Today I feel a little sad for defeating someone in table tennis / myLot

Bucharest, Romania

September 21, 2024 11:31am CST

I went and played some table tennis with three guys. One of them beat me and the other two got beat by me. The idea is that I felt sad and I still feel little sad for one of those two that I beat. He seemed like a nice, hear warming person and me beating him just feels wrong, if you know what I mean. I assume that I am perceiving him as being vulnerable and this is why I feel like this. This is the first time that I feel this way, actually feeling empathy and compassion for my opponent. As I said, it could be because of the way I perceived him. What you guys think?

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471354)

• Switzerland

22 Sep

I am sure you did a honest play and you should not feel sad. I am sure that the guy was not sad because you won.

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Cristian Ichim

@Cristi_Ichim (3743)

• Bucharest, Romania

26 Sep

I hope that he wasn't sad.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471354)

• Switzerland

27 Sep

@Cristi_Ichim - I am sure not, do not worry.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (166761)

• Boise, Idaho

22 Sep

Give him some free lessons and/or advice.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (166761)

• Boise, Idaho

23 Sep

@Cristi_Ichim .......I see.

Cristian Ichim

@Cristi_Ichim (3743)

• Bucharest, Romania

22 Sep

He is taking lessons currently from a coach / trainer, so, me giving him lessons would be redundant.

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youless

@youless (112481)

• Guangzhou, China

23 Sep

If lost to them on purpose so that you would feel good, I think it may be worse. If it is a fair game, then losing it is normal. Actually they may feel good to meet a good competition like you. Sometimes you will feel bored if you win all the time, sometimes you are eager to have a good game with a good opponent.

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Cristian Ichim

@Cristi_Ichim (3743)

• Bucharest, Romania

26 Sep

Only one game I played it at half my strength so that they would have a chance and they won that game in which I did not play my best.

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much2say

@much2say (55562)

• Los Angeles, California

22 Sep

You played a game with him in which you tried your best and you happened to win. I think he would appreciate an honest game rather than you playing it down to let him win.

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Cristian Ichim

@Cristi_Ichim (3743)

• Bucharest, Romania

22 Sep

I did play one game slowly in order to let him win. I basically gave him one free game.