This takes online dating/matching sites to a whole new level.
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (38022)
September 28, 2024 5:19pm CST
There is definitely much truth in the statement that a person learns something new all the time, and that some things are rather surprising.
I do not use dating/matchmaker sites. But tons of people do use them, and many of them have met their significant other there, or even a husband or wife. They have gained a lot of popularity.
According to AI:
Online dating is the dominant way couples meet
In 2017, nearly 50% of married couples met online, up from 2% in 1998 and 20% in 2008.
According to a large-scale survey of dating app users, 30% of dating app users are married, and 12% are in a relationship.
A study of 19,131 couples who met online and married found that only 7% got divorced, compared to the U.S. divorce rate of 40 to 50 percent.
I found some of that shocking, but I shouldn't have. I was surprised that so many people using those sites are married already, or in a relationship. Again, I shouldn't be surprised, but I was.
There are sites for LGBTQ, sites for farmers, sites for people from all walks of life. I heard a neighbor say that her niece found her fiance on a dating site for Democrats only. That led me to ask her, are there sites for Republicans, too? And yes, there are. There are evidently sites for people of certain religious denominations, Fundamentalists, sites for plural marriage partners, seniors, business professionals, disabled people, and on and on it goes.
I did not know this. It doesn't make me want to join one of the sites by any means, I have never wanted to. It sort of reminds me of a catalog, where you specifically pick out what you want. The people who join some of these sites evidently are very specific about what kind of partner they want! I have to admit I was surprised to hear there are different dating sites for different political preferences, I had not ever imagined this.
Do you think this is a good thing? Will it lower the divorce rate, and lead to better marriages/partnerships?
Picture, CB Insights
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17 responses
@Deepizzaguy (103376)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
29 Sep
That is a good question since I suffer from being too nice a person who does not harm a person of the opposite gender due to differences of musical tastes.
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@Deepizzaguy (103376)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
29 Sep
@MarieCoyle I try to brr nice on social media except when some troll insults me because I am not up to date on some subjects.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I doubt very much that you are ever mean to anyone, George.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
@Deepizzaguy
I think you're just fine. Very polite and you seem well informed. I enjoy your posts, George.
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@rakski (124459)
• Philippines
29 Sep
@MarieCoyle
Yes, so true. And to be one a member that I don't think it is cheap
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
@rakski
I understand that it doesn't come cheap. I guess some people think it's worth it, I just can't...
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I wasn’t aware that there was, either. A whole lot more than just the ones shown in the picture!
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@wolfgirl569 (106999)
• Marion, Ohio
29 Sep
I don't think it will change the divorce rate or anything.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I have no idea, the divorce rate is high enough, I know.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
Never thought of that comparison, but you are right.
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@JudyEv (340654)
• Rockingham, Australia
29 Sep
My nephew met his wife at one of those evenings where you meet with maybe ten different people and spend 3 minutes with each one. Something sparked between them. One was Catholic and one Jewish so there were a few fraught years before they managed to reconcile how they'd manage their lives. I had a Catholic aunt of sorts who married a Seventh Day Adventist and they had a very long and happy marriage. Maybe those who join dating sites have a better idea of what they're looking for in a partner.
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@JudyEv (340654)
• Rockingham, Australia
29 Sep
@MarieCoyle I don't think I'd ever touch them with a barge pole (are you familiar with that saying?) even should the need arrive.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
@JudyEv we have a somewhat similar saying “I wouldn’t touch that with a ten foot pole!” So yes, close enough! I am simply not interested in doing that.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
Maybe you’re right, I just know I’m not interested in trying any of the sites. At least your nephew and his wife made it work, that’s good.
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@thislittlepennyearns (62829)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
29 Sep
I can't believe Plenty of Fish is still a thing. My daughters father cheated on me with that app uhh almost 12 years ago.
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@thislittlepennyearns (62829)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
29 Sep
@MarieCoyle Yeah. I never thought dating sites were a good idea I met Chris at Burger King when I worked there. LOL
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
@thislittlepennyearns
I had a friend who met and married a fellow via a dating site. He was who he said he was, and had a job, etc. he taught high school. But he was the meanest man I ever met...that marriage lasted less than 2 years. She then said she was done trying dating sites. I can understand why!
