Not a good start to the day, can I get a do-over?
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (37101)
October 2, 2024 12:39pm CST
One of my very good friends called, they took her husband to the hospital as his son found him very ill on the floor when he stopped to visit. She was with her daughter, who was having a baby, in Arkansas (we are in Illinois). She grabbed the next flight and called me, and asked me to go to the airport to get her--but I was in another city, taking my son to a specialist appointment we had waited on for quite some time, so I was 3 hours away! I felt so bad. She has done so much to help me out with my son, and she asked one favor and I couldn't get to her to help her. Her husband is OK. She is with him now, we found her a ride.
That was enough excitement for one day...but no. Finally made it back to my own city, and my best friend called (she lives 120 miles away). Her brother died this morning. She was completely inconsolable, of course...she was very close to her brother. He had fought prostate cancer twice, and had just been pronounced as in remission not a week ago. He just stood up and hit the floor...and then it was over. Mark was honestly one of the nicest men I ever met. Truly a good and kind man.
Lastly, we were at the treatment center when all of this went down, for son's transfusion and infusion. They always check his counts beforehand, which they did and his blood was a lot lower than usual, so we had to sit through him getting 2 units of blood, plus an iron infusion. He was wiped out, so tired.
Anyway, enough hard stuff for one day! Hopefully, the rest of the day will be calm.
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@rakski (121998)
• Philippines
3 Oct
@MarieCoyle that is great!! I bet he is really excited to go fishing
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
Mark was so, so excited to be in remission! He had all sorts of things planned for himself. Even bought a new fishing pole. Thank you so much.
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@LadyDuck (471253)
• Switzerland
3 Oct
That is too much for one day. You must not feel guilty because you couldn't get to her to help your friend, you were helping your son and miles away from the airport.
Sorry for your other friend who lost her brother. Your poor son must be so exhausted, you both need to rest now.
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@LadyDuck (471253)
• Switzerland
4 Oct
@MarieCoyle - I hope that today will be a better day for you, your son and your friends.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
We did both manage a little nap, but not nearly enough. Some days are just stressful for us all...and all we can do is our best. Thank you, Anna.
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@snowy22315 (180361)
• United States
3 Oct
That must have been a dreadful day for you. So sorry, all we can do is get through them.
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@snowy22315 (180361)
• United States
3 Oct
@MarieCoyle Yes, those kinds of things are so difficult.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
I feel so badly for my friend losing her brother, they were very close.
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@kaylachan (69229)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Oct
Just breathe. You're doing your best. One thing at a time.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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2 Oct
Thank you , I am always fighting the battle with my son to get him well. And my friend is so distraught and upset. I hurt for them.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
@sallypup
And they are so much appreciated! Thank you.
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@LindaOHio (177839)
• United States
3 Oct
I'm so sorry you couldn't help your friend and that Mark passed away. I hope you have a better day and that your son's next procedure goes smoothly.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
I hope so, too. I find it hard sometimes to think of ''next time'' after all of the surgeries he has had. I've dreaded each one. Thank you.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
I did. It’s hard when people you care about are hurting.
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@allknowing (135922)
• India
3 Oct
They say problems come in threes and hopefully the rest of your day would have gone well.
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@FourWalls (67703)
• United States
2 Oct
You deserve a do-over. So do your friends. 
That sounds like my uncle: he went to the doctor on a Friday for his five-years colon cancer checkup and was declared cured. Next Friday we buried him (heart attack). My prayers with you, dear, you’ve had a terrible month today.
That sounds like my uncle: he went to the doctor on a Friday for his five-years colon cancer checkup and was declared cured. Next Friday we buried him (heart attack). My prayers with you, dear, you’ve had a terrible month today.2 people like this
@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
Very upsetting...and very unexpected for her. Now she has lost both of her little brothers, and her husband as well. It's hard for her.
I am sure that was a total shock about your uncle, too. We never know what the day will bring, so we need to make the most of them! Thank you.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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5 Oct
Not the best, that's for sure. He's been resting a lot today. Thank you, Judy.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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6 Oct
@jstory07
Today was a bit better. He was able to rest for several hours without waking up, which is wonderful.
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@wolfgirl569 (105819)
• Marion, Ohio
2 Oct
So sorry. That was a lot. Glad the husband is ok. I am sure your friend understands. At least you helped find her a ride.
Very sorry about the other friends brother.
Hope your son starts feeling better.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
Thank you, I hope the son feels better soon, too.
There will be a memorial service in about 2 weeks, I will be going to that.
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@RasmaSandra (79648)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Oct
Well, that was some day. Glad the husband is alright, Sorry for your friend losing her brother, Glad your son's appointment worked out and he got the help he needed, I sure hope your Thursday overshines Wednesday,
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
Yes, definitely, I hope that was all the bad news for at least a few days. Thank you so much.
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@MarieCoyle (37101)
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3 Oct
This would have been a day to sleep late, but no choice. Others had it far worse. Thank you.
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