How do you feel about kids in general?
By Amber
@AmbiePam (93791)
United States
September 10, 2024 1:55pm CST
A lot of people don’t like children, and some of that is because they don’t have any so they don’t understand. (They also might be around them all the time and become overwhelmed). Don’t get me wrong, parents have a responsibility to get their children to behave. But often adults are like, if I had kids I’d never let them to that and that. Well, you (I) didn’t, so you probably don’t realize how hard it is (like getting a baby not to cry on an airplane). Or people who criticize for not being able to afford certain things. Do you know how expensive kids are?! They suck the money out of you with their basic needs!
It also tickles me when people compare children to pets. Not the same, people. You can certainly love a pet as much as your neighbor loves her child, but the pet is still not a child (my pets are the only substitute children I’ll ever have).
It’s okay not to love children. If the children at my apartment complex were the only ones I knew, I wouldn’t like them either. They curse, yell, and hit each other. But kids also have such good hearts. I love the three in this picture (nieces and nephew), and I’m amazed at how caring they are.
*Please note: I’m not demeaning pet parents. My pets ARE my babies. But kids are human beings, and the loss of a child is unimaginable.
So do you like kids?
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@snowy22315 (182000)
• United States
10 Sep
They are fine. I generally like them.They are definitely cute when they're little. Some kids can be bratty, but then again so can some adults.
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@MarieCoyle (38590)
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10 Sep
I love kids and people no doubt get sick of me talking about mine. I am proud of them. And litters, oh, so sweet.
The loss of a child never leaves us. One child cannot ever take the place of another child, either. All of them are in a special pocket in my heart.
I bet you are the best Auntie EVER, Amber!! 
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@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
10 Sep
Thanks, Marie. I’m currently Amyra’s favorite because I’m bringing her boba tea on Friday, and she’s been wanting to try that forever. Who knew that was all I had to do?
Your kids are incredible. Especially the one (I don’t want to use his name) who fights every day just to get up and fight for his health.
Your kids are incredible. Especially the one (I don’t want to use his name) who fights every day just to get up and fight for his health.3 people like this
@MarieCoyle (38590)
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11 Sep
@AmbiePam
He amazes me, all of his health problems and he worries about ME!! Thank you so much!
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@allknowing (137597)
• India
11 Sep
There is a huge difference between today's kids and those when I was growing up. Today's kids are in love with their mobile.
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@Juliaacv (51485)
• Canada
10 Sep
I love children.
When you think about it, we are all grown children ourselves, and I think that most of us turned out pretty good.
Children represent our future, our hopes and our dreams.
No, they are not cheap, but as their adults, we make the choices to give them what we can and feel that we should.
I can understand why some people refer to their cats or dogs as their fur babies, it is a substitute, but not the real thing, but not everyone is cut out to have children themselves for various reasons.
So, to answer your question, no I do not like kids, I LOVE them. Somebody loved me when I was one and gave me a good upbringing and I did the same for my own. It keeps the world going around.
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@RasmaSandra (80659)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Sep
You're asking the wrong person. I went through a still birth and a spontaneous abortion and wound up with no kids. Kids are just fine if you can have them is not go your own way, Yep, got two fur babies right here and Freddie has learned to clearly say in English Mama so if during the night even though he knows where I am he need to hear my voice I hear the cat voice Mama and I ask him what is the matter then he settles down,
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@Fleura (30539)
• United Kingdom
10 Sep
It's funny how we sometimes talk about 'kids' as if they are a separate species, not like us. The same goes for pensioners/seniors/old people, and also teenagers. They tend to get lumped together as if they were all the same. First, they are not all the same as each other, and second, they are just like us, in fact they are, were or will be us (depending on what age we are).
The other thing I find puzzling is how some adults, often including parents, are so impatient with their children, don't explain things, and get angry and don't listen or try to understand. Don't they remember being a child themselves? It seems that in many cases they actually don't.
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Sep
Their photo !!!
It's weird, but up to a certain point in my young adult life, it's not that I didn't like kids . . . I just didn't know what to do with them 
. But when I had the skating life in my adulthood, I actually had a chance to relive childhood - I had a lot of kid "friends" from wee ones to teens. It kinda prepared me for when I had my own kids and to deal with all kinds of kids along the way - I'm pretty grateful for that.
My younger sister was not able to have kids. Yet she is ultra critical of how we raise ours. It's interesting you made all these points in your post. The thing is I won't ever know what it's like to be an aunty . . . although I've been an aunty to her pets.
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It's weird, but up to a certain point in my young adult life, it's not that I didn't like kids . . . I just didn't know what to do with them . But when I had the skating life in my adulthood, I actually had a chance to relive childhood - I had a lot of kid "friends" from wee ones to teens. It kinda prepared me for when I had my own kids and to deal with all kinds of kids along the way - I'm pretty grateful for that.
My younger sister was not able to have kids. Yet she is ultra critical of how we raise ours. It's interesting you made all these points in your post. The thing is I won't ever know what it's like to be an aunty . . . although I've been an aunty to her pets.1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
11 Sep
My parents told me never to judge how someone rears their children when you don’t have children yourself. I understood they didn’t mean cursing and screaming children though. Lol
I felt kind of badly that I didn’t make my sister an aunt. I have had dogs over the years, but unfortunately, she’s not pet tolerant. My sister recently (kindly) scolded me for spoiling her kids, but I can’t help it.