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@AmbiePam (93298)
• United States
18 Oct
My childhood best friend met her husband of 18 years on Eharmony. He’s been really good to her. I think it might be good because people tend to talk on the phone first, and get to know each other before they have a real date. Then again, I don’t plan on doing it. It’s just not my style. And I’ve seen my best friend do it and end up with some real stinkers.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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18 Oct
I have known a few that it worked out for, but I also have heard some nightmare tales! I will pass on this!
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I agree, I know it must be hard for some people to meet other people, but online dating seems like it’s rather risky!
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@xander6464 (44313)
• Wapello, Iowa
30 Sep
The lower divorce rate among couples who met online is impressive. It makes me think online dating is a good thing.
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@TheHorse (219313)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Sep
I thought your post was going to be about sending DNA samples, or sweaty t-shirts (I have a sensitive nose), to dating sites. I am surprised that so many people are in relationships thanks to dating sites. I wonder if the US divorce rate is still at about 50 per cent.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
Overall, yes. At least I did read in several places that the divorce rate hovers around 50% here.
@JESSY3236 (19991)
• United States
1 Oct
I met my boyfriend online many years ago, but it wasn't on a dating website/app. I met him on a message board. I did met him in person.
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@LindaOHio (179781)
• United States
29 Sep
It doesn't surprise me that there are so many groups for various interests such as politics - Republicans and Democrats. I'm sure there are even groups for overweight people. I'm leery of meeting someone online; but it seems to work for a lot of people. Have a good day.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
It seems there is a dating site for nearly everyone and for every preference. I had no idea until I read about it all, but wow, what a racket.
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@cabuyogty (3044)
• Philippines
30 Sep
My older cousin met her husband in an online dating site , just something have to say!
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@cabuyogty (3044)
• Philippines
1 Oct
@MarieCoyle My older cousin is in late 40s of her age and her husband is around 60s of his age and they are living in the United States.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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1 Oct
@cabuyogty
I think it does work for some people, but I am simply not interested in matchmaking sites.
@MarieCoyle (38022)
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1 Oct
I even know some senior couples who met on a senior site and are married. I guess it does work for some people.
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@LovesEverybody (4394)
• United States
29 Sep
I am old fashioned if a person wants to date they should find them however a person would find a date in person. I have no idea how people get dates but they shouldn't be online. I personally have never been on a date and don't want to go on one and have certainly never married.
those dating sites scare me when I read about them
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I have been on dates I enjoyed very much, and I have been married. But I still have no desire to use one of these sites.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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30 Sep
Well, if you aren't wanting to meet anyone or date anyone, you will never need a site to find a date. No, I don't think dating sites were invented or active 31 years ago.
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@LovesEverybody (4394)
• United States
30 Sep
@MarieCoyle My sister has been on dates and is married so if I ever decided I needed a man I would ask my sister how she met her husband. I don't quite remember clearly from back then but 31 years ago when she got married but I am almost positive there were no online dating sites back then
@Juliaacv (51298)
• Canada
29 Sep
Last evening we were chatting with our son who attended a wedding last weekend.
I asked him what his new bride was like, as I know the groom only.
He said that she was quiet.
I asked how they met, and he told me an online site, and while my mouth was gapping open, he then added another couple to that list that he is friends with that met online.
Both couples are married, one of them has been married for a number of years and have 2 children now.
In some cases, I believe that it can work, but like all relationships, regardless of how the couple finds each other, there has to be a spark and there has to be respect and compromise.
I am thankful that I met the old fashioned way, a friend of a friend, who when he looked me in the eye, I fell immediately in love with, 42 years ago.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
Before I was married, there wasn't such a thing as online dating, of course. Can you even imagine our parents and grandparents opinions on such a thing? I think they would say, no way will that ever take place!
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@RasmaSandra (80204)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Sep
I have never believed that you could meet someone online and really get to know them, I think you have to be able to be with this person day by day to see what they are like, I do not trust these sites at all, I have had the romantic part of my life and all I might consider at this point is a close friendship to have someone to share things with,
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I completely understand, a true close friendship can be a blessing.
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@MarieCoyle (38022)
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29 Sep
I have not tried them, and do not plan on doing so.
In all honesty though, we can have a person in our lives for many years and still not really ''know'' what they are like.
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