9/13/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (178877)
United States
September 13, 2024 1:39am CST
Spoke with him yesterday and was totally blindsided.
He said that he is getting in and out of bed and in and out of his wheelchair without any assistance; so I asked him what we were waiting for since that was the last barrier to his returning home. He said, "I don't know". He said that he still couldn't walk without the walker. We had already talked about him returning home and using my rollator. As you know, we even had a date for him to return home before he came down with COVID. I am totally gobsmacked. It could take months until he can walk without a walker.
I am going to see him today.
Thank you for your continued support, prayers and thoughts.
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20 responses
@MarieCoyle (37570)
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13 Sep
Does he want to walk without the walker before he comes home? He has had such a long journey (not that you haven't, too, with all of this!) it could be he might need a little time to regain his confidence? Men never admit that they could be a bit scared...but that's possible. Or maybe, he's worried he might come home and not be quite strong enough yet?
Maybe a few more days will give him some more confidence and assurance. It's great news that he can do the bed and the wheelchair, for sure!
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
13 Sep
He has admitted that he's scared; but now he wants to stay until he can walk without a walker. That could take months and thousands of dollars.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
@MarieCoyle They use the gait belt in PT. I saw him get into bed after a shower on Friday. He is not as independent as he told me. He had a great deal of difficulty getting up and into the bed.
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@MarieCoyle (37570)
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13 Sep
@LindaOHio
His legs are frail and weak, from what you have said. He may well surprise you and soon feel confident enough to go home. Is there a nurse you can speak with privately about this? Maybe she/he could give you some insights on can he get as far as the bathroom and back, can he manage the bathroom by himself, and such. I am sure if he is using a walker that there is an attendant with him at all times. Do they use a gait belt as well, when he is walking? Maybe while you are there today he will get up and down by himself to show you his progress.
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@FourWalls (68097)
• United States
13 Sep
Having a walker isn’t a big drawback. My dear aunt of blessed memory walked around her house with one for the last ten years she lived there.
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@FourWalls (68097)
• United States
14 Sep
@LindaOHio — at this stage of the game that may be an impossibility. 
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
15 Sep
@FourWalls He is being stubborn and not practical.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I think he's trying to avoid using any kind of help.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
13 Sep
No. It's horrible. He doesn't want to come home until he can walk without a walker. That could take months.
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@AmbiePam (92806)
• United States
13 Sep
@LindaOHio Oh!!! I didn’t realize that. Yes, I can understand why that is upsetting.
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@rebelann (112875)
• El Paso, Texas
13 Sep
That doesn't seem a realistic view on his part, if he's elderly then it's likely he'll need a walker for the rest of his life but he should want to go home and continue PT to see if he can regain all his balance needs. I'm 75 and figure I'll need one in no less than 5 years.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I don't know what the solution is. It's very upsetting.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
15 Sep
@rebelann That would probably put pressure on him. He's told me not to pressure him.
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@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
13 Sep
Hope this is the miracle you've been waiting for Linda. Enjoy your visit and hope you get good news that he'll be able to come home. (even if he has to use a walker)
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@Marilynda1225 (82789)
• United States
14 Sep
@LindaOHio that would certainly be expensive
Maybe could come home and have in-home PT
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
15 Sep
@Marilynda1225 Insurance will cover 2 weeks of in-home therapy.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I think he wants to wait until he can walk without assistance. We can't afford that.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
15 Sep
@sallypup It could be months until (if ever) he can walk without a walker or a cane.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
It's terrible news. He doesn't want to come home until he can walk without assistance.
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
13 Sep
Lots of people use walkers. He will get stronger if he does.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I think he wants to wait until he can walk without assistance. We can't afford that.
@RasmaSandra (79892)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Sep
Glad you get to see him today, See what you can find out perhaps now is a good time to get him home, Besides he might need a walker for assistance now always so that he can do it at home too. Perhaps he just needs encouragement and there are people who don't walk without walkers, If I don't use a shopping cart to keep me up due to my bum knee when I do go out I do use a four-pronged cane,
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I think he doesn't want to use any assistance because it means that he's getting old.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I think so; but apparently he wants to walk without a walker.
@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Sep
@LindaOHio Sorry. I thought if he could get in and out of bed and the chair that was a good thing. I've read since about him wanting to be able to walk first.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
15 Sep
@JudyEv Yes, I was totally caught off guard.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
It's terrible news. He doesn't want to come home until he can walk without assistance.
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@dgobucks226 (35621)
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14 Sep
Maybe he will have to rely on the walker from now on, or at least a cane. As long as he can get around enough to get out of bed and use the bathroom, that's a great sign he can return home.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
I think he wants to avoid using either. That's the problem.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84023)
• Rupert, Idaho
13 Sep
Sorry to hear that. Hopefully he'll change his mind....
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
Thanks. I don't know what the solution is.
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@grenery8 (10792)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 Sep
@LindaOHio i wish it appears soon.
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@snowy22315 (180830)
• United States
13 Sep
That is amazing. I saw down below he doesn't want to come home until he doesn't need a walker. Doesn't he know you do can't afford to keep him there indefinitely? He really seems like he is afraid to return home for whatever reason.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
Yes, I think he's afraid. We can't afford to wait several more months.
@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
13 Sep
No. It's horrible. He doesn't want to come home until he can walk without a walker. That could take months.
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@Juliaacv (51009)
• Canada
13 Sep
Surely he has alot of pride that he doesn't want to come home until he is walking without the walker.
We only get 1 life and we need to make the most of it, and using a walker is very common and safe in a home-setting.
I hope that he is ready to come home soon.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
14 Sep
He is stubborn. I don't know what the solution is.
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@thislittlepennyearns (62529)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
16 Sep
Maybe they are still waiting gon something to do with him having COVID before releasing him. That has to be frustrating.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
16 Sep
He no longer has COVID; and he can leave at anytime he wants.
@nicegolden (284)
• Shenzhen, China
13 Sep
I think he's better home since he can get in and out of bed and in and out of his wheelchair without any assistance,at home he can eat what he wants,and ease your worries
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@Beestring (14563)
• Hong Kong
13 Sep
Yes, when you visit him, find out his concerns.
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@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
13 Sep
I need to talk to the physical therapy guys.
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