Thanks for appreciating their photo!
Thanks for appreciating their photo!1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
17 Sep
@much2say Thank you for saying that. And yes, aunts definitely get to be the fun ones. I don’t fool myself into thinking I could do the job of a parent. I have the love to give, but not the fortitude or discipline. Because it does take fortitude! Lol
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@much2say (55912)
• Los Angeles, California
17 Sep
@AmbiePam My parents said something similar to that. Or maybe it was more like "Just wait til you have your own kids!!" 
. I think my sister missed the memo on a lot of things they tried to teach.
I love the relationship you have with the kids . . . you're a wonderful aunt who adores them and they adore you . Aunts get the honor of being the fun one 
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. I think my sister missed the memo on a lot of things they tried to teach.
I love the relationship you have with the kids . . . you're a wonderful aunt who adores them and they adore you . Aunts get the honor of being the fun one .1 person likes this
@kaylachan (71590)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Sep
In small doses I can handle them. I don't think I'd ever be able to parent a child. Especially now with George so ill and recovering from his stroke. I'm the one who has to run the house. Plus be doctor mom. In some ways, George is like a pet ( he can't always communicate what's wrong), but I wouldn't change a thing. Does it mean I don't have an opinion when it comes to raising kids? Well, yes. I do. But, that's based on how I was raised. I see a lot of piss poor and lazy parenting. I also see a lot of hellicopter parenting, too. Those kind of parents raise kids with little self-confidence and low self estime. I also both understand the importantance of mental illness awareness, but do not believe it's a get out of jail free card to disipline your kid. You just might have to be more repeative then you would with a nerotypical child.
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@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
10 Sep
When I think of not being able to control mentally challenged kids, I think mostly of the completely nonverbal children. I honestly don’t know if repetitive teaching helps them understand. Otherwise, I agree. My nephew doesn’t get a free pass, and I can’t imagine my sister ever letting him. He throws a fit, and trouble is a ‘comin for him.
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@kaylachan (71590)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Sep
@AmbiePam Studies have proven that repetition is the key when it comes to learning. We learn to talk by repeating what we hear. Walking is repeating the same motions and so on. Someone who is non-verbal is a challenge in they aren't able to tell you like a verbal child would, but they learn the same way. It just takes longer and because it does, people often give up on them and would rather appoligize for their actions. But, those who are patient and aren't willing to give up raise people who intergrate into society successfully. Many people walking around today may have a problem we know nothing abut.
For example, my husband now walks with a limp, and mixeses up his words, but no one could look at him today and say 'he had a stroke'.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
11 Sep
I generally do not dislike children, unless they are like the children you are mentioning at your apartment complex. We had no children, it was a choice, my husband had to travel often for his business and I always traveled with him. I liked the two children of our closest neighbors, as well as the girl of my brother, who is now an adult woman. We took care of her during 10 years after my brother divorced.
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@JudyEv (341820)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 Sep
I'm not very good with children so I don't really go out of my way to be friends. Vince is wonderul with kids and I feel very sorry for him that we won't have any grandchildren. He once sat all the way through a meal at quite a flash restaurant with a doll on his knee, pretending to feed it. The owner of the doll thought he was marvellous.
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@Deepizzaguy (104008)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Sep
No I am single and only have nephews.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
11 Sep
I have both children and a pet dog. I love small children and they get easily attracted towards me. I am an animal lover too. My dog love me and I too.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
13 Sep
@AmbiePam They love you unconditionally.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84190)
• Rupert, Idaho
11 Sep
I never really liked kids, but I always wanted to be a mom. I love my son more than anything, and would love for him to have siblings if possible. I still am not a big fan of other people's kids lol. May be weird, I don't know.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84190)
• Rupert, Idaho
11 Sep
@AmbiePam Well I am glad it is not weird!
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@Tampa_girl7 (50607)
• United States
12 Sep
I do like children. I have met a few that were hard to be around though.
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@LindaOHio (181320)
• United States
11 Sep
Kids are cute; but I can't handle ones that are yelling and screaming and running amok. Have a good day.
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@Adi_DS (27)
• Indonesia
11 Sep
Hey! I get what you're saying about kids. In my culture, we see kids as a blessing, so we’re always surrounded by them, even if they can be loud or hard to manage sometimes. It’s just part of life here.
I totally agree that kids and pets are not the same. Both bring love, but yeah, kids are little humans with their own challenges and emotions.
Personally, I like kids, especially when they show kindness and care. But I get why some people find them tough to deal with—it’s not easy. I think it’s fine to not love kids as long as we respect each other’s experiences.
What do you think helps parents teach their kids better behavior in places like apartments or on airplanes?
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@AmbiePam (93791)
• United States
11 Sep
I think just teaching kids respect for each other. Often, the kids don’t even respect their parents in these apartments. They just give in to lazy parenting when it comes to teaching them how to treat others. I also live in a complex of one parent households. The father generally is not around to help the mother set a good example. That’s no excuse as single mothers often do better jobs teaching their kids than two parent households, but I do think it makes a difference. The mothers (here in this complex) sometimes seem to be overwhelmed.
