She said they (old people) behave like kids as they grow up...I said no..
By vanny
@vandana7 (100617)
India
August 15, 2024 1:16am CST
They are worse.
I mean, with kids, you can tell them, you will not get this if you don't do this.
You can scold.
You can bribe...
Try that with my 90 year old father, and he will refuse to have his meal or medication.
I am so vulnerable to anger.
These people are pure evil...they know they can get away with anything.
Yeah...yesterday he refused to eat cabbage...had to cook potato curry at the last moment. He always gets his way. Always.
This is more than childish...there has to be a word for it....oldishchildish or something like that.
Sometimes it is easy too...but many times tough.
I know I shouldn't be grumbling.....but I do feel better when I vent it out.
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@wolfgirl569 (108166)
• Marion, Ohio
15 Aug
You need to vent at times. Glad it helped
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@vandana7 (100617)
• India
15 Aug
Thanks for understanding. Such folks cannot be sent to old age homes, right? They won't indulge him there. Positive? This evening when I gave him his coffee he said he loves me a lot. I mechanically said quantify ..more than an elephant. Felt good.
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@wolfgirl569 (108166)
• Marion, Ohio
15 Aug
@vandana7 Glad you had a good evening with him. It depends on the home. The one I finally had to put my dad in was very good. The aides would even take him for a walk in the middle of the night when he wanted. He loved that. It was hard for me to do that as I was not getting enough rest to do it.
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@wolfgirl569 (108166)
• Marion, Ohio
18 Aug
@vandana7 Just keep in mind that if you go down he will be there anyways. Try to find a way to get a break. Even one day a week helps. I understand the money problem. I could have got Dad on what is called medicaid here and they would cover it. In exchange they take the person's property and sell it after they pass if the person owns anything. But I got lucky that Mom and Dad sold a house they had in town. So I had enough to cover the time he was there. Without that I would have done the medicaid
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@LindaOHio (181717)
• United States
15 Aug
I may be childish when I get to be 90 as well. I don't know! lololol I'm sorry your father is being so churlish. Try and have a good day.
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@LindaOHio (181717)
• United States
16 Aug
@vandana7 I'm glad he had some nice words for you. Big hugs to you.
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@abhi_bangal (5518)
• Ahmednagar, India
15 Aug
Yeah, even you need to vent it out, so that you stay mentally in range. If you lose it out, the family is likely to be disturbed.
It's not easy to look after old people. They know if they are being bribed, because they themselves have done that to their kids/parents. You might be knowing that baalhutt, strihutt, and rajhutt are the famous ones. When they become stubborn, if they need it, they need it. If they won't do something, actually means they won't do it. It's difficult. And when they are your parents, it becomes even more difficult to make them understand or make them do certain things.
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@vandana7 (100617)
• India
15 Aug
I am 65. So this is actually an age when others do things for us here, isn't it? Being a spinster with no kids and no siblings, there is no responsibility I can transfer. Money management mine. Home management mine. My management mine, Dad management mine...I should get some award. LOL But at times he is also very sweet. Today he said he loves me a lot, more than a elephant...brought out a smile.
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@abhi_bangal (5518)
• Ahmednagar, India
18 Aug
@vandana7, Oh ma'm, I didn't know you are 65 years of age. What you are saying is exactly correct. The things that you mention that you are doing for your father are the things that someone else should be doing those for you. But I am very sorry to hear that you have mentioned yourself a spinster. In such which situations we are left with no option but to carry out all the daily chores by ourselves.
Yes. Don't take your father's every word seriously, especially if he is upset or says something in the heat of the moment. But I am sure at the end of the day, he is the man who loves you the most on this earth than anyone else. So love him & trust him.
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@vandana7 (100617)
• India
18 Aug
@abhi_bangal Yes. I have no choice really. LOL
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@vandana7 (100617)
• India
15 Aug
Will not walk. So physiotherapist too is beginning to show signs of disappointment...expressing it in words...I kept whistles in the washroom, just in case he falls. He picked those and put in the dustbin. He won't use stick oh no...he simply wont.
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
7 Sep
I know I am going to be your dad in my old age.
But children are no less, you just forgive them because you like babies.
But children are no less, you just forgive them because you like babies.1 person likes this
