We Are Not Meant To Be Doormats
By J.N.R Dutton
@jnrdutton (3216)
United States
September 25, 2024 5:29am CST
If someone is in a dangerous relationship, they should get out fast. Anyone encouraging someone to stay in a violent relationship needs their heads examined, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
I don't believe people were intended to be DOORMATS.
I have seen far too many people stay in actual dangerous relationships because they think they can "fix" the person, and it breaks my heart and turns my stomach.
I have heard countless stories (on forensic shows and the like) of people losing their lives to violent relationships. We need to end this epidemic.
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6 responses
@2ndchances24 (9682)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
28 Oct
Back in my time of being in 1, I didn't know how to get out
but I thought long & hard & watched plenty of movies on how
I could without getting killed in the process.
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@porwest (94730)
• United States
1 Nov
@2ndchances24 I think the thing that gets missed is that MOST of these guys who abuse girlfriends and wives, while monsters, aren't necessarily as dangerous as they make themselves out to be. They just make the abused person believe it. Once the abused person figures it out, leaving is easy.
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@2ndchances24 (9682)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
2 Nov
@porwest (while monsters, aren't necessarily as dangerous as they
make themselves out to be, They just make the abused person believe it.)
Well whatever the reason or case may be, A man should NEVER abuse
a woman he says he LOVES.
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@2ndchances24 (9682)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
25 Sep
your right I use to be in a relationship like what your talking & I wised up
& got out AFTER 4 yrs & step right into another 1 & got out of that 1 too.
Sometimes it's not as easy as people think it is to just walk away you have
to be VERY smart about how you do that to MAKE it out in 1 piece & you
have to know what your doing B-4 you even think about walking out.
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@toniganzon (72551)
• Philippines
25 Sep
In a country where divorce law doesn't exist and majority of the people are religious, the opinions of others and the church matter a lot. They'd convince the couple to stay in a marriage despite of it being abusive. It is believe that marriage is sacred and shouldn't be broken.
Though I grew up in this kind of society, I would never allow myself to stay in such abusive marriage. And I totally agree with you.
@jnrdutton (3216)
• United States
25 Sep
I have deep faith, I believe marriage is sacred, and I also believe that spouses should HONOR one another.
With that said, anyone who actually Loves their spouse wouldn't abuse them to begin with, just my two cents. I would never encourage anyone to stay with someone who is abusive.
@LindaOHio (183892)
• United States
26 Sep
Too many people stay for the kids or they're afraid to leave. Sad.
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@fivecandles (438)
• United States
28 Oct
Its so much easier to say "get out fast" than it is to actually do it. The most dangerous part of an abusive relationship is trying to leave. Also most DV victims attempted to leave the relationship multiple times.
