Pumpkin's Positive Post: focus on the positives

Tweet

I was going to write a ranty post but it was getting too messy, I couldn't decide which bits to put in or how much detail for each bit. I decided to focus on the positive. I will offer a little about the negatives. That's just to give you an idea without making the the positives into a rant. Recently, my ex-partner (youngest's son's father) passed away suddenly. There are a whole load of rants I could have about that. He had chosen not to be in our lives a long time ago. I had conversations with two people who made it all about them and how they felt. Instead of going on about all the people who didn't bother, I thanked the one person from my ex's family who did contact us (my ex's aunt, related by marriage). I also appreciated that my husband has been there for me and helped me to keep an eye on my son. My son wasn't at all bothered as he'd all but forgotten about his dad, but he doesn't show emotions if he has them. It was good that my husband was there for us both. I also appreciated that, as soon as they found out, both of my stepdaughters messaged me to see how my son was (I don't know why they didn't message him, he's an adult and they have his contact details but that's neither here nor there). My son gets on really well with both of the girls but especially the older one. I asked her to message him as, if he was going to tell anything to anyone, he would talk to her. I don't know what the conversation was between them (that's their business) but I am happy to know I could ask that of my stepdaughter. I asked my husband if I was a narcissist or if I had any signs of mental illness. He gave an honest and pragmatic answer, which was basically that I wasn't and I didn't. The reason for me asking was because of recent events that highlighted prevalent narcissism and precarious (or non-existent) grasp of reality in my family. I won't go into detail about it but my husband spoke to my mum about an issue. While my mum usually doesn't listen to anything anyone says, she did listen to him. I don't think he said anything that I hadn't/couldn't have told her but that's another story. My husband told me he was pleased that he was able to do that and to put my mum's mind at rest about something. I was pleased that he was willing and able to do that as well. I told my husband that I felt like I had nobody to talk to. When someone has had enough, they'll come to me. But where does the support network go for support? My husband reminded me that I had him. As he said, he doesn't always know what to do but he can listen. Of course, being a husband, he doesn't listen but he can sit there and look pretty while I let everything out I spent a lot of time and effort working on positivity, I'm not going to let myself down now. What's happening in your world? Is it good? If not, can you turn it into good?