I Spoke My Mind

Exactly.

Yep.

She gets paid every two weeks, and her pay was 200.00. Her car note is 504. Getting worse. Her boss took some of her clients, and gave them to someone else. Before that she was fine.

Getting pretty dire.

@popciclecold then she's just lazy to work i think, she's probably hoping for a helping hand instead of a working opportunity

@marguicha Good for you, are you tired from cleaning?

Good job, it's amazing what you can do when you have to. Good for buying good things to eat.

@popciclecold I´m pampering myself with cakes and other yummy things. But I eat a little of each so that they last.

It could be, but she has worked there before, and knows the manager.

@vandana7 That sucks, and I can understand your feelings. But you asked and when there was real response, you went another way. Then she gets mad. Well, that would have angered me. This year, I heard a saying that a person who wrote poetry say, "when people show you who they are why don't you believe them". Thanks so much, you touched my understanding. No evil grin.

@popciclecold I have noticed one thing in me. I am not uniform in my behavior with others. So if I tease pony rotten, I don't think I would ever do that to JJ or Gary Marsh, or even Jim or Greg. Its kinda, some people's nature exudes vulnerability. They are often victimized. Or troubled. The issue can be social, or emotional, or financial. The issue could also be due to jealousy. Take for example I. I am unmarried, and have no kids. I exude a social vulnerability. My neighbor requests me to let her keep a few of her belongings at my place as she is planning to paint her house. No harm in that. But as things stand, she kept those things at my place for 3 years. I did not buy this flat for her. I gently told her to remove her things a couple of times. She brushed it aside saying yes, it is just a matter of couple of months more. But even when Covid came, and I needed that room just in case one of us was down, she did not remove her stuff. I was forced to approach her daughter in law, who asked her ma in law to remove things. The woman was mad at me saying next time don't tell anything to my daughter in law. Seriously? Painting does not take more than a week, and seeing all that stuff in my room and dusting it (our home gets dust) and preventing rats...my stress levels would mount everyday, and more so when my requests to remove the stuff were brushed aside as if my words carried no value. Many such instances in my life. For example in our office. My social vulnerability enabled my boss to say "why do you need money, you don't have children". Then, others were asking me to adopt them, or adopt their children, ending that with derisive laughter, kinda ridiculing me. The boss was not as fluent in English. And we had no intercoms. So a junior staff member would be sent to my table with instructions. Yes, I found that objectionable because she would act as if she was above me in the office. Ego does come into picture. That also leads to inefficiency. So perspectives vary because of such factors. You might say, if I need the money, I should adjust to that. But I might feel, I will earn in 1000s now and spend 4000s, on my healthcare subsequently. When I chose to be aloof, they spread rumors that she is proud, arrogant, haughty.......... what do you do? .

Exactly, and she keeps telling me how she is every where online looking, I told her all she had to do is say yes, plus the job is not far from where she lives.

I agree. That's what I told her.

@popciclecold She is not desperate enough.

I think so too. That's what I told her. I told her in the next two weeks she could at least start catching up.

Yeah, I told her while she looking for a job, she could already be working.

I think so too. We were near the place where the woman offered her the job, she wouldn't go.

I tried to explain, she could get a paycheck in two weeks. I hope she listens.

Exactly, the manager has to work a lot of night shifts, she needs help badly.

@everwonderwhy I hope so. For her it's not getting any better.

@popciclecold I hope your friend will have that sense of 'being needed' and get paid by working happily at the same time.

Thank you, I think so. You have a great weekend also.

@popciclecold You're welcome. Thank you very much!

No, no health issues. You are fortunate to be able to work from home.

I hope she will do something, not having luck online. I just don't want her to get in further trouble with her finances.