~The Victim~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
September 17, 2024 9:19am CST
The next part to the Narcissist series, The Victim.
Oh boy are they so very good at this! They will make you feel so sorry for them, playing on your heart strings as an empath. They make you believe their childhood was horrible and they had awful things done to them their entire life. And all of these things were of course no fault of their own...
As a loving and sensitive person you fall right into this one, you want to make their life better now, you defend their actions for years because after all their childhood is what made them treat you so wrong from all they've been through & you truly believe you can change them.
The Victim, yes they will be one day because we will all have to answer for our actions.
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@JordanLader (5201)
• Sparta, Tennessee
17 Sep
I hate those types of people and most of the time they think if they change up the story after you catch them, you'll fall right back in with them. I had a friend that was like that and probably still is honestly. I had to cut ties for my own sanity.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Sep
@JordanLader Yes!! I completely understand, I'm married to a narcissist and it's awful.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Sep
@Juliaacv Me too, and they play on these kind of people. Unfortunately we make it easy for them, they see us a mile away and know we will fall victim to their game. =(
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@Juliaacv (50851)
• Canada
18 Sep
@LovingMyBabies You are right, they really do see us a mile away.
My husband and son and I all are like that, very giving and always trying to help others.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Sep
@AmbiePam Yes it does, but I'm also grateful the Lord blessed me with a soft heart. 
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@snowy22315 (179715)
• United States
17 Sep
A Narcissist always feels they have been wronged by the world..AKA look at Trump.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Sep
@snowy22315 They do feel that way, 100%. Living with one is so difficult since everything is YOUR fault, not their own.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Sep
@akalinus Yes, it's exhausting. Being married to one is worse...
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@akalinus (43142)
• United States
23 Sep
@LovingMyBabies I lost mine but he told me what a bad person I am and how all the bad stuff that happened was my fault. It probably is. Then his heart failed him.
@LindaOHio (176652)
• United States
18 Sep
I didn't know you were still living with him. I'm sorry you've been subjected to all of this. Try and have a good day.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Sep
@LindaOhio For now, yes. Been married for 20 years, but thats going to change once I can save enough for me and my children.
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@pumpkinjam (8754)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
I had a 10 year relationship with a narcissist. I knew there were things wrong during that time but didn't really know about narcissism and gaslighting until after the relationship ended. Once I learnt about those things, I realised that's what he was/what he was doing. I've also more recently realised that I know several people who are textbook narcissists. They can't (or won't) see past their own experiences, have no empathy for others, and will lie and manipulate. One particular person will convince others that she is a good person and that any problem she has is anyone else's fault but hers (when I say problem, though, it's usually not an actual problem or it's one that she created).
