10/5/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (178701)
United States
October 5, 2024 8:31am CST
Spoke with him last night. PT is going OK. He still talks about walking without a walker first before he comes home. I don't know what to do to convince him he just needs to come home. He feels pressured when I talk to him about it. Shortly we will receive another bill for his room for October. The "two weeks" he talked about have come and gone. I just want him home.
The physical therapy and skilled nursing records are ready for pickup at the desk. At least we won't have to worry about having to ship everything "next day". We have plenty of time. I need to get on the phone and ask questions about filling out the appeal form.
Thank you for your continued prayers, support and thoughts.
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@snowy22315 (180766)
• United States
5 Oct
I agree with Chicca down below. You might need to have someone talk to him besides you about this.Surely, some of the staff there he feels close to.For some reason he seems to have convinced himself it is better to be in the rehab than to go home.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
5 Oct
He thinks he's going to stay there until he can walk without a walker...that could be months and tens of thousands of dollars later.
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@snowy22315 (180766)
• United States
5 Oct
@LindaOHio Right, that isn't acceptable..and being in an environment like that he is being exposed to germs. He could get staph, strep, Covid again .who knows what?
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
@snowy22315 I totally agree. He needs to change his mindset.
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@FourWalls (68041)
• United States
5 Oct
See if his doctor can convince him to come home. Then get his butt on the phone to the VA or other veterans groups (state or local) to get help from them.
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@FourWalls (68041)
• United States
6 Oct
@LindaOHio — ouch. I know that you know thi, but that MUST change. Do you have a PCP? Might he/she help?
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
7 Oct
@FourWalls No. He thought about going to this doctor just a few miles away; but he never did anything about it. The @@@@ has hit the fan because the facility called today and said that the PT guy said Mr. Ohio has come as far as he can go. They want him to transition HOME.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
The doctor at the rehab facility? He procrastinated and did not set up a new PCP. So he has no doctor.
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@Juliaacv (51214)
• Canada
6 Oct
@LindaOHio He has to overcome that it is essential to going home.
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@wolfgirl569 (106316)
• Marion, Ohio
5 Oct
He might always need a walker now. Hopefully he starts to see that and wants to come home
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@wolfgirl569 (106316)
• Marion, Ohio
6 Oct
@LindaOHio It can be. But it doesn't have to limit him. When he understands that he will feel better
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
5 Oct
Yes, he may never walk without a walker. It would be hard for me to realize that if I were in his situation.
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@moffittjc (121586)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct
Is he worried about being home and having to use a walker? Of course I can't speak for him, but if I was in that situation I would be doing everything in my power to get out of that place and back to my comfy home. I hope he will change his mind and decide he really wants to be home, walker or not.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
5 Oct
Yes, he thinks he's going to stay there until he can walk without a walker...that could be months.
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@moffittjc (121586)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct
@LindaOHio I can understand the desire for complete independence, especially in us men who don't want to seem (or be viewed) as being dependent on something else to help us function.
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@sallypup (61131)
• Centralia, Washington
6 Oct
@moffittjc I wish there was a more manly looking walker! I don't want to look like I'm a nursing home canidate so I use a dragon head cane.
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@GardenGerty (160674)
• United States
5 Oct
He sounds a little scared, perhaps, to come home and learn how to live outside of a rehab.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
Yes, he can't get it through his brain that he might not ever walk without a walker.
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@kaylachan (69752)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Oct
Just tell him he doesn't need to use the walker at home. Bare in mind, and make sure he understand this, using the walker at the ficility is part of their safety proticol, like having a wheelchair for everyone to use.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
I don't know of anyone he would listen to.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
5 Oct
Glad to know that your hubby is doing well. Seemingly worry free. My prayer is due for him.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
6 Oct
@LindaOHio You're welcome. Have a blessed Sunday.
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@MarieCoyle (37531)
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6 Oct
I know it's all concerning. In trying to put it together from what you have said lately on your posts, he still has a lot of chest congestion, and still getting breathing treatments, right? Has he reached a point that he can get out of bed or a chair by himself yet, and use the walker to get to the bathroom and back? The mobility thing will be very important if he is to go home...he has to either be mobile or you would have to have 24 hour help.
Forgive me for asking nosy questions, I am just trying to put all the pieces together. I hope he can improve enough to feel confident about going home. It sounds like he puts a lot of pressure on himself, trying to be able to do things. One thing for sure, he never gives up!
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
7 Oct
@MarieCoyle I may have big news tomorrow. We shall see.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
He is no longer congested or getting breathing treatments. No, he can't go to the bathroom by himself. I'm getting really stressed about this.
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@MarieCoyle (37531)
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6 Oct
@LindaOHio
That’s good news about the congestion and breathing treatments! If he can’t get to the bathroom by himself, that’s a big concern. I hope he can gain enough strength to be able to make that happen soon.
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@MarieCoyle (37531)
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5 Oct
If he were to go home before the appeal is processed, wouldn’t that have bearing on the decision? Not sure how it works if someone tries for an appeal and then goes home.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
5 Oct
We are appealing for the unpaid time he spent from May 11 to the present time. I doubt we'll win; but it would be nice to get some of that money back.
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@Beestring (14560)
• Hong Kong
5 Oct
Can you let him know that if he goes home, you can get some health aides to help him. It's much more comfortable at home than in the facility.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
He seems to think he's going to be able to walk on his own before he comes home.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
I've been really patient; but it's really starting to bother me.
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@LadyDuck (471541)
• Switzerland
6 Oct
@LindaOHio - I know they are paid, so it will be hard to have someone he trusts to convince him. May be her second cousin who was a nurse.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
7 Oct
@LadyDuck Big news. The PT guy says that my hubby has come as far as he can.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
I don't know if one of the PT guys would do it. They are getting paid for his physical therapy.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
6 Oct
Exactly. He needs to come home and use the walker.
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@lovebuglena (44537)
• Staten Island, New York
7 Oct
Does he not feel comfortable coming home yet or are they not releasing him for some reason?
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@lovebuglena (44537)
• Staten Island, New York
9 Oct
@LindaOHio It's not a bad thing but it's better if he comes home already even if it means with a walker.
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@LindaOHio (178701)
• United States
7 Oct
He thinks he should walk without a walker before he comes home. That's unreasonable. I might have big news tomorrow. We shall see.
@jnrdutton (3148)
• United States
5 Oct
The waiting for him to come home I know is frustrating, that's only natural. My heart goes out to both of you.
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