while.
@Marilynda1225 (82791)
• United States
14 Aug
My daughter got out of bad marriage and her ex was a narcissist too. She went through the same thing you mentioned especially about the isolation. It started so slowly that no one really noticed until she no longer went to family functions, visited or enjoyed time with friends.
I hope you can save enough money Jen to get out of that marriage.
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
15 Aug
I'm sorry you endured this treatment for so many years. I hope you have a good day.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Aug
@LindaOhio Thank you, wish I didn't miss the signs and flags but hopefully this helps someone!
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@LindaOHio (178568)
• United States
16 Aug
@LovingMyBabies You're very welcome. I'm sure your posts will help someone.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug
@grenery8 Oh yes, and they don't think you'll ever wake up and leave.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
15 Aug
Isolation has never been a solution and it can cause more harm to self than others. Coming out and talking about the issues, addressing it and then taking steps to resolve it is the right way. Isolation invites more negative thoughts, assumptions and can even invite depression.
@elmer0421 (432)
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31 Aug
I read that narcissists can have types..
And narcissists can have enablers or flying monkeys.
As a result, more trauma is experienced by the victims.